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When you encounter domestic violence, you have to flee the first time.
Whether before or after marriage, with or without children.
There can only be zero tolerance for domestic violence, which is life-saving.
A recent news once again woke up the girls to wake up: the woman was beaten for 23 years and finally decided to divorce, and her wrist was almost cut off.
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Video source: @"Fangyuan" magazine @江宁发布
After 25 years of marriage, Ms. Zhang was beaten by her husband Zhao for 23 years.
In the worst case, she was beaten and broke her finger.
At that time, the police rushed to the scene to reprimand Zhao, and then left.
The three children also tried to stop their father's violence, but each time they were scolded loudly: I am your son, you take care of me! ”
Several times, the children thought that their parents had lived together for so many years, and that they were relatives on both sides, and it was difficult to choose, so they all chose to remain silent.
But once domestic violence starts, it doesn't stop.
In a recent domestic violence, Ms. Zhang's wrist was almost cut off.
At the time of the incident, Zhao slashed at her arm with a kitchen knife.
She fled to the downstairs room for help, and Zhao continued to chase her and slash, slashing her back and arms.
This time, Ms. Zhang's right wrist was almost completely broken, and the radial nerve and radial artery were injured in multiple places.
Zhao looked at the blood on the ground and felt that something was wrong this time, so he took the initiative to call the police.
In the face of interrogation by the police, Zhao insisted that his behavior was to discipline his wife and had nothing to do with the law.
Afterwards, Ms. Zhang's son fell into a state of devastation, blaming himself for seeing his mother hurt and pumping himself excitedly, and on the other hand, he was deeply frightened that his father would be severely punished.
But Zhao's behavior has already violated the law and cannot escape legal sanctions.
In the end, after the persuasion of the three children in turn, Ms. Zhang agreed to forgive Zhao out of family considerations, and Zhao was sentenced to 2 and a half years in prison.
After this time, Ms. Zhang decided to sue for divorce and must leave, and the two are currently divorced.
It was just a cut wrist with an almost complete loss of function and required further surgery and rehabilitation.
After reading the news, the pregnant mother just wants to emphasize again: Don't bear domestic violence, and repeatedly tolerating and forgiving domestic violence is tantamount to pushing yourself into the abyss!
Many netizens also said after watching the news:
"The domestic violence that has been beaten for 23 years for such a long time is unforgivable, and it is long overdue to leave."
"If you make a movie, you will be banned, but the reality is being staged again and again."
"I just want to know how two and a half years were judged when the injury is so serious."
"In 23 years, I will get divorced once."
That's right, in case of domestic violence, you have to run away the first time, this is saving your life!
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In the event of domestic violence, being in a "fire pit"
Be sure to know how to stop losses in time!
There are too many tragedies that tell us: there are only 0 and countless times of domestic violence.
To tolerate domestic violence is to gamble with one's own life.
But in this gamble, few people can win.
Ms. Xie, a woman who has been subjected to domestic violence 16 times in 2 years in Chengdu, Sichuan, said when she told the horrific details of being subjected to domestic violence: What she regrets the most is that she was soft-hearted and chose to forgive.
Because she was pregnant at the time, she believed the man's apology and chose to forgive.
But once he was soft-hearted, he pushed himself into the abyss.
She was choked by her husband and smashed with something.
Don't let her go to work and spit in her face.
When you are 8 months pregnant, press and kick on the ground.
Hammer with both hands, kick with your feet, fan your face with your hands, and fan with your mobile phone when your hand hurts.
It's kicking and punching in the stomach.
Holding a hot casserole, the oil in it was still bubbling, and splashed it directly at her.
Directly slashed down, his face, head and clothes were soaked with blood.
When she was beaten to the point that she couldn't get up, the pain in her body was beyond the bottom line she could bear, and in this case, her husband even wanted to rape her despite her pleas.......
(Image source: @帮女郎. Shanghai)
Such a bad act of domestic violence lasted for 2 years.
The last domestic violence directly caused permanent damage to Ms. Xie's body.
She was badly injured, with broken ribs, contaminated duodenum, damaged multiple organs, and was taken to the hospital without a pulse.
The doctor said: If you are 20 minutes late to the hospital, you will not be able to save it.
Regarding her tragic experience, Ms. Xie expressed her regret that she had relented and forgiven.
There is also a 38-year-old mother of second child in Anhui who was beaten to the point of cardiac arrest by her husband who had shared the same bed for nine years.
Although her heartbeat was later restored after being resuscitated by doctors, she unfortunately passed away on the fifth day after being admitted to the ICU ward despite her injuries.
For the sake of her children, she chose to tolerate domestic violence, but in the end she lost her life.
To forgive domestic violence once is to give the abuser another chance to hurt you, and forgiving again and again will only make the violence worse.
So don't trust the abuser to change.
For the abuser, it is a consistent routine to apologize, kneel, beg for mercy, and write a guarantee after the fight, so don't believe it.
There are only 0 and countless times of domestic violence.
Once it happens, even if it's just a minor injury, even if he regrets it afterwards and kneels down to beg you for forgiveness, don't believe him, run away, this is saving your life.
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5 facts about domestic violence
Don't put up with it!
I would like to say to all women:
You must remember that the moment the violence begins, your affection is actually gone, at least the cherishing of you is gone, all you have to do is to turn around bravely and avoid secondary injury!
All perpetrators will be repeat offenders, and they must stop their losses in time.
Here are 5 facts about domestic violence, don't put up with it:
First: Be wary of domestic violence "in the name of love".
Don't believe the abuser's show of weakness and love, the person who loves you will not wave his fist at you, when the fist is waved at you, it means that the man's affection is no longer there.
All you have to do is turn around bravely and be decisive.
Second: No reason is an excuse for domestic violence
There are no extenuating circumstances in the face of domestic violence, and no reason is an excuse for committing domestic violence.
Don't believe any justification the other person makes for his violent behavior.
Third: Don't trust your abuser's assurances
Why domestic violence is only zero and countless times.
Because as long as domestic violence occurs, it means that the abuser is unable to control and deal with emotions.
When the next time the abuser loses control of his emotions, it is the beginning of the next domestic violence.
So when domestic violence first happens, say "no".
Forgiveness over and over again only makes the violence worse.
Fourth: Domestic violence is not a domestic matter
Domestic violence is not a husband and wife quarrel.
Domestic violence is physical injury, and even if you put on the cloak of the family, the nature of violence will not change, and domestic violence is more insidious and harmful than ordinary violence.
Fifth: Don't put up with it for the sake of your child
Witnessing domestic violence can make children live in a stressful and fearful environment, which can seriously affect children's physical and mental health.
It can even give children the wrong idea of "solving everything with violence".
In the face of domestic violence, in addition to resolutely leaving, you must also do the following to protect yourself and your children:
●Protect yourself and get out of danger in time. If there is a conflict, do not provoke the other party, protect the head, chest, abdomen and other key parts, and if necessary, carry out appropriate maneuvers until you are out of danger.
●Examination and evidence collection. Seek medical attention in a timely manner, go to the Domestic Violence Firm Center for medical treatment, and preserve evidence such as audio recordings, videos, photos of violence, and medical records, so that every scar, every threat, and every word of abuse will become evidence in court.
●Alarm the police in time. Keep a record of the police, ask the police to go to the police, and apply to the local people's court for a personal safety protection order, without litigation costs and without providing guarantees.
●Inform the neighborhood committee of the situation of domestic violence. Don't be misled by the notion that "family ugliness should not be publicized", remember! Domestic violence is illegal.
●Call the 12338 Women's Rights Hotline. Zero tolerance for domestic violence is not just a slogan, if you are experiencing or witnessing domestic violence, you can call 110 to report to the police, or you can call the All-China Women's Federation's women's rights hotline 12338.
● Protect your personal privacy after getting out. After a successful divorce, if necessary, personal contact information, current address, family privacy, etc. should be protected, and do not reveal your whereabouts.
Finally, I want to say to all girls: no matter how warm the relationship was, no matter how young the child was, no matter how much you want to maintain a complete family, for domestic violence, you can only say very firmly: no!
Everything is a family affair for the two of them, but exclusive violence is not, and domestic violence is not a family matter.
When you find yourself in a "fire pit", you must know how to stop losses in time.
Please cherish and protect yourself at all times!