"There is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time, and there is no good wife in the poor family for a long time. ”
This sentence is very heart-wrenching.
So that the world is only busy with the helplessness of the first half of the sentence, but ignores the meaning of the second half of the sentence.
In the first half of the sentence, we may have tried our best, but we also have a weak heart.
And in the second half of the sentence, as long as the man is willing to change himself and find a good wife, it is still okay.
As a 5,000-year-old civilization, the mainland is not only a wonderful language, but also the ancient sayings left by the ancient sages are also philosophical and profound.
Poverty here refers not only to greed for poverty, but also to laziness in action and lack of spirit.
And virtuous is the meaning of wisdom and transparency, and virtuous and understanding etiquette.
How can a man who is physically lazy and spiritually empty get the heart of a delicate and virtuous woman?
Only a virtuous, loving, and affectionate man can make a woman willingly accompany her for a lifetime.
有德才配贤妻
Old Man's Words:
娶妻取贤。
Men want to marry a virtuous wife, and women are equally eager to marry a virtuous husband.
Liang Hong, a talented son of the Eastern Han Dynasty, came from a poor family.
But he studied hard, was full of literary brilliance, and was dignified and noble.
Liang Hong studied at Tai College, and after graduation, he herded pigs in Shanglin Yuan.
As a result of an accidental fire, someone else's house was burned down.
In order to protect others from losses, he gave all his pigs to others as compensation.
In this way, the victim was not enough to pay a lot of compensation, so Liang Hong rented himself to the victim and worked every day to pay off the debt.
Liang Hong is still diligent, goes out early and returns late, and is never lazy.
The neighbor couldn't stand it anymore, so he blamed the victim and shouldn't treat the loyal Liang Hong like this.
The victim also felt that he had done a bad job, so he wanted to return the pig to Liang Hong.
But Liang Hong felt that he was at fault first, causing economic losses to others, so he refused to accept it.
Then I went back to my hometown by myself.
He lived a life of ploughing the fields and cultivating the land, reading and cultivating his nature.
Although Liang Hong is unknown, his noble character is spreading, and many large families want to marry their daughters to him.
But Liang Hong looked down on these vulgar daughters, and rejected them one by one.
In the end, he chose the good-looking but well-read and kind-hearted Meng Nu as his wife.
And named her Meng Guang, the word Deyao.
Meng Guang admired Liang Hong's character, and after marriage, he lived in seclusion in the countryside with his husband, living a life of coarse linen clothes, ploughing fields and textiles.
Three meals a day, all with both hands on the tray, raise the case and raise their eyebrows, and respectfully hand it to the husband.
And Liang Hong is also grateful for his wife's affection, and will definitely take it with both hands.
Therefore, "raising the case and raising eyebrows" has been passed down to this day.
The so-called general match is not a material match, but a similarity in personality and a fit in soul.
有爱才配良人
Mr. Liang Qichao called Du Fu a "love saint", which is more appropriate to Du Fu than a "poetry saint".
This kind of affection is not only love and family affection, but also a feeling of compassion for the country and the people, and for all beings in the world.
Influenced by Confucianism since childhood, "governing the country and leveling the world" is Du Fu's lifelong dream.
But his purpose is not to be located in the infinite scenery above the court, but to accompany the king, ask for the people's life, and benefit the common people.
Du Fu cares about the suffering of the common people from the bottom of his heart, and he is not only shouting for the people with a pen, but also proving it with practical actions.
When he ran around for half his life, with the help of friends, he finally had his own thatched cottage, but he cared about the world's poor people.
If the poor people in the world could live in a large house, they would be happy even if they froze to death.
Du Fu's love for all living beings is equal and comes from the bottom of his heart.
It is precisely because he is one with the poor that he can feel their voices and always think about them.
When he gave his house to Wu Lang to live in, he didn't forget to write a poem to tell Wu Lang not to stop the neighbor's lonely woman from collecting dates to eat.
The woman was so miserable that she was alone.
If it weren't for the war, the poor couldn't get by, and it wouldn't be like this.
Such a poet with great love in his heart, let alone his love for his wife and children.
In that era when there were many wives and concubines, he only married one of the Yang family in his life, and he always affectionately called him his old wife.
At that time, most of the literati and people of insight liked to travel alone, but Du Fu liked to take his wife and children with him and move his family.
What's even more interesting is that a friend invited him to listen to the scriptures in the ancient temple, and he actually missed his wife and children as he listened.
Because I was eager to go home, I really couldn't listen to it.
But he didn't want to be rude to his friend, so he left a message for his friend and told him to come back later, so he hurried home to accompany his wife and children.
It can be seen that Du Fu is sincere to his friends and loves his wife.
In this way, Du Fu has suffered all his life, and his wife has worked hard with him all his life.
Material poverty is not to be feared, but spiritual deprivation ruins a person's life. With a person with great love, although bitter and sweet.
有情才配女
Open-mindedness can heal oneself, and affection can warm others.
Su Shi is the one who is open-minded and knows how to play.
He was demoted several times in his life, and Wang Chaoyun was inseparable from him until his death.
Wang Chaoyun's family was poor and became a courtesan when he was young, and at the age of 12, he was redeemed by Su Shi to serve him, and taught him to read and write, and wrote poems and lyrics.
At the age of 18, she became Su Shi's concubine, and later Su Shi was demoted to Huangzhou and Huizhou in the wilderness, only Wang Chaoyun was not afraid of the bitter cold and accompanied him.
At this time, Wang Chaoyun's gratitude and admiration for Su Shi were not only about gratitude and admiration, but also about habits and tacit understanding.
They talked about words and paintings together, studied Buddhist scriptures together, and cooked food together, and they simply turned their lonely and poor days into a fairy-like life.
The deepest love in the world is not liking, but understanding.
Su Shi understands the difficulties of Wang Chaoyun and treats her as a treasure.
Chaoyun understands Su Shi's talents, and he is willing to accompany him for the rest of his life.
Later, Wang Chaoyun died of the plague, she was afraid that Su Shi would be sad, so she took Su Shi's hand and recited the "Diamond Sutra" when she was dying.
Tell Su Shi through Buddhist scriptures that everything in the world has long been predestined, and birth, old age, sickness and death are all natural laws, just like dew and lightning pass in an instant.
So, don't take it too seriously.
Wang Chaoyun didn't want Su Shi to be sad for her, she just wanted him to live happily.
But how could Su Shi not grieve after losing a confidant.
He will bury Chaoyun and personally write an inscription to express his thoughts on his beloved.
Only with love can we be willing to accompany, and only if we can understand can we not give up. Because of knowing each other, Chaoyun is willing to accompany Su Shi to wander away.
If you want to get a heart, you can only do it if you know.
Because of an understanding, everything will become willing.
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I often hear men say:
A woman is materialistic and loves money like life.
That's because these men don't really understand a woman from the bottom of their hearts.
In fact, women, like men, crave love and respect.
Men can do everything they can for those who appreciate themselves and understand them;
Women can also give their all to those who love and understand themselves.
The happiness of a family and the happiness of a marriage need two people to work together and help each other, not one person's applause.
To keep a good wife, it is not about money, but spiritual nourishment.