In our real life, everyone receives cues from others. These could come from our friends, colleagues, or even our loved ones. Whatever the reason, these hints have an impact on our lives.
Admittedly, cues are an effective tool in the adult world, especially when it comes to feelings.
Often, when people encounter something that is "uncertain, unspeakable, and afraid to take responsibility", they will use hints to express it.
Because using "hints" does not bring much damage even if it fails, and it can also protect your image.
Many people say that "women chase men, and the veil is interlayered", and it seems that it is a simple matter for women to pursue men. However, in real life, few women will actively pursue men.
Especially as women get older, this situation is becoming less and less common.
At a young age, most women exhibit childish and impulsive traits and distinguish between introversion and extroversion.
As women enter middle age, they usually become more mature, more stable, and more cautious. Even though they are extroverts, they often don't show their truest side at this time.
Usually, a woman who is single by middle age usually has already had some experience in relationships.
As she grew older and more experienced, she no longer dared to take risks to gamble, and even if she liked a man in her heart, she would not express it directly. After all, if it fails, the relationship she faces may change somewhat. In some cases, she will remain silent and carefully pursue her goals.
In this case, the best way to do this is to give a "hint". As a man, you need to understand that when middle-aged women joke with you, they are not trying to amuse you, but they are hinting at something.
"Why don't we make do with it together?"
If a middle-aged woman keeps saying things like, "Let's make do with it," you might mistake her for a joke. However, in reality, this statement shows that she is interested in you, and don't easily ignore her love signals.
The meaning of this joke is, what is your impression of her?
It is important to note that before a middle-aged woman wants to express her feelings to you, she usually understands what you think and feel about her. This is a common phenomenon and we should be aware of it regardless of the situation.
Your views and feelings will determine her next move, which is a key factor. Let's see how we can better handle this situation.
At this stage, she has already identified you deeply in her heart and is just waiting for your response.
If you answer yes, she will be more proactive, otherwise she will keep her distance. It's a general rule, and if you want a girl to lean more towards you, you might as well give a positive reply.
When you hear this kind of humor, if you just see it as a joke, it can cause misunderstandings and embarrass both you and others. Therefore, we should be respectful of other people's feelings and cultures, and avoid using language that may cause discrimination or offense.
"I really want to find a man like you"
Showing one's criteria for choosing a mate is a common suggestive device for middle-aged women. This reflects their expectations and self-worth for marriage and family.
It is difficult for middle-aged women to express their liking for a certain man directly, but they cannot control their emotions. They usually use humor to test each other. If you notice that she is joking with you, then it is likely that she is interesting to you.
For example, she will express thoughts like, "I want to find a man like you." Or, "If only my ex-husband or ex-boyfriend could have half the good of you." These words reveal her desire for a good partner.
You need to understand that her jokes are actually telling you that you have exactly the same criteria as her, which means that you are the person she likes. Hopefully, this news will make you feel happy and confident.
This is a telltale sign of a middle-aged woman's affection, and with a little attention, you can detect her feelings for you.
On the one hand, she wants to convey her feelings for you and make you realize that she likes you, and on the other hand, she is also eager to get an answer, and your response will be her answer.
"When people are old, they still have to find a companion"
When a middle-aged woman jokes that "when you're old, you need to find a partner," you might think she's laughing at herself. Although, that's not what she's actually doing.
However, the truth is, what she said was meant to be heard by you.
The meaning she conveys to you is actually to understand your position on the relationship and whether you intend to start a relationship.
You must understand that when a person has no intentions, no matter how much persuasion is done, it is useless.
She also knows that if you are someone who is not in favor of marriage, no matter how long she likes you and how much effort she puts into you, it may be in vain.
Middle-aged women are more realistic than young women's impulsiveness and idealization. They are well aware of the complexities and twists and turns of feelings, and for obviously unsustainable feelings, they will stop losses in time with a rational attitude. This attitude is both good for their emotional well-being and good for their life stability.
Conclusion:
Typically, middle-aged women use feelings as themes to create humor. If she's interested in you, it's more likely that her jokes involve an emotional aspect.
You may think she's joking or laughing at herself, but in fact, she may be indirectly hinting at or testing you.
Observing the subtle movements of the other person can help you to be keenly aware of whether she is interested in you. At the same time, she will also judge how you feel about her through your response and make choices accordingly. This mutual perception and reaction is the key to building a good relationship. Always be alert, pay attention to the other person's emotional changes, and respond to her signals with a smile.
Conversely, if a middle-aged woman is not interested in a person of the opposite sex, she will hardly have any excessive humor. Because a sense of proportion is a great advantage for middle-aged women, they are good at controlling their words and actions, and are able to show grace and confidence in social situations.
A middle-aged woman said to the man, "Why don't you marry me?" When the man thought she was joking, she followed suit and joked that she was just trying to amuse.
To sum up, Ximei hopes that you will be able to realize the sensitivity of this joke and express it in a more relaxed and formal way.
Otherwise, you may miss out on someone who truly loves you or have distant, unrealistic expectations for the future. The proper use of one's abilities and wisdom is essential to the pursuit of the path of love.