Everyone is lonely, every relationship is short-lived, and what we need most is not companionship, but understanding and understanding.
Some people say that the real relationship between lovers is not about how close the distance is, nor how deep the feelings are, but about mutual understanding and mutual trust in getting along.
In fact, a good lover relationship is to be able to know, understand and trust each other in getting along.
As the poet Wang Guozhen said: "Only sincere treatment between people is the most beautiful emotion in the world; Only tolerance between hearts and hearts is the most beautiful relationship in this world. ”
A truly comfortable lover relationship is nothing more than two words: understanding and trust.
- Reciprocal understanding
The most difficult thing between people is to understand each other and understand each other. Because people are thoughtful, everyone is different, and we can't ask each other to be completely consistent with ourselves, so in the process of getting along, we must learn to understand each other.
Each of us is an independent individual, we all have our own ideas and lifestyles, and if we always want each other to do what we think, it will cause conflicts between two people.
So in the process of getting along, learn to understand each other, instead of always asking each other to do what you think. This will only create contradictions and estrangement between the two people.
- Trust each other
Some people say that trust is a wonderful thing, which can allow two people who are originally strangers to gradually establish a connection.
In real life, the most feared thing between couples is suspicion and suspicion.
For example, if the husband is having an affair outside the home, the wife does not believe the husband's explanation, so she begins to doubt the husband.
In fact, trust is a two-way relationship. Mutual trust between husband and wife can make the relationship deeper.
Trust is the most precious thing between a couple. It can make the relationship between husband and wife more stable and make married life happier.
Because they trust each other, they can unload their defenses; Because they trust each other, they can open their hearts; Because they trust each other, they can face the future together.
- Respect each other
There is a topic on Zhihu: "How to get along with people you don't like?" ”
One of them replied, "I can respect your choices when I don't like you, and I can respect your decisions when you do something wrong." ”
Respect is a moral character that each of us should have.
Especially in love, if you don't respect each other, you will treat each other as an outsider;
Only by learning to respect each other can we reap a happy and long-lasting love.
Husband and wife in marriage are not relatives but are more like relatives.
And the most important thing for relatives to get along with each other is to respect each other.
Only by trusting and understanding each other can we take each other to heart; Only by knowing how to respect each other can we live a better life.
As the saying goes, "Knowing how to respect is the greatest kindness to others".
- Be tolerant of each other
In fact, the most important thing between lovers is to tolerate each other, because they understand and trust, so they will understand each other.
In fact, people get along with each other mutually, and we should have more understanding and tolerance, more respect and consideration in our interactions, so that we can go further.
There was such a story on the Internet:
My friend's father used to work on a construction site and one day he accidentally fell from a height and was seriously injured.
But instead of giving up his job, he continued to work until he was fully recovered.
When a friend asked him why he did it, he said:
"I was trying to earn more money so that I could give my father better treatment."
In fact, this is a manifestation of love.
True love is to make the other person feel their love and understanding for him, and then be willing to pay and sacrifice for the other person.
As psychologist Adler put it:
"The more you give to others, the more they will give you."