For more than a month, readers often ask me in the background, you have been retired for half a year, do you feel happy?
I think that readers who ask such questions may be facing retirement and are planning their own retirement life, and I would like to refer to other people's lifestyles.
My answer is: very happy.
The other party asked: What is the happiness method?
What is the method of happiness? I began to think about the feeling that I have the freedom to do or not to do what I want to do compared to going to work, and this feeling of freedom is really happy.
Isn't this kind of freedom what people pursue all their lives?
Although after retirement, the young face is no longer there, but compared to the beautiful face, a person living a beautiful life is fundamental.
There is no internal friction, calm, quiet and calm, which may be a state that can only be achieved after retirement.
After I retired, I learned two ways to please myself.
01: Everything starts with your own feelings
A few years before I retired, I began to plan my life after retirement, and slowly approached the life I liked.
For example, I started to get in touch with self-media, tried to write, read some psychology books, and became stricter about my daily fitness.
No longer participate in some boring dinners in order to save other people's face; No longer make others happy, let yourself be compromised, and start to stay away from people and things that consume you.
I no longer pay attention to how other people live, who changes to a big house, who buys a brand-name bag, it doesn't matter to me.
Instead, focus on yourself and ask yourself: What kind of life do I want? What do I need?
As I did this, I became more and more clear about what I wanted to live in life, and I understood my strengths and weaknesses, and what life I needed most.
In positive psychology, play to your strengths and don't compete with your shortcomings.
After I retired, I always adhered to the philosophy of everything I did: everything is based on my own feelings.
resolutely abandon the things you don't like; Try to stay away from people you don't like; Discard items you don't like.
Get close to the people you like, do the things you like, see the scenery you like, and live the life you want.
When I do this, I not only gain peace and happiness in my heart, but also become more uplifting.
02: Do more altruistic things
I believe that doing more altruistic things is the foundation of happiness.
The happiness that people get from giving is far greater than the happiness they get from reaping.
Such a view comes from the mother's words and deeds.
My mother is 84 years old and has a group of long-term dance partners of her own, and my mother is the oldest of them.
For more than ten years, the music that is usually played in the dance team is downloaded by my mother on the Internet, and my mother names the music one by one after downloading, copies it to a USB flash drive, and then brings it to everyone.
Her mother didn't know how to download songs, and when her brother taught her, she would memorize each step in a notebook and practice it herself, and then she learned it.
For so many years, my mother has been paying for everyone for a long time, and she has gained respect from her dance partners, everyone respects her, and whoever has any conflicts with whom comes to her mother for mediation.
The mother in her eighties, with a quick mental response and good physical and mental condition, is the envy of many people around her.
Under the influence of my mother, I also tried to learn to be an altruistic person.
In the past two days, I have set up a [Retiree Writing Exchange Group], and the participants are all retirees who want to learn to write. In just two days, there were more than 100 people in the group.
Friends of the same age and interest are together, help each other, and exchange experiences. I will also take the time to share my experience of doing self-media in the group.
All this makes me feel full of happiness.
When a person is giving, he is actually reaping.
The sense of value and fulfillment gained from giving is something that cannot be replaced by anything else, it is more meaningful and lasts longer.
Now, half a year after I retired, I continue to write every day, and I have gained the love of many fans, which is very precious to me.
When someone asks me, how can I live happily in retirement?
My answer is: play to your strengths, be yourself, be yourself, make yourself a happy person, and at the same time, bring this happiness to more people.
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