In the world of love, every woman hopes that her man can love her wholeheartedly and will not be attracted to other women.
However, it is not easy to do this, and we need to understand the psychology of men, find their "soft underbelly", and grasp it.
Today, I will share with you the three "weaknesses in the heart" of men, as long as he holds one, he will not fall in love with other women. However, some women are not aware of these at all, which leads to problems in their love.
1. Men need to be understood
Men and women seem to come from different planets, and the differences in ways of thinking and expressing emotions are often like a chasm.
This also makes it difficult for women to truly understand what men are thinking and feeling in their hearts.
When men feel that they are not understood, the loneliness and loss is indescribable, and they will have deep doubts about the relationship.
Chen Yu in the TV series "Thirty Only", he devoted himself to work, hoping to give his family a better life.
However, his wife Zhong Xiaoqin did not understand his pressure and efforts, and only saw him ignoring himself, constantly blaming and complaining.
This made Chen Yu feel extremely tired and disappointed, and the relationship between the two also cracked.
If Zhong Xiaoqin could think more from Chen Yu's point of view, respect his choices and decisions, and give him support and encouragement, maybe their marriage would not be on the verge of breakdown.
"Understanding is more important than love, and understanding him can meet his needs for need, existence, and value."
In a relationship, understanding is indeed mutual.
When we truly learn to understand men, they will feel our care and love, and thus cherish us more.
They are willing to go the extra mile for us and manage the relationship with us.
But if we don't always understand men, they will feel that we don't understand them at all, we can't empathize with them, and gradually, they will lose interest in us.
So, if you want to firmly grasp a man's heart, understanding is the first crucial step.
Only by truly understanding them can we move forward hand in hand with them on the road of affection and create a better future together.
Second, men need to be needed
Men are born with a sense of protection and responsibility, and they want to be able to be a woman's support and shelter from the elements.
When a woman shows a need for a man, the man feels that his worth is reflected and becomes more committed to the relationship.
Therefore, as women, we have to learn to show weakness in front of men and make them feel our need.
For example, when we encounter difficulties in life, we can ask men for help and let them solve problems for us.
This not only makes the man feel important, but also strengthens the relationship between us.
In "The Legend of Zhen Huan", Ye Lanyi is a horse trainer in Baijun Garden in the Old Summer Palace, and was favored by the emperor as a concubine.
Ye Lanyi's personality is as unruly as a horse and difficult to tame, and she is also cold to the emperor in the harem.
Such a Ye Lanyi who ignores the emperor, why does the emperor favor her?
I think it was probably because of the man's natural desire to conquer that he made the emperor realize what it means to gain and lose, and what it is that even the powerful cannot get.
Under the whole world, it is not the king's land, and the shore of the land is not the king's minister.
In love, men also need to be needed, and they need to prove their worth and abilities through the needs of women.
When a woman shows her dependence and need for a man, the man feels his importance and sense of responsibility, thus cherishing the relationship even more.
3. Men need freshness
Love is a process that requires constant giving, and while giving, we also need to maintain a certain sense of mystery so that men can keep us fresh.
If we always give ourselves unreservedly, then men will lose interest in us and fall in love with other women.
Therefore, as women, we have to learn to retain some mystery and make men curious about us.
For example, we can give men a little surprise once in a while to make them feel the difference between us. Or, we can learn some new skills and knowledge that will impress men on us.
"Retain the sense of mystery Love is a person who needs to continue to give, when paying, women must not give it all, but retain some mystery, so that men have a sense of crisis and curiosity."
In a relationship, freshness is very important. When men lose their freshness to us, they feel that the relationship becomes boring and uninteresting, and thus lose interest in us.
Therefore, if you want to grasp a man's heart, you must learn to maintain a sense of mystery and make them curious about us.
In the world of love, every woman hopes that her man can love her wholeheartedly and will not be attracted to other women. However, it is not easy to do this, we need to understand the psychology of men, find their "weakness", and grasp it, in order to be able to firmly lock their happiness.