In the world of love, we often fall into a puzzle: why is it that the more we want to capture a man's heart, the easier it is to lose him?
Today, I will share some psychological insights about love with you under the title of "3 reasons why you don't contact every day, no matter how much you want a man", hoping to help you feel more confident and calm in your relationship.
1. Keep the mystery and keep the man interested in you
In a relationship, women tend to behave more sensually and passionately. However, if you take the initiative to contact a man every day and even pay too much attention to his every move, then you may make him feel that you are too dependent on him and lose interest in you.
In a relationship, when a person is determined to die, he will not be cherished.
As one song goes, "What you can't get is always in turmoil, and what is favored is fearless." ”
That preference is a person's confidence, and it will make a person indulgent. Preference will make a person lose his sense of crisis and no longer care.
I have to say that everything pays attention to a "degree", including feelings, and the same is true.
When you don't handle it well, it's easy to overdo it, and the ending is often the opposite of what you expect.
No matter how much you love someone, you will learn to release your love slowly, instead of loving without a bottom line and without moderation.
When love is excessive, it will be eaten, and it will not be cared for, let alone cherished.
Women have to be reminded not to contact a man every day, no matter how much you love him, but to learn moderation, keep yourself reserved, and put the initiative in the hands of men.
If you are too active, the balance of love will deviate, and feelings are never a carnival of one person, but a dance of two people.
In a relationship, when a person is too active, then the balance of love will be skewed and become a person's love.
Moreover, when women always contact men frequently, deep in the man's heart, it is likely that he will be bored and will begin to resist women.
You will find that he becomes more and more impatient and will even lose his temper with you for no reason.
What's even more heart-wrenching for a woman is that every time you take the initiative to contact him, he will use busyness as an excuse to ignore you, and he won't chat with you at all, and he doesn't want to listen to you. At that time, the distance between you will become farther and farther apart.
Only by mastering the degree of contact will your relationship be stable, and the man's heart will always be with you, so that the man will take the initiative to contact you in turn.
Being arrogant can stimulate men's desire to conquer, in fact, every man has a desire to conquer in his bones.
The so-called desire to conquer means that the more you can't get something, the more interested you are, the more you want to get it, and the more you can get it, you lose interest.
2. Give each other some space to make the relationship healthier
A good relationship is like a gorgeous flower, which needs to be cared for by both parties, and at the same time, it is also necessary to give each other a certain space to grow.
As Gibran said, "Leave some space for each other in the grinding of the ears and temples, and let the winds of heaven dance among you." ”
If you connect with men every day, you may be tied to each other and lack the independent space to breathe freely.
When we are too connected and too dependent on each other, we tend to lose ourselves unconsciously.
We forget our original life trajectory, our interests and dreams.
However, when we have an independent life and interests, we are able to show a richer and more colorful side.
We can go out shopping and travel with our friends, feel the beauty of nature and experience different customs during the trip, and we can also participate in some activities that we are interested in, such as painting, yoga, reading, etc., to enrich ourselves and improve our inner literacy.
Doing so not only allows us to relax and get rid of the stresses and worries of life, but also allows men to see our independent side.
He will find that we are not only his companions, but also individuals with their own unique charm and value.
Our lives are made more fulfilling and meaningful because of these independent spaces, and our relationships are deeper and stronger because of these rich experiences.
So, don't let the daily connection become a shackle to your feelings, but learn to leave the right distance for each other and let each other soar freely in their respective worlds.
Then when we get together, share each other's wonderful, so that the relationship can reach a wonderful balance between independence and dependence.
3. Stay independent and make yourself more attractive
In the arena of love, women are often prone to fall into a misunderstanding, over-dependence on men, and thus gradually lose themselves.
But in reality, if you want a man to be more attached to you, staying independent is the key.
is like Luo Zijun in "The First Half of My Life", at the beginning she put all her energy on her husband and completely relied on him, losing her career and the ability to think independently.
As a result, when there was a crisis in her marriage, she instantly became at a loss.
However, after a series of setbacks and growth, she rediscovered her career and life, becoming more confident, independent and charismatic. It is this transformation that allows her to re-attract the attention of her ex-husband, and at the same time gain new love.
When you have your own career, interests, and friends, you exude a unique charm.
This charm comes not only from your external performance, but also from your inner firmness and self-confidence.
Men tend to be attracted to confident, independent women because of an irresistible attraction in them.
So, instead of contacting men every day, focus more time and energy on yourself.
You can learn new skills to improve your abilities, or take part in social events to expand your network.
Through these efforts, you will not only be able to expand your social circle and meet more people, but you will also allow men to see your growth and progress.
When you become better, he will naturally cherish you more and love you more.
In love, it is very important to maintain the proper distance and rhythm. Don't contact men every day, but give each other some space and time to make the relationship healthier and longer.
At the same time, it is also necessary to remain independent and make yourself more attractive. Only in this way can you be more confident and calm in your relationship and capture the heart of a man. I hope today's sharing can be helpful to everyone, and I wish you all a happy and happy love.