"One day your mother is gone, what are you going to do?"
When I learned that my mother had terminal cancer
He Zishen is 10 years old
"I Won't Live Anymore"
It was the answer he gave to his mother at the time
In the "bucket list" video of her mother Deng Jing
She laughs loudly and lives wonderfully
"I'm going to leave something for my kids"
Walk into this small home in Zunyi, Guizhou
What we wanted to know was
A mother with terminal cancer
What exactly do you want to leave behind?
I found out when I arrived
We didn't think about it
How does a child deal with this?
CCTV News "Theory of Relativity" Zhuang Shengchun said
"It's also my first time
Do interviews like this."
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Life is suddenly marked with an expiration date, how can life continue?
Even adults are difficult to answer for a while.
"I really cried the day I learned about the cancer, from 4 a.m. to 7 a.m. Splashing and crying. He Zhe also cried, he hid in the toilet and cried, not letting me see it. I think what should I do with my child, what should He Zishen do? ”
Last year, 36-year-old Deng Jing was diagnosed with advanced breast cancer, which had metastasized to her lungs. In order to take care of her, her husband He Zhe's work could not continue, and life seemed to be only one thing left "how to let his wife live". "All I was looking at on the internet was the treatment plan, and as a result, I was pushed a lot of videos of cancer patients, each of which was 'I was so uncomfortable with the medicine today' and 'How could my life be like this'...... I'm binge-watching game videos, and I don't want it to be pushed to me anymore. ”
After six rounds of chemotherapy, mastectomy and 25 radiotherapy, Deng Jing's right armpit was hollowed out, and she was unable to carry heavy objects or pick up her son. "After the lung turned, I secretly checked to see how long I would live. As a result, oh my god, three to six months! It could be a year at most! Why am I still lying down? ”
After the collapse, Deng Jing wanted to change her life. Since January this year, with the help of her friend's son, she has started filming the "Bucket List" series of videos. She climbs mountains, watches the sea, learns street dance, walks into the public bath alone, and ignores the eyes of others; She spoofed her husband, took beautiful photos with her family, and laughed out loud......
In ten days, it has risen by 100,000 fans. Doubts also arise: Is this really terminal cancer? Is it for the sake of traffic? Deng Jing, "does not conform to the public's inherent impression of terminal cancer patients".
"I'm like this, I only have that little time, and I still care what others say about me!" If it was Deng Jing before she was sick, she would have to go back. But now, she won't.
Many people privately messaged Deng Jing that their parents passed away due to cancer, and they chose to hide from their children in the last days of their lives, and they did not leave too many video materials.
What Deng Jing wants to leave for her son, in addition to images, in addition to accompanying memories, and the appearance of her mother's efforts-
"Even if I am not there in the future, I will be with him. He saw that when his mother was sick, she could work and live so hard. If he encounters difficulties in the future, he will definitely not think that it is too big a thing, and he can pass it. ”
"Look, here's a picture of my mom." When we first met He Zishen, he pulled us to look at this photo with low pixels. This is a picture he took with his phone watch, and his mother is holding his younger brother edamame. "At that time, my mother was not sick yet, and I was only 9 years old."
△ My mother just arrived home from Beijing for a puncture examination, and He Zishen chased after him to inquire about the results
This year, he is only 11 years old. Like most children of the same age, he is playful and noisy, and his homework makes his parents "angry". Deng Jing and He Zhe described him as "not coming" - to the age of understanding but not understanding.
"Do you know what the hell is going on with your mother?"
"Yes, people will die."
There was a serious conversation between father and son about his mother's condition. Everyone around him is saying, "Your mother is sick now, if you make her angry, your mother will be bad", He Zishen has different pressure from adults.
The change in the son's attitude towards his mother's video shooting occurred after the first "bucket list" was launched. Deng Jing received a large number of private messages from netizens, some of whom were sick and some of whom had passed away. Deng Jing read it to He Zishen one by one, "I said look, this person has power because of his mother's video, and he also has hope for life, this is the meaning of me doing this." ”
He Zishen received a call from a classmate at 6 o'clock in the morning: "I have swiped your mother's video!" Your mother is so brave! There was even a "die-hard fan" of his mother among his classmates, asking He Zishen to arrange a meeting. That time, He Zishen was "old and proud", but he didn't show it, because "Mom just finished taking medicine that day, and she wasn't very comfortable." ”
Deng Jing's previous targeted drugs were within the scope of medical insurance, but unfortunately they were all drug resistant. The DS-8201 is the last hope. At the end of last year, DS-8201 participated in the national health insurance negotiations, but the negotiations were not successful, and it failed to enter the national health insurance. Now, Deng Jing has to be injected every 21 days, and the cost is more than 30,000 yuan each time. It's like a mountain that weighs on everyone's heart in the family. "Give He Zishen a few dollars for breakfast, and I will shout, 'Can you not eat out'. It is said that it is unhealthy, but it is also because there is no money. ”
△ Who would have thought that this sentence came from the mouth of an 11-year-old child
Now, shoot videos, shoot ads...... If he can make his mother happy, if he can continue the time that his mother accompanies him, He Zishen will take it seriously.
△ He Zishen participated in the mother's video shooting and fulfilled his mother's wish: to eat a meal cooked by a child
"What's on your mind the most every day right now?" Reporter Zhuang Shengchun asked He Zishen.
"Mommy needs to get better soon." At the age of 11, he will no longer say "I don't live anymore", because "Mom said that edamame is still so young, and I will continue to carry edamame." “
He Zishen always has this image in his mind: "We are sitting in the car, I sandwich the edamame in the middle, my parents are sitting in the front, and we go out to play together." ”
At the age of 11, he still loves to plunge into his mother's arms and be coquettish, "Mom, you have to wait for me to grow up!" ”
Producer|Li Zhe
Producer|Zhuang Shengchun Wang Jie
Reporter |
Editor-in-chief|Wang Jie, Shang Xiaoyu, Zhang Zongyao
Choreographer|Meng Keyan, Shan Chuyu, Wang Hongchun, Yang Jier, Gou Shunting
Filming|Zhang Zongyao, Xiao Leilei, Feng Yiyao
Video|Feng Yiyao, Xia Xiaojun
Vision|Yu Jiang
Co-ordination|Kikata
Technology|Xia Wen
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