Parents love their children and are happy only for themselves.
The vast majority of Chinese parents are like this, they never reflect on themselves when they encounter problems, and if they can't say it, they know that if they say that I am your parents, you have to listen to me.
You reason with them, they reason with you, you reason with them, they talk to you about morality, you talk to them about morality, they talk to you about reason.
To put it mildly, from a physiological point of view, their kindness is that they gave birth to you one night without anything to do, and then they say as if they love you so much that they know in advance how you are born.
To put it more ugly, he forcibly brought him into this world without the consent of the child, and the unbearable bitter birth child was distributed to the child.
In the eyes of many Chinese parents, as long as they provide food and clothing for their children, it is simply incomparably great, as for the mental destruction is not worth mentioning at all, in their eyes, the child has any psychological and spiritual problems, it is all hypocrisy, just beat it, if it is not good, hit it again, until it is good!
The biggest harm that Chinese parents do to their children is to make you subconsciously think that you owe them forever, and to give birth to and raise you is their kindness to you, and this kindness can never be repaid, and the children will never have an equal relationship with them in terms of personality, and will always be inferior to them!
They know how to stand on a high point and accuse, and they never know empathy. The way of thinking and behavior is still stuck in the old era, the times are advancing, but they are still complacent, self-righteous, plus self-centered, very selfish, under the banner of loving you, in fact, anything that makes her a little uncomfortable, will explode emotions, kidnap you unfilial piety, and refuse to admit that you are not at fault.
The more unqualified and the parents who are controlled by domestic violence, the more they like PUA filial piety, because he has no real love, giving birth to children is to satisfy power, and to achieve random beating and scolding, having a punching bag, and can also satisfy the shameless desire to ask for filial piety.
Internally consume themselves, but also internally consume others, their values, worldview, and concept of time will really make young people collapse, relief is the only answer, you can't change them, choose to leave the right solution!
Love is mutual, parents love their children, children love their parents, unilaterally asking children is not love at all!