Text: Jing Ma
Parents are not far away!
This is a famous saying in the agricultural era, because there was no pension at that time, and the old man did not have the strength to do farm work when he was old, so he could only rely on his son to do farm work, which could be exchanged for food and let himself have a bite to eat. #头条创作挑战赛#
But today, many elderly people because of their pensions, do not need to rely on their children and live a very nourishing life, when they are in good health, they can travel with the elderly group, and after their health slowly deteriorates, they can consider going to a nursing home or hiring a nanny.
After all, young people also have their own lives and their own jobs, so raising children and preventing old age has become a thing of the past.
Of course, most of the old people have money can only solve the difficulties in life, but psychologically they still hope that their children can always accompany themselves, and now there are many young people who leave home and go out on their own, and find that the outside world is indeed very exciting, but it is also full of traps, and the outside world is also very difficult.
Especially after getting married and having children, they find that they are in a hurry, and it takes a lot of money and energy to raise children, at this time many young people remember, simply move back to their parents' house, after all, back to their parents' house, the elderly parents can see their grandchildren every day, and they are also very happy, so young people move back to their parents' house in the name of filial piety.
When they return to their parents' house, the children's food, drink and Lazar will be in the hands of the elderly, and the young people will have time to go out to socialize by themselves, and they will have time to go out to play by themselves, and the old people can also gain a lot of happiness in the process of accompanying their grandchildren to grow up, which is a very good thing.
After all, young people do consider that the elderly are old and lonely, and they can be more lively when they come back to live with their children, which is called "companionship pension", and young people also feel that they are very filial to do so, but the elderly are miserable.
Some time ago, I saw a 75-year-old aunt on the Internet who said that she could have retired and could have lived a long life, went out to dance square dances, and occasionally traveled with her sisters, but the son said that the house he lived in was a little far away from the unit, and the child had no one to pick up and go to kindergarten, so he moved back to live with the elderly.
Although the place is suitable for living, after her grandson moved back, her life was really a mess, which affected her normal schedule. She usually goes to the park in the morning and doesn't come back until at least 9 o'clock, but now she has to send her children, and the park can't go, or she can only go for a walk, so she has to come back to see the children.
Usually they cook at noon and eat a little casually in the evening, but now that their son and daughter-in-law are back, they can't do it casually, so they can only eat a little more casually at noon, and they have to do some at night.
At the same time, it also made her life difficult, she used to travel when she had money, but now her son is back, and her grandson's tuition has to be paid, and sometimes she has no money and says: Mom, you can help me give it, I am a little difficult financially during this time, the salary has not been paid or the bonus is a little small, the old man has helped his grandson to pay the tuition, and the son forgot about it when he paid his salary.
This aunt is also embarrassed to ask her son and daughter-in-law, and the grandson usually eats and drinks at home, and the old man pays for it himself, and the pension of the old man is not much, plus the burden of a family of three causes life to become difficult.
In the past, when my son didn't come, I could buy whatever I wanted, but now after my son came, the economy became tight.
We said that in the past, the normal distress was that young people did not go to work and did not work, and gnawed at their parents at home every day, but now young people also go to work, but he spends all the money he earns from work, and thinking that his grandson can accompany the elderly, he naturally moves to live in the old man's house, which is actually a kind of gnawing on the elderly.
And this may also disrupt the original life of the old man, and he will revolve around his grandson.
Although we see that some elderly people have high pensions, most of the elderly pensions are actually to meet their daily life, which is only enough for their old couple to live, and occasionally save a little money to travel.
For young people, it is much easier to go back to their parents' house to live, they don't have to rush back to pick up their children after work, they don't have to cook their own meals when they go home, and they don't even have to wash their own dishes.
As everyone knows, this kind of excitement is a burden for the elderly.
So in this era, it is recommended that the old man and the young live separately, not only for the young, but also for the elderly, because the old man has his own life, likes quiet, likes a regular life, and the old man's pension should be at his disposal, what do you think?
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