In this era of fast love and information explosion, the rising divorce rate seems to have become a mirror of society, reflecting the pain points of contemporary marriage.
In this marriage "earthquake", the post-90s group stood in the epicenter and became the main force of the divorce tide.
This power not only made sociologists dumbfounded, but also made countless netizens stand up and analyze the mixed reasons behind it.
The price of impulsiveness: the era of "flashing" when you say you want to leave
The post-90s, this generation labeled as "freedom" and "individuality", seems to have continued this casualness in the face of marriage.
Different from their parents' "sewing and mending for another three years", their attitude towards marriage is more direct - if they are together, they will be together, and if they are not together, they will be separated.
A small dispute or a misunderstanding can become the last straw that crushes the marriage.
On social media, it is not difficult to see the story of "deciding to divorce because you didn't eat a good meal", although it sounds ridiculous, but it is a true reflection of this generation's low tolerance for marriage.
Extramarital affair: the betrayal of loyalty
In today's society, with the diversification of interpersonal communication styles and the widespread use of social platforms, the probability of extramarital affairs has increased.
For the post-90s, they are in an environment with more open information and more temptation, and their emotional needs and explorations are more direct.
When emotional needs in a marriage are not met, or when there are communication problems between the parties, some people may seek solace outside of marriage, which can lead to an affair.
This type of behavior greatly undermines fidelity and singleness in marriage, making it difficult to repair a broken trust.
After encountering an extramarital affair, many couples will find that the estrangement in their hearts is difficult to resolve, even if they try to forgive and rebuild, and finally choose divorce to end the relationship.
Domestic violence: the pain of silence
Domestic violence is the other extreme form of harm, which includes not only physical violence, but also emotional abuse, financial control, sexual violence, and other forms.
The existence of domestic violence is a serious violation of the physical and mental safety of the victim, and it is also a complete denial of an equal and respectful marital relationship.
With the deepening of society's understanding of the problem of domestic violence, more and more victims have begun to speak out and no longer bear it silently.
The law states that domestic violence is one of the legal grounds for divorce, which means that victims can seek relief through legal means.
The double-edged sword of the family: over-dependence and interference
If marriage is a dance of two people, then the influence of the family of origin is the lighting of the stage, which can both illuminate the direction and also cause shadows.
Many post-90s couples are still mentally and materially dependent on their parents, which not only makes them immature when dealing with family conflicts, but also often escalates simple husband and wife problems into a war between two families.
What's more, the excessive involvement of the parents has almost disappeared the private space of the young couple, and the little secrets between the husband and wife are openly discussed in the family WeChat group, which is tantamount to dropping a bomb on the calm lake.
From Love to Marriage: The Fault Line Between Ideal and Reality
The romance before marriage often gradually dissipates in the chicken feathers after marriage.
Many post-90s generations hurriedly entered the marriage hall under the urging of their parents, lacked in-depth understanding before marriage, and found that their personalities were incompatible with each other after marriage, and their living habits were very different.
What was once a "soul mate" has become a "stranger of the most familiar".
Some netizens complained: "Before marriage, he was a warm man, but after marriage, I found out that he was just a man who was afraid of the cold." ”
Life's trivial quarrels: the fuse or the truth?
"Divorce because of who should wash the dishes" sounds like a joke, but it really happened between some post-90s couples.
The trivial things in life have become the fuse that triggers the divorce.
Behind this, in fact, the dissatisfaction of both parties with the sharing of responsibilities and the gap between the expectations of the other party.
These seemingly inconspicuous contradictions, accumulated over time, and finally erupted, becoming the last straw that broke the camel's back.
Social and economic pressures
Don't forget, the post-90s generation is in the climbing period of their careers, facing many pressures such as mortgages, car loans, and childcare.
The weakness of the economic foundation makes the boat of marriage crumble in the turbulent waves of life.
At the same time, the increase in social acceptance of divorce has made young people more willing to choose "timely stop loss" rather than "compromise and seek perfection" when facing marital difficulties.
Online Socialization: The Collision of Virtual and Reality
In the digital age, the temptation of online social networking is everywhere.
Games, live streams, short videos, ...... These seemingly harmless forms of entertainment invisibly erode the emotions between husband and wife.
How many nights when one party is addicted to the virtual world and the other party is alone in reality, this emotional alienation is also an important factor leading to divorce.
The awakening of the mind: the courage to pursue personal happiness
Finally, I have to mention the awakening in the heart of the post-90s.
They no longer see marriage as a necessity in life, but put personal happiness and growth first.
When marriage is no longer a source of happiness, they dare to break the routine and pursue a life that truly belongs to them.
Whether it is the discomfort of ordinary life or the weakening of their willingness to have children, they are all re-examining and choosing the traditional concept of marriage.
To sum up, the increase in the divorce rate of the post-90s generation is the result of the interweaving of many factors, including the conceptual changes brought about by the changes of the times, and the collision between individual growth and social reality.
In the face of this phenomenon, we should perhaps think more about how to strengthen premarital education and improve the quality of marriage while respecting individual choices, so that every marriage can become a journey for two people to work together, rather than a burden that is easily abandoned.
In this fast-changing world, let's learn to slow down, listen to our inner voice, and find our own happiness.
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