No matter how old you are, no matter how good your husband and wife are, you must keep three eyes, not distrust, but wisdom
It is often said that there are no secrets between husband and wife. Reality tells us that no matter how good the relationship between husband and wife is, don't say something as time goes by, not because you deliberately hide something, but if you don't say it, it's good for everyone, and don't ask about each other's past. As the saying goes: no one's heart has been broken, no one wants to mention the sad past, and no one wants to uncover the scars that have been healed so hard. So don't say it, don't ask it, lest it become a lingering shadow in the other person's heart, hinder the development of the relationship, and become an obstacle to happiness. No matter how good the relationship between husband and wife is, no matter how deep the relationship is, how long will these three hearts and minds be, not distrust each other, but wisdom.
First, grow an extra eye and keep your bottom line
The longest-lasting and happiest couple is not unprincipled and unreserved, but only say what should be said, and don't say what should not be said, even if it is rotten in the stomach, this is their own bottom line and a secret that only belongs to them. Especially some details in those past misguided loves, you can't tell them, no matter how the other party asks, don't say them.
The elders often tell us that the person who loves you will respect your choice, will understand the pain in your heart, will not let you choose some principled things, will not force you to do what you are not willing to do, what you are not willing to say, just like you love him, understand him, respect him, and tolerate him.
As for other things, such as: things after marriage, things in front of you, no matter how big or small, you should choose to trust, don't conceal, don't perfunctory, don't deceive, don't let the other party be suspicious, explain if there is a misunderstanding, correct a fault, repair a rift, and back down if there is a disagreement.
The ancients said: Giving in is not to be afraid, nor to lose, but to cherish.
Only cherished feelings can last long; Only couples who understand each other, respect each other, and care for each other can last for a long time and become more intimate and harmonious. It's not about turning over the hole cards of the past, it's not about revealing the old bottoms of the past. How long is this heart eye "yes".
Second, have an extra heart and give care and love to the other party when they need it
Marriage is one's own, and if you manage your own marriage well, you will have happiness. This kind of happiness is not that the other party takes you in his mouth and holds it in the palm of his hand, but just like you, the care and love for him is just right, pretend not to see some of his small mistakes, and don't try to change some small things that he is used to.
Because, everyone has everyone's habits, everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, ignore each other's shortcomings, think more about each other's advantages, in order to manage the emotions you want.
Always believe that no matter how capable a person is, there are things that cannot be done, no matter how smart a person is, there are times when he is confused, and no matter how perfect the jade is, there are flaws.
That is to say: there is no perfection in the world, the same is true for lovers, the same is true for marriage, and the same is true for other things, only by tolerating and cherishing, your marriage, your family, and your happiness can continue in your generous mind.
Grow an eye and give your care and love to the other party when they need it; Look at each other's strengths and advantages, ignore each other's faults and shortcomings, and accommodate each other's everything with a generous heart, your feelings and your relationship will become more and more harmonious.
Third, no matter how close the relationship between husband and wife is, no matter how harmonious the relationship is, there must be a sense of proportion.
The ancients said that each person is an independent individual, and no matter how intimate the husband and wife are, they are also composed of two independent individuals intertwined, with their own thinking, temperament and hobbies. I can't do everything and fit it all.
Since we can't do it, we have to have a sense of proportion and have our own independent space, so that we can advance and retreat, be comfortable, understand, support, tolerate, accommodate and respect in some things that cannot be run in.
As some people say, the relationship between teeth and tongue is so good, so intimate and harmonious, and there are times when there are bumps, not to mention two people with independent thoughts and ideas!
Therefore, no matter how good the relationship between husband and wife is, they must have an extra heart eye in order to maintain a proper sense of proportion and release their love in their respective spaces.
In short, no matter how old you are, no matter how good your husband and wife relationship is, how long these three hearts and eyes have are not distrustful, but a kind of wisdom.
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