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Why do some people say that after a serious illness, you should try to hide it as much as possible, and the fewer people who know, the better? Let me talk about a few real examples around you for your reference, when you go to the hospital or the patient's home to visit the seriously ill patient, you must pay more attention to your speech and behavior, and do not bring a burden to the patient and the patient's family because of your carelessness and negligence, which will go against the original intention of visiting the patient.
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Aunt Li from our village was diagnosed with nasopharyngeal cancer by the hospital in our city, and when her family sent her to the hospital for treatment, the tumor had metastasized. The family told her that her condition was not serious, and the doctor said that it was a benign tumor, and that it would be fine after the cut, as long as she cooperated with the doctor to actively treat it.
Aunt Li has no doubts about her family's words, her mental state is also very good, she is very optimistic, she has been treated for more than a year, when her brothers and sisters went to visit her at their home, she also said to her brothers and sisters: The doctor said that my disease is almost better, and I don't need to go to the hospital for treatment!
When she said this, Aunt Li was very happy, at that time she could cook by herself, she could play mahjong, and she looked like a good person. Unexpectedly, just a few days later, Aunt Li was already lying in bed and couldn't get up, because a talkative neighbor told her: Your illness is not cured, but too serious, and the hospital is unwilling to admit you!
After listening to the truth of this talkative neighbor, Aunt Li's spirit disappeared all of a sudden, and after another month or two, the person left, I really don't know what kind of mentality this neighbor has, I have to talk a lot and tell such a big truth to the patient.
Last summer, Grandma Zhu, who had just passed her 65th birthday in our village, went to the people's hospital in the city accompanied by her wife and was diagnosed with uremia.
This is terrible, those idle villagers suddenly found a topic, one by one incarnated as medical experts, made themselves know very well, and chattered nonsense behind their backs, saying that Grandma Zhu's disease could not be cured, and it would cost tens of thousands of dollars a month to continue her life, and she would have to lie on the bed and wait for someone to serve. After Grandma Zhu heard these words, early the next morning, she changed her clothes, locked her wife at home, went to her own paddy field alone, and drowned herself!
The most uncomfortable thing is that Grandma Zhu's children learned that their mother was suffering from uremia, and they had just asked for leave from the factory, and they were still on their way home, and they didn't even see their mother for the last time. No one thought that such shallow water could drown a person, and Grandma Zhu could overcome her instinctive reaction to death, but she couldn't overcome the fear of spending money to treat the disease. In this world, except for parents and children, no one will really want you to live well.
After the family takes the patient to the hospital to see the patient, the family will tell the patient like this: It's okay, it's okay, the doctor said that it is a small problem, and it needs to be raised slowly, and it is not easy to get better in a short time, you just take care of it, don't worry!
After listening to the words of the family, the patient may feel that his illness is not so simple, it should not be a small problem, it feels like a major illness, but everyone said that it is okay, and the doctor also said that let it be taken care of, it may be a disease that is not easy to get better, so take care of it first!
The neighbors talked about the patient's illness behind their backs, and they shook their heads and sighed one by one: Eh~~~ Yo, how old is the person this year, why did he get this life-threatening disease? It's really a pity, this will definitely not live long, whether it can live until the end of the year is still a question, alas, whoever meets it can't escape, this must be hopeless!
To give you a more exaggerated, more than 20 years ago, our family had a distant relative who was diagnosed with terminal cancer by the hospital, after getting the exact news, the distant relative collapsed instantly, when his friends went to visit him in the hospital, they found that he had lost a lot of weight, and his mental state was extremely poor, either in a daze, or stupidly out of his mind, and he just had to put the words "life soon" on the door of his head!
After this relative was treated in the hospital for a period of time, suddenly one day, the attending doctor held his hand and apologized to him repeatedly, saying that it was his own negligence, and the relative's disease was misdiagnosed, but in fact, there was nothing wrong with his body!
The relative couldn't believe it at first, grabbed the doctor's hand, and asked if what the doctor said was true. It wasn't until the doctor repeatedly told him that it was really a misdiagnosis, and the relatives instantly jumped up from the bed, became refreshed, and immediately asked his family to go out to buy his favorite braised hoof, and after eating and drinking, he immediately asked his family to take him to the hospital for discharge procedures, and he was not willing to stay in the ward for a minute, and after returning home, his body quickly returned to normal.
Many years ago, Grandpa Liu in the village was diagnosed with cancer (I can't remember what cancer it was, I was still young at that time), and in that era of talking about cancer discoloration, Grandpa Liu himself did not know that he was a cancer patient, and everyone in the family hid it from him. When Grandpa Liu has nothing to do, he goes to the market town alone, the market town is a little far from their house, it takes 1 hour to walk, Grandpa Liu sometimes goes to the health center in the market town to hang salt water, he himself also feels much better, his mental state is also very good, he can eat two small bowls of rice per meal.
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Until one day, Grandpa Liu walked to the market town for infusion, and his second daughter-in-law was distressed about the money, so she directly said to her father-in-law: "Dad, you have cancer, you can't get better!" Grandpa Liu was paralyzed on the ground by the words of his second daughter-in-law at that time, and he couldn't walk, and then he was carried back by someone from the village, and it didn't take long for Grandpa Liu to pass away. There was a precedent in the village next door to us, after the patient suffered from cancer, due to his good mentality and good state, he slowly recovered, after Grandpa Liu died, all the people in the family complained about the second daughter-in-law, blaming her for talking too much, and later, Grandpa Liu's second son chose to divorce his daughter-in-law.
Let me tell you a real story that happened around me, Uncle Zhang in our village suffered from hepatitis B in the early 90s, and was a little Sanyang when he was first diagnosed. Most of Uncle Zhang's farm work is done by Aunt Zhang, who has more than 200 hemp ducks at home, and Uncle Zhang releases ducks every day to increase family income by selling duck eggs, so their family's life has been tight.
With the passage of time, Uncle Zhang's family finally came out slowly, their son graduated from college and was assigned to a public institution in our city, and his daughter-in-law is a middle school teacher and a college diploma. Seeing that Uncle Zhang's family's economic conditions are getting better and better, and they are no longer as tight as before, Uncle Zhang's son has repeatedly persuaded them not to raise ducks or farm land, and to go to the city to live with them.
Uncle Zhang is very self-conscious, knowing that he has hepatitis B, which is not good for his son's family, especially afraid of infecting his precious grandson, plus how can people in the city be at ease in the countryside? So I never went to my son's house in the city, and continued to live in the countryside with Aunt Zhang.
Later, for a period of time, Uncle Zhang always felt a dull pain in his abdomen, and at first he didn't take it to heart, thinking it was gastritis, so he went to the village health center to prescribe some medicine to treat stomach pain. After Uncle Zhang took the medicine, he felt that the pain had been reduced, and he continued to release his ducks every day.
It wasn't until later that Uncle Zhang's "stomach pain" became more and more frequent, and no matter how much stomach pain medicine he took, it didn't work, so he called his son and told him about his situation. After the pathological test results came out, the doctor told Uncle Zhang's son that because the old man did not come to the hospital regularly to check his liver function, he was no longer as simple as hepatitis B, but liver cancer! What's worse than this is that the location of the tumor is not very good, close to the artery and lungs, the risk of surgery is too great, if the operation, the patient may not be able to get off the operating table, it is recommended to use drugs to control for a period of time, conservative treatment.
Although Uncle Zhang's son was sad, there was nothing better to do, so he had to follow the doctor's arrangement and stabilize his father's condition first. For this reason, Uncle Zhang's son communicated with the doctor and decided to hide it from Uncle Zhang for the time being, so as not to let him know the truth, in case the old man was frightened by cancer, which caused too much burden on his heart and affected the follow-up treatment.
After coming out of the doctor's office, Uncle Zhang's son told his father that the doctor said that he still had an old liver problem, and the doctor said that he should take the medicine for a period of time first, and just come to the hospital for regular check-ups, and there was no big problem. Uncle Zhang knew that his liver was sick, so he didn't doubt his son's words at all, and took the medicine on time and on time.
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After a period of time, Uncle Zhang, accompanied by his son, went to the hospital in the city again for a follow-up, and the attending doctor told his son that the lesion was well controlled, and the condition did not worsen, and then continued to consolidate the treatment for a period of time, and then consider cutting out the tumor if conditions allow it in the future. Uncle Zhang, who had no idea about his illness, followed the doctor's instructions after going back, continued to take medicine on time, released the ducks he raised, had a very regular schedule and rested, and lived a leisurely life.
Until one day, when Uncle Zhang was herding ducks, he met Aunt Zhang's cousin-in-law, who was a well-known long-tongued woman, who was particularly annoying. She first asked Uncle Zhang how was his health? Uncle Zhang told her nonchalantly that he was sick, hepatitis was just a big problem, not a big problem!
The sister-in-law looked surprised and asked Uncle Zhang: Liver cancer is such a serious disease, you actually say it's not a big deal? You don't know what disease you have, do you?
Uncle Zhang hesitated a little: Isn't it hepatitis? It's been so many years, what's all the fuss about?
If you are a person with a slightly more normal brain, you will definitely not talk about Uncle Zhang's disease, but this cousin-in-law can't figure it out, so she has to explain it to Uncle Zhang: You have liver cancer, and the doctors said that you can't operate on it, you can only take medicine to control it, your son must be afraid that you won't be able to accept it, so he didn't tell you the truth, but now looking at your body, you really don't look like a cancer patient.
After Aunt Zhang's sister-in-law said this, Uncle Zhang instantly felt bad, the Venus in front of him was wild, and he couldn't stand steadily, and his sister-in-law knew that she had caused a big accident with her mouth, so she quickly found an excuse to run away.
Since Uncle Zhang knew that he had cancer and couldn't have surgery, his whole person collapsed all of a sudden, nothing was right, he was discouraged all day long, he felt that his time was running out, and he took the medicine when he thought about it, and he didn't take it if he couldn't remember it, compared with the past, it was like two people!
Not long after, when Uncle Zhang's son took him to the hospital for a follow-up examination, the tumor in the liver had obviously enlarged a lot, and the abdomen, which had not felt pain for a long time, began to hurt again, and it was much more intense than before. When Uncle Zhang was sent to the hospital by his family for treatment, his original attending doctor was so angry that he just wanted to curse after learning the truth. Uncle Zhang's condition was originally well controlled, but because of his cousin-in-law's many mouths and tongues, after knowing his true condition, due to his poor mental capacity, he was pessimistic and desperate, and it didn't take long for his condition to deteriorate rapidly, and he passed away in less than half a year.
Aunt Zhang knew that her cousin-in-law was talking too much, and after killing her husband, she ran to her cousin-in-law's house, and scolded her all the time, and her cousin-in-law, who knew that she was at a loss, didn't dare to reply a word! When Uncle Zhang died, Aunt Zhang did not allow her sister-in-law to come to mourn, and until now she still hates her sister-in-law to the core, treating her as an enemy who does not share the sky!
Written in the back: There are too many idlers in the countryside, there are many people, there are many mouths, there is nothing to do, some people like to play with right and wrong, and they can't see others, some people have one set in front of them, one set on the back, you don't know what kind of heart they have? Of course, I don't deny that some people have good intentions and really just care about patients, but because of the lack of consideration in words and deeds, they invisibly increase the burden on the patient's heart, and some people just inquire about the news in the name of caring about you, and they may not be able to gloat behind it!
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So I especially agree, after you have a serious illness, try to hide it, the fewer people who know, the better, not only have a serious illness to hide, but also suffer and fall, don't tell others casually, why? The society we live in has always been the law of the jungle, if you have no money, no status and no ability, others will despise you, and even pit you, cheat you, and rob you. If you have money, status, and ability, there will naturally be many people who will come to curry favor with you.
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