"The woman asked the man to pay on her behalf thousands of times, forced him to ask for red envelopes and transfer money, and Ah Ming delayed and refused slightly, and then he used all kinds of swear words and insults, day after day. spent 330,000 yuan in 3 years, and only met the woman 5 times. ”
On May 8, Zheng Xuezhi, a lawyer entrusted by Wuhan guy Ah Ming and a lawyer from Beijing Yingke (Wuhan) Law Firm, told reporters about a "suffocating" love.
Unfulfilled wishes, the woman sends abusive messages. (Screenshot of chat)
The chat records of the two parties show that the woman initially hinted that Ah Ming would pay for her shopping, and then designated the purchase of goods every day, forcibly asked for red envelopes and transfers, and forced her to use language such as "waste" and "Are you a dead man". Ah Ming tried to refute, but was "brainwashed" by the woman with "break up if you are not satisfied", "you are so poor", "society is realistic, you are not working hard enough" and so on.
Asking for special amounts of red envelopes such as 13920, 3344, 1314, and 520, the woman requires that the information on the theme of love must be remarked. Zheng Xuezhi said that this was a deliberate attempt to create traces of "voluntary gifts", "After we sued, the judge found that these transfers were also unjust enrichment." The judgment required her to return more than 270,000 yuan. ”
At present, due to Ah Fang's delay in executing the judgment, Ah Ming is ready to apply for compulsory enforcement.
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The guy spent 330,000 yuan for his girlfriend in 3 years and saw him 5 times
Ah Ming is a native of Wuhan Xinzhou District (Wuhan Yuancheng District), and his two older sisters are married. Because of his soft personality and long-term work on the construction site, he has no experience in heterosexual interactions, and has always been single.
At the end of June 2020, 26-year-old Ah Ming was introduced on a blind date with a 24-year-old woman, Ah Fang. The two got to know each other under the witness of their parents, and then added WeChat and started chatting daily.
Ah Fang initially used words such as "I love fruits", "I have a friend who is very happy to receive her boyfriend's chocolates", "the shower gel has bottomed out", etc., implying that the man made small purchases for her, and Ah Ming satisfied them one by one.
Sometimes, while the girl sends a shopping link to ask Ah Ming to pay, she refuses with "Let's stop sending messages, just send something, hahaha" and "We are not so familiar yet, don't buy it for me".
The man asked, "Do you still buy it?", and the woman replied, "I didn't pay for it, you asked me?" "My sister's blind date bought her an iPhone, but she didn't ask for it, because she didn't like him."
After a period of time, the woman began to specify the goods to ask for payment, and the specified amount to ask for transfers and red envelopes. Ah Ming sometimes replied late, or said that he had no money in hand, and the woman replied directly, "I have already bought it, you will reimburse me" and "transfer the salary after payment".
These commodities have developed from tens or hundreds of yuan of facial masks, earrings, fruits, and even daily small items such as tablecloths, paper towels, and soap to tens of millions of yuan of items such as brand-name cosmetics, clothes, iPhones, and luxury bags.
The woman asks for a luxury jewelry bag (chat screenshot)
On July 7, 2020, from 7:30 a.m. to midnight, the girl sent 22 product links such as power banks, toothpaste, umbrellas, and lotions.
In addition to dozens of "festivals" such as Valentine's Day, Goddess Day, Children's Day, National Day, Chung Yeung Festival, and shopping festivals, there are also comparisons such as "my girlfriend has" and "my sister has gone to skin care again". On several occasions, I asked for money on the grounds of "buying things for my father" and "buying things for the elderly". The amount involved includes more than 10 yuan of milk tea money, as well as "can't you send 13920" and "give 15,000, I want to go to Sanya to play on National Day".
The man said that the two had only met 3 times for more than a year (chat screenshot)
At the end of September 2021, Amin complained that the two had only met 3 times for more than a year, the first time was a blind date, the second time was to buy an Apple phone for her as required, "no more than 3 minutes", and the third time they only had one meal, hoping to meet and date normally.
The woman replied that she could meet and asked Ah Ming if her salary was paid and how to arrange her birthday. Ah Ming transferred 520 yuan and asked about the date arrangement, and the woman said, "Something happens tomorrow, I'm sorry", and then continued to ask for the cost of going to Disney.
Ah Ming went to the mall to buy a bag of 26,800 yuan as required, and agreed to give it to the woman the next day, and then go shopping and eat together. But on the day of the date, the woman broke the appointment on the grounds of "not being able to leave with relatives", abused and pleaded all day, and asked Ah Ming to send the bag downstairs late at night, "I will take it by the way when I throw out the garbage".
"I promised to meet and asked for transfers and red envelopes, but after I succeeded, I refused for some reason, and I can see it everywhere in the chat history." Zheng Xuezhi said that Ah Ming spent 330,000 yuan on Ah Fang in 3 years, and only met no more than 5 times.
Large red envelopes are all remarked with love theme information
There are hundreds of messages of abuse at the slightest delay
Amin was often asked for red envelopes repeatedly and repeatedly on the same day, sometimes from 7 a.m. to the early hours of the morning. I ran out of money on hand, and I was ordered to borrow money from a colleague late at night, and I was asked to open an online platform for a loan. If the reply is not timely, or the money is not raised within the time limit, the woman will send dozens or hundreds of reminders in a row, including swear words and insults, and insults such as "waste" and "dead man".
The woman asked the man to borrow money from a colleague late at night (screenshot of chat)
Ah Ming sent photos several times late at night, saying that he was working at the construction site, or was in a meeting, talking to the leader, and asked the woman to "wait a minute". In this case, the woman's common reply is "I have time to type, but I don't have time to pay" and "Are you dead, the ink is like a woman". Such urgings can last for hours, or even days.
In December 2021, Ah Ming was questioned for his salary for more than ten days, and was asked for red envelopes on Double 12, expenses for going to Sanya, expenses for New Year's Day celebrations, and red envelopes for Spring Festival greetings. After Ah Ming paid his salary, he transferred 3,444 yuan and 520 yuan and 1,314 yuan and 520 yuan in two rounds. The woman complained, "You promised to send red envelopes for more than 3,000 every time, but now only half of them, and the next half will be sent next year?" ”
The woman repeatedly asked Ah Ming to transfer money with "5200 is true love, I really want to marry a girl" and "13920 is to love you all my life, and my girlfriends have received it". In the midst of reprimanding, scolding, and ridicule, the woman will mix "dear", "baby", "brother", "let's go out to play when we have money", such coquettish and pleading.
The woman asked for a transfer with a special meaning of "love" (chat screenshot)
The reporter noticed that every time she asked for this kind of money with a special meaning, the woman asked for "remarks on the theme of love", and even took the initiative to send 200 yuan to Ah Ming to make up 5,200 yuan, or asked to split 5,000 yuan into 3,344 yuan and 1,314 yuan and resend it. Ah Ming was troublesome and was scolded by the woman for "dogs can't change eating" and "dogs are more obedient than you". Because of the problem of remarks and information, quarrels, abuse, re-sending, and collecting money are frequently staged.
After the woman receives the money, she always replies with a sentence of "thank you, dear for the red envelope gift". Even if the previous sentence is still abusive, even if the "thanks" will be followed immediately after the abusive.
According to lawyer Zheng Xuezhi, the woman's deliberate request was to prevent the man from refusing to return the money in the nature of a "voluntary gift" when the man pursued the money in the future.
asked for a bride price of 280,000 yuan to no avail, completely blacking out the man
The court awarded a refund of 270,000 yuan for "unjust enrichment".
Amin asked several times if he could meet his parents as a couple. The woman often replies with "the brain is not clear", "I didn't say it's not a couple", "look at the means you chase", "if you don't want to, change people".
Amin wants to go shopping and shopping with the woman, instead of being an online ATM. The woman replied, "I don't want to take you to see my friend." They're all beautiful, they're very snobbish, and you're poor. Girls often say that it is a waste of time not to play with people who have no money. ”
Amin offered to give the bank card to the woman, and if she got married, she could add the woman's name to the house book. The woman replied, "I can't look at the card that doesn't pay attention to 10,000 yuan", "My aunt's house only has her name, and there is no name of my uncle." The mother-in-law gave her daughter-in-law a house, and adding a name is nothing."
The woman often taught Ah Ming: No money is not worthy of falling in love, I have always rejected others, and the world I have seen is something you can only see in the news; I used to go on a business trip with my boss, I stayed at the Canton Tower Hotel, and I ate 5,000 for a meal; The talent before success is worthless, and a certain star has been abandoned by his girlfriend when he has no money; You are 26 years old, and your salary is not more than 10,000 yuan, you have to work hard, "dogs are more obedient than you".
Ah Ming once retorted, saying that the money given to the woman could already pay a down payment, and complained that the woman insulted him repeatedly, "I am a person, not a beast." The woman replied: You are machismo, you have a problem with your personality, and if you don't correct it, "I will never marry you".
After several conceptual arguments, Amin became submissive, often consciously apologizing "I was wrong" and "understood, I am a waste", trying to exchange self-humiliation for forgiveness. But often in exchange for "you are cheap", "I haven't dumped you yet, you steal the fun", "What do you have, you are so poor that you are justifiably poor".
In February 2023, Amin was lukewarm to asking for money because he was unemployed. The woman said that she was willing to marry the man after receiving 200,000 yuan. Amin began to go out to ask for unpaid wages.
On the 25th of the same month, the woman said, "This is the last chance, don't blame me for not reminding you", "Reissue Valentine's Day red envelopes, with a bride price of 220,000 or 280,000 yuan, to prove your strength". The debt collection continued until the evening of the same day, and Amin was blocked by the woman.
The woman asked for a bride price of 220,000 yuan or 280,000 yuan (screenshot of chat)
Since then, the woman has temporarily restored Ah Ming's WeChat friends many times, asked for money to buy a mobile phone, asked to pay for shopping, and then blocked Ah Ming.
The woman once restored Ah Ming as a friend and asked, "What does your sister mean by calling me to ask for money". Amin said that what he bought should be returned to him. The woman no longer replied to the message, and completely blocked Amin on April 14, 2023.
In December 2023, the Xinzhou District People's Court ruled to refund 270,000 yuan on the grounds that the money obtained by Ah Fang constituted unjust enrichment. At present, due to Ah Fang's delay in executing the judgment, Ah Ming decided to apply for compulsory enforcement.
"There were about 60,000 yuan in transfers and payments, and it was impossible to judge the nature, so Amin gave up." Zheng Xuezhi said that according to what he knew, there was no property in Ah Fang's name that could be used for enforcement.
On May 9, the reporter called Ah Fang's phone in the chat log, and it showed that the number was down.
Source: Cover News