Author: Wen Qiusheng
Original article, plagiarism must be investigated
01. Introduction
Love is like the moon in water. It looks very close to you, but as soon as you stretch out your hand, this beauty becomes shattered.
When love falls in real life, it often becomes no longer lustrous, and it is easy to be impregnated by life beyond recognition.
The relationship between men and women is becoming weaker and weaker, and they cannot withstand any blows. The once resounding oath has now turned into a sneer in retrospect.
Between husband and wife, the following "symptoms" appear, indicating that each other is a "partner couple".
02. There is no intimacy, each with its own room
Meng Yunqing in "Fireworks People" fell in love with Tao Dalei when she was young.
Ignoring her mother's opposition, she stole the household registration book and registered her marriage with Tao Dalei.
But after a year or two, she saw through the essence of her husband. I can't count on him for anything, so I gradually give up on him.
In front of her daughter, Meng Yunqing also tried her best to maintain the harmony between the husband and wife. After her daughter left home, she moved to her daughter's room, and the two began to sleep in separate rooms.
She doesn't care what Tao Dalei is doing outside every day, and Tao Dalei will only take the initiative to please her when he needs money.
The two people who originally loved vigorously have now become a couple, and her heart is full of helplessness and pain.
I found a phenomenon: couples who live together have no sense of intimacy, and they have long been separated from each other.
Two people, although they live in the same home, each has their own room. They don't care about each other in life, and they don't have any concern and communication.
There is no intimacy, no physical contact, and no spiritual communication between husband and wife, indicating that they have reached the point where they have reached the point of living together.
This marriage has long been crumbling. Any wind and rain may completely destroy this home.
03. Money is not used together, and each has a deposit
Couples who truly love each other bear difficulties together, enjoy blessings together, and their hearts always rely on each other.
Yishu said: "Why do people want to get married, it's not because life is not easy, you need to find someone to help you in the same boat." ”
If each other's money is not used together, and they both have their own savings, it can only mean that neither of them regards each other as their other half.
When encountering pressure and difficulties, I am used to carrying it alone. I never thought of facing him with him, and I never regarded him as a support in life.
And when he encounters a crisis and needs help, he can also stay out of the situation very calmly and is unwilling to lend a hand.
Two people have their own lives, whether it is a blessing or a curse, they are also facing each other.
Deep down, you may even feel that money can give you more security than your partner.
Although they have the name of marriage, they do not support each other and share each other's burdens, they just live together.
04. Often quarrel and don't want to pay more for each other
I know a man named Takahiko who met his wife through a blind date.
Without getting to know each other too much, they rushed into marriage. I advised him to learn more before getting married.
But he said that when the age comes, it is enough to be suitable.
After they got married, the contradictions became more and more apparent, especially after having children, and there was simply not a day of peace at home.
His wife always accused him of not being meticulous and considerate enough, thinking that he was incapable and had no money to hire a nanny to take care of the children, and said at every turn that he was blind and married him.
Gao Yan worked all day, and when he went home, he had to listen to his wife's complaints and scolding, and he was depressed. He often made excuses to come back late and avoid meeting his wife.
Once, Gao Yan twisted his ankle and had many inconveniences in his life, but his wife was unwilling to take care of him, ignored his requests, and completely treated him as a stranger.
Gao Yan often sighed to me that he knew that he would come to the point of being a couple, and it was better not to get married.
Couples have lost their feelings in getting along, and only selfishness and indifference remain.
Husbands and wives are overly calculating, and their lives are full of quarrels and cold wars, and neither of them obeys the other, which will also lay hidden dangers for the breakdown of each other's feelings.
Never willing to pay more for each other, always weighing their own gains and losses, the marriage will become fragile.
At home, there is no warm picture, no uncomplaining and unrepentant giving, just endless quarrels and calculations.
05, Wen Qiusheng's message
Whether there is affection between husband and wife will be reflected in life.
Couples who live together have no intimacy with each other, are unwilling to share weal and worn, and always exclude each other from their own world.
will always quarrel over all kinds of trivial things, and refuse to give even the slightest bit for his partner.
Such a marriage seems to be complete, but it is already dilapidated inside, and any external force can destroy it.
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About the author: Wen Qiusheng, make a living from words. Autumn wind and rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.