8-16 year old children procrastinate and are not self-disciplined, introductive and unconfident, want to do but do not execute, and have no motivation to cope with learning...... If you want to "cure the roots", the root is in the internal drive and mental energy (click)!
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I have repeatedly said that the essence of internal drive is feeling, good feeling is motivation, and bad feeling is resistance. How to make children feel good?
The following three methods are simple, practical and efficient, as long as they are really used in place, they will definitely be effective!
01
The "list of advantages" method
You should definitely write down the top 10 advantages of your child, and then you can preferably make a photo, mold it and stick it on the head of your child's bed.
Why? Because it's a powerful affirmation and a hint.
On the one hand, it can make children feel that "Mom and Dad see me like this!" and "I have so many advantages!", which is not only a concern for children, but also a great affirmation.
On the other hand, it is also to give the child a "hint", assuming that one of the advantages is not very obvious to the child at present, but he looks at the paper all day long, and will also believe because of his "continuous attention", and slowly form, this is the power of suggestion.
Just this simple action will bring a good feeling to the child - a sense of achievement, and a sense of achievement is an internal drive.
02
"Discipline Confidence" method
When you were a child, did you have this feeling, which subject you liked soared, and you hated that subject and that subject scored, so how can children have self-confidence in the subject?
Be sure to remember what I'm saying below:
"Wow, how did you get your language homework done so quickly?"
"Wow, I can't do this math problem so hard, you actually finished it!"
"Alas, I found that you seem to have found a way to do math~"
"Looks like you've been drinking chemistry lately?"
"Oops, your physics teacher said you are very talented~"
……
For a speech like this, you have to prepare 30 words, one per day, and the self-confidence to specialize in one subject every month. Children must first have self-confidence, and then have grades, without self-confidence, there will be no grades.
You need to know that self-confidence does not depend on good external grades, let alone on the external wearing of Nike Adi, there is self-confidence only when you have a watch, a car, and a house, which is called "Thaksin". What is Thaksin? It is to rely on what is possessed externally to have faith.
What is true self-confidence? accept your shortcomings, appreciate your strengths, and find the feeling of "I can do it".
This is a sense of competence, and a sense of competency is internal drive.
03
"Teacher favorability" method
Since internal motivation is good feelings, how to make children have a good feeling for teachers?
Here are some things you can try.
For example, "borrowing flowers to offer Buddha", the teacher chatted on WeChat, and deliberately said to the child after chatting: "The teacher praised you today, saying that your current learning state is getting better and better." (At this point, it is better for you to be slightly aware of the child's state, rather than purely making it up).
Another example is "getting close to the teacher". After school, create an opportunity for the child to meet with the teacher, let the child play in the playground for a while, let him see us chatting with the teacher, let him feel that we have a very good relationship with the teacher, and come back and deliberately tell the child: "I played with your math teacher a few days ago", "I had dinner with your Chinese teacher last night"...... (It's about yourself, you can be relatively casual)
Anyway, it is to let the children feel that the teacher has a good relationship with my parents. Gradually, the child will also like the teacher more and like his lessons, and the corresponding grades will naturally improve, because "a good relationship is a good grade".
At the same time, I also appeal to all teachers to give their children a good feeling: this teacher is very good to me, not just very strict and unapproachable. Otherwise, the child will start to hate the teacher and avoid learning.
All of the above practices have only one core purpose – to create a good feeling for the child.
How important is a child's good feelings? Good feelings represent good grades, that is, children have good feelings about learning, and they will have high grades.
We need to remember: "Appreciate the genius, strike out the waste", wise parents create feelings, stupid parents destroy feelings.
For more ways to implement internal motivation, please read the following article to help you "educate the landing" and "do" (not just "know")
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1. Three steps to cultivate internal drive, I am a "person who has come over": After contacting more than 2,000 children, I have summed up a set of methods to ensure that the children's internal drive is improved!
2. "Five Senses Internal Drive" Landing Solution: I use the "Five Senses" method to help you solve the problem of internal drive, so that children are self-disciplined and motivated
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