From silence to initiative: I learned to be brave and expressive
My name is Lin Chen, and I grew up in a warm but slightly reserved family. His father was a taciturn but hard-working engineer, and his mother was a thoughtful but hard-talking housewife. Growing up in such an environment, I naturally learned to hide my emotions and thoughts, always habitually keeping silent.
When I was a child, I used to silently observe other classmates in the corner of the school, laughing, making noise, and discussing various topics, while I watched them silently like a bystander. I envy their bravery and self-confidence, but I am afraid that my words will break this harmony, so I have always chosen to remain silent.
After entering the university, I encountered more challenges. In a group project, I was responsible for an important part, but I didn't express my ideas and progress to my team members in a timely manner. As a result, we had serious problems due to a lack of communication and coordination during the project presentation. At that moment, I was deeply aware of my problem - I was not good at expressing myself.
I began to reflect on myself, why do I always choose to be silent? Is it because I'm afraid of rejection? Or is it because I'm afraid of being ridiculed? I realized that my silence not only made me miss out on a lot of opportunities, but also made me seem passive and powerless in my relationships. I decided to change myself and learn to express myself.
I started reading books about communication and expression and learning how to communicate better with others. I participated in the school's speech contest and debate tournament to hone my eloquence and presentation skills. I took the initiative to communicate with my classmates and teachers to share my thoughts and opinions. I found that when I took the initiative to express myself, they did not ridicule or deny me, but gave me more support and encouragement.
At work, I also began to take the initiative to express my ideas and suggestions. I am no longer afraid of being rejected by my boss or colleagues, but I am brave enough to express my views and opinions. I actively participate in team discussions and come up with my own suggestions and solutions. I've found that when I take the initiative, I better understand the needs and goals of the team and am better able to contribute.
However, it was an emotional experience that really made me realize the importance of active expression. I met a girl, her name is Yu Ting, she is a lively and cheerful person, who is good at expressing herself. We met at a friend's gathering, and she took the initiative to communicate with me and share her life and thoughts. I was so impressed by her sincerity and enthusiasm that I began to try to share my inner world with her.
However, I still find it difficult to fully open up. I was always worried that my words would make her feel bored or bored, and I was afraid that my emotions would burden her. So, I always choose to be silent at critical moments, responding to her words with a smile and a nod.
Gradually, I noticed that Yuting began to become a little disappointed and confused. She asked me, "Lin Chen, why are you always so silent?" Do you have something on your mind? I shook my head, not sure how to answer. I knew my silence was bothering and disturbing her, but I didn't know how to change it.
Until one day, we went to a movie together. After the movie, Yuting suddenly asked me: "Lin Chen, what do you think of this movie?" I hesitated for a moment, then plucked up the courage to say, "I think this movie is very touching, it made me think a lot." I also realized that I was always too passive and silent in my relationship, which bothered you. But I'm really trying to change, and I want to be more courageous in expressing my thoughts and emotions. ”
Yu Ting listened to my words, and a trace of surprise and emotion flashed in her eyes. She held my hand and said, "Lin Chen, I'm glad to hear you say that. I've always felt like you're a nice person, but your silence always makes me feel like you're a little distant. Now I know you're trying to change yourself, and I'm really happy. I believe that the relationship between us will get better and better. ”
At that moment, I felt more relaxed and relieved than I had ever been. I know that I have taken the first step to express myself bravely, and I have also found the courage to move forward with Yuting.
Since then, I have started to communicate with Yuting more actively and share my life and thoughts. We go on trips, go to the movies, go shopping, and eat together...... Every time I get along, I feel extremely happy and satisfied. I also began to take the initiative to express my concern and love for her, so that she could feel my sincerity and enthusiasm.
Looking back now, I'm really glad I learned to be expressive. Not only does it make me more confident and successful at work, but it also makes me happier and more satisfied in my relationship. I know I still have a lot to improve, but I will continue to work hard to learn and grow to become better and better.