The May Day holiday is coming to an end, and in the past few days of the holiday, some people are happy and unhappy, and some people are anxious and melancholy.
In the marriage relationship, you can often distinguish the good and bad feelings of the husband and wife through the "holiday", and you can even roughly distinguish whether the person next to you is attentive enough to you, to the marriage, and to your small family.
Are you a husband and wife who are in harmony and happy with each other? Or are two people in a cold war except for quarrels, and they are in a state of anxiety?
Take this little vacation, you might as well take a look at your marriage, whether the person around you gives you enough respect, whether he values your opinions, whether he is tolerant of you, and ask yourself, how do you treat your other half these days?
First, whether to go back to your mother-in-law's house or to your mother's house, you can always distinguish people's hearts.
Every year, this problem almost spans the relationship between husband and wife, and even becomes a contradiction that is difficult to coordinate between many couples.
Couples with good emotional relationships know how to be considerate of each other, if they are in the same city, they will go back to stay for a day or two, if both husband and wife are migrant workers and are far away from home, then this small long vacation is at the mother-in-law's house, and the next small long vacation is at the mother's house, the important thing is to discuss with each other.
However, there will be many selfish people who will not consider the feelings of their partners and other families, and blindly ask each other to follow them back to their hometowns, this holiday is the same, and the next holiday is the same.
If both sides are strong, it is really impossible to negotiate, either neither side will go back, or there will be a phenomenon of each side going back to their respective homes.
Second, whether the relationship between husband and wife is good or not, travel can be seen at one time.
When you go out, you will always encounter various emergencies and problems, and this time is the best time to judge whether the relationship between the husband and wife is really good, or whether it is just a show.
For example, this holiday, my husband and I went camping with our two children, and I chose the place to set up a tent, but I didn't choose it very well, for example, this is an outlet, and the trees above this location are prone to dregs and insects.
However, the "encampment" has been completed, and if you want to suddenly find a new position, you have to rise from the ground, and it will inevitably be troublesome. What's more, many good places around have already been occupied, and it may be a bit far away to find a location.
In addition, before going out, I was responsible for buying some snacks and food, but I bought less, so my husband was only three points full.
I felt very guilty, after all, it was my first time preparing these things, and I didn't have enough experience. I cautiously asked my husband what to do. But my husband first analyzed the situation with me to prevent me from making the same mistake next time. Then work with me to actively solve the problem at hand.
In the end, our family had a great time completing our first family camping activity.
A few years ago, I traveled with a few friends, from the hotel arrangement, as well as the planning in advance to arrange the route, we completed the division of labor, but the plan always could not catch up with the change.
There are a lot of problems in the middle, and a lot of "unjust money" has been spent, so that in this process, the advantages and disadvantages between our girls are undoubtedly revealed, some people are easy to communicate, some people are more self-oriented, some people are tolerant, some people are more selfish and stingy, some people are patient, and some people are self-centered.
Therefore, if the husband and wife or a family go out to travel and are not familiar with everything around them, resulting in problems and a lot of uncertainties, they can test each other's feelings and people the most.
Only by having a good discussion, tolerating each other, reciprocating a good attitude, and giving each other full understanding, will we avoid quarrels and contradictions during the journey, and this small long holiday can we harvest good emotions and atmosphere together, and even enhance each other's feelings.
Third, when you stay at home and stare at your eyes, whether you are warm or irritable, your feelings are clear at a glance.
After all, during the five-day holiday, most tourist attractions are crowded, even if they go back to each other's hometowns, they will either be stuck in traffic or bear high peak tickets.
Two people who stay at home are together 24 hours a day, from dawn to night, and involve household chores such as hygiene, cooking, and washing dishes.
I have a friend who is usually busy with work with her husband, and they go out together before 8 a.m. every day, and they both come home at 7 or 8 p.m.
Breakfast is solved outside, noon in the company, if you don't work overtime at night, you can go home and eat casually, if you work overtime, you can also solve it in the company. When I got home, I was very tired, so I played with my mobile phone for a while, chatted casually, and then went to sleep.
It seems that the feelings are respectful and there is no contradiction, but when it comes to weekends when both people are at home, and a small long holiday like May Day, there is almost no time not to quarrel.
A friend told me, "I hate being at home during the holidays, and I can fight even when I buy groceries." "So before I had two children, she often either asked me out for a small get-together or went shopping, or asked other friends out of the house, and she was not at home when she could be away.
I asked her if she hadn't thought about the problems between the two of them, and she said, "He's macho, and I'm going to be strong." It doesn't matter, just don't be together all day long anyway. ”
Two people with good feelings will be tired of being together, and they will divide labor with each other, which is warm and harmonious. On the contrary, if two people with discordant feelings stay at home together for several days in a row, then even who cooks breakfast, who washes the dishes at noon, whether to go out to buy vegetables together, or hope that the other party will not be stuffy at home for several days in a row, can become a flashpoint of conflict.
Write at the end.
Some people say that the tacit understanding between husband and wife is slowly cultivated, and as time goes by, the relationship between the two will become closer and closer, and they will tolerate each other.
However, there are always some couples, in the process of "cultivating", under the verification of time, there will be all kinds of problems, whether they can solve these problems through running-in, so that the relationship is getting better and better, but it is a thing that no one can predict.
However, in this process, at least you can tell whether there is a need for the relationship between you to exist, and whether the person next to you is the lover you want to spend your life with.
For most people, a small holiday is expected. In this fast-paced social life full of pressure, a small long vacation means relaxation and freedom.
Therefore, I hope that every pair of destined people can cherish the relationship between two people, cherish the time spent with two people, and have a relaxed and happy long vacation.