I have been retired for less than 2 years, and I have already passed away three of my peers, and I often lament that they have managed to survive until retirement and want to live a relaxed life, but they have not even passed the age of 70. Life is too short to leave eventually, but no one can imagine when they will leave and in what form.
My neighbor Lao Li, who used to be a cadre, was still beautiful when he was in the post two years ago, he was clean and handsome, but he didn't expect to retire for 1 year, and when he saw him again, he had to use a wheelchair, it turned out that he had a sudden cerebral hemorrhage after 1 year of retirement, and he recovered in the hospital for more than half a year before returning home, and now he basically can't speak, and he has become depressed and depressed.
In addition to sighing, the impermanence of the world, I also saw it, woke up, and decided to live according to these 5 points for the rest of my life.
Narrator: Wang Xiye / Finishing: Sunflower / Picture: Internet
01 I think so, the pension problem that everyone has to face.
First of all, when both our wife and ourselves are healthy, we don't want to go to a nursing home, and we don't want to go to our only son's house.
When we were young, in order to make a living, we had to deal with complex interpersonal relationships, and we inevitably bowed our heads and swallowed our anger. Moreover, in nursing homes, we often face the heavy topic of the elderly leaving, we can be happy for the rest of our lives, is it not good to be in our own home?
Besides, if you don't go to your son's house and have your own nest, what do we have to squeeze with young people? People have people's living habits, our habits can't be changed in a lifetime, we have to squeeze together, we have to accommodate each other, people work hard for a day, and we have to accommodate when we come back, why bother? Too close, and it's a disaster after all.
So, as long as my wife and I are physically able, we take care of each other.
Secondly, if we are physically unable to do so, or if one of us leaves first, then hire a part-time worker or nanny. However, after hiring a nanny, we have to install a camera at home, and we have to give the child three chapters of the law, so that he can go home every two days to see us, and he will often watch us on the camera.
In this way, if we really meet a nanny who is not very suitable, the children can see it and go home often, and it will also make the nanny aunt be better to us: you see, other children are so attentive, filial, and attach importance to the elderly, can we not be good to the elderly? They will also have this consciousness in their hearts.
02 If you have a serious illness, you should not be treated or treated conservatively, and if you are not hospitalized, if you have a minor illness, you should not delay it and treat it in time.
I have seen many elderly people around me, after being diagnosed with a serious illness, they went to the hospital and spent a lot of money, and in the end, a lot of people suffered and tossed for a year and a half, and they had to leave. Not to mention the fact that a lot of money has been spent, people have also suffered a lot of sin.
I saw through it, I really got a serious illness, so I chose to find a quiet place, no treatment, or conservative treatment, anyway, it is better to save this money and keep it for my wife or children. If because of us, the tossed family borrows money in order to spend money to sell the house, why bother? After we leave, it will be a great burden to the family, and we will suffer a lot of sins.
If it is a minor illness, then it must not be delayed, actively treated, and not ignored and dragged into a major illness. Moreover, although we are retired, we still have to live a self-disciplined life, such as going to bed early and getting up early, eating lightly, getting up early to go to the park to exercise when we have nothing to do, basking in the sun more, being healthy and healthy, and being responsible for our own wives and children.
03 If the wife leaves first, he will enjoy high-quality solitude, no longer marry, and no longer be a partner.
My wife is our own health, and she is the only one who can accompany us to old age. If my unfortunate wife leaves first, I'll plan to live by myself.
In fact, many people like to be lively, afraid of loneliness, and don't know how to be alone, but let's think about it, people are born alone, and when they go, they must go alone, and each of us is destined to be lonely. So, we have to learn to be alone for the rest of our lives.
Besides, why don't you want to find a wife again? Because no matter whether it is a young person or an old man, when it comes to talking about marriage, it involves the affairs of two families, not two people.
Two old people from different families, the experience is very different, there are too few who can really match the three views, and when they are old, they have to accommodate each other again and tolerate each other. And the two old people have their own children and grandchildren in each other's families, and when they come together, who they kiss and who they are far away from, it is not easy to control this interpersonal relationship, and maybe sometimes a little thing will fall apart.
So, why do we bother to find so many troubles for ourselves? It's good to go with the flow, when you are alone, cultivate a hobby, enrich your life, read more books, study more, and you can live a colorful life alone.
04 From now on, no longer be excessively frugal, but also not extravagant and wasteful, and make yourself happy within your ability.
In the past, in order to save money for the children, I was used to living a hard life, and I was reluctant to do anything. In summer, I am reluctant to turn on the air conditioner, I must buy discounted vegetables for food, and I am reluctant to add a few new clothes all year round.
Now think about it, life is only 30,000 days, how much power do we have left? No one knows, then learn to love yourself and be kind to yourself.
If you have a certain amount of savings in your hand, you can give yourself more good, if you want to eat, drink, and wear, try to satisfy yourself, and when you can go out to travel, you can satisfy yourself, go out and go around, and be happy is the most important thing.
05 After I left, everything was simple.
I told my child that if I left in the future, everything would be as simple as it would be. When we live, we live well, and when people are gone, there is no point in doing anything. Like many forms of environmental protection that are popular now, I will do how to be environmentally friendly.
The above is my feeling in the past few years, do you agree with my idea?