What have you changed in this life? At the end of the day, you will find that you can't change anything but yourself.
The biggest change is to transform people's thinking, but the most difficult thing in the world is to transform people's thinking, and ordinary people can't do it.
Most of the ideological transformation and influence on an adult have been fruitless, so some people have painfully realized that it is the south wall that makes people wake up violently, not preaching.
If you want to say that in this life, if you can have some influence on others, it is only when you are young, so you can have the words of your godchildren when they were young. When you grow up, habits are formed, and cognitions are formed, it is extremely difficult to change and change.
It is precisely because of the difficulty of change and change that the world has greatly admired the "elimination of the three evils around," in fact, it is to pin the beautiful expectations of the changes around the world on themselves. To be honest, how many people really made life turn around and sail to the other side of the Rosewood? Countless people just continue to reincarnate on the path of mediocrity, and it is a very small number of people who can change their lives against the sky.
However, it is these very few people who have changed their lives against the sky that have illuminated our lives, given light and hope, and given countless ordinary people dreams.
When I was in college, I had a roommate surnamed Shandong Tao, he was from Laiwu, he was four years older than me, and he was an out-and-out big brother.
Later, Tao's roommate said that he had five older sisters, he was the sixth, the only boy, his parents were farmers, and when he was in college, his father had passed away, and the burden of a thousand pounds was on his widowed mother. Some of his sisters have already had a whole family, do not study much, and married into their own village or a neighboring village, so they can share the burden for their mother.
Tao's roommate repeated his studies for four years before he was admitted to our school, from which you can see that this classmate of mine has no resources, and his family does not read much, so it is difficult to guide him in the future; His qualifications are mediocre, otherwise he would not have repeated his studies for four years. However, after 20 years, the classmate surnamed Tao is the vice president of a large central enterprise in Beijing, and he is in a high position.
From him, I often wonder why some people can change their lives against the sky, while others cannot. In this, where is the secret code of fate? Where are the gaps?
When graduating from university, everyone preferred the railway bureau, and then chose the engineering bureau, as the big brother, Tao did not have more advantages than us, he went to the engineering bureau, although the headquarters was in Beijing, but the construction site was in Golmud, Qinghai.
Over the years, he has come up step by step and has become the vice president of a central enterprise.
I always think that in the classmate surnamed Tao, it is the kind of sobriety from the bottom that fulfills him. Because of his poor family background, and no one to guide him, he has a far more sober than others, when other classmates pick and choose whether to go to the Railway Bureau or the Engineering Bureau, he went to the Engineering Bureau without hesitation, and is not afraid of hardships and dangers, and goes to Golmud, he is full of gratitude for life, the lower limit is very low, so every gift of fate, he is willing to take care of it.
However, for too many ordinary people, they can't recognize themselves clearly, always let themselves be high, bargain with life, this is not good, that is not liked, the result is often high or low, in vain missed the great opportunity, missed life.
The family background is ordinary, there are not too many opportunities, regardless of 3721, it is right to grasp the straw and go ashore first, and get out of the farm first.
Why do people go far away? Want to be insightful? Because you have walked out of the house, you have seen too many people change their lives against the sky, and you have seen too many people go against the wind, and you will know that you can also change your fate and rewrite your life like them! Everyone is the same, two arms and two legs, why can he do it and I can't?
From the classmates surnamed Tao, you can understand that IQ and family background are not the most important things, the most important thing is your original intention, your beliefs, and your persistence. In this world, as long as you want to do something, as long as you insist on doing it, there is nothing you can't do.
In this world, no one can change you, only you can change.
Like the story of the classmate surnamed Tao, Huang Guoping, a son of a poor family, is also a model of changing his life against the sky.
In 2021, when Huang Guoping, a doctor from the Chinese Academy of Sciences, became popular on the Internet for "Acknowledgments", I immediately remembered him, and to this day, I am familiar with his life nodes and life stories, and have used them countless times to educate my students and children.
Huang Guoping's growth story gives the deepest feeling is his sobriety, his persistence, although he is at the bottom and has no branches to rely on, he always looks up to the glimmer, never gives up, maintains an extremely rare sobriety, does not pick up life, and never speaks lightly in the line of fire.
You see, in the first year of the college entrance examination, when he was admitted to the Normal University, he chose to give up, chose to repeat, and was admitted to Southwest University the next year, studying his favorite computer major. During his college years, he never slackened for a moment, and even studied at the Chinese Academy of Sciences for a master's degree and a doctorate.
Along the way, he always maintained that sobriety and knew what he wanted. The classmates surnamed Tao have always been awake in the world, Huang Guoping is also sober in the world, they are also from the bottom of the society, but they have a glimmer of light, do not give up or abandon, and firmly grasp him when there is a slight opportunity, so that their lives will first drive out of the dangerous beach, and gradually drive towards the broad avenue, and their lives will become wider and wider.
Fate is a magical thing, there are many, many can't be explained, it does not mean that there will be a return for pay, it is not that hard work will necessarily have results, however, the latitude of life, in a long range, pay and return, effort and results are still positively proportional. However, efforts and efforts must be in the right field in order to bear fruit.
Tao classmate, Huang Guoping's sobriety in the world is an extremely important cognition for children at the bottom to get out of the bottom, never follow the crowd, follow the crowd, can not be compared with others, take the road that suits you, and you can also achieve a brilliant life.
In the dead of night, in the silence room, in a solitary ashram, in conversation with the heart, in communion with the soul, then you know where you should go? Where should my soul go? No matter what kind of situation you are in, if you stay awake in the world, you will eventually be able to walk out of your own life.