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(Note: This article is purely fictional, if you have similar experiences, it is purely coincidental, please read it sensibly)
In June last year, I broke up with my girlfriend who had been talking for three years, and we were both at the point of talking about marriage, but we eventually parted ways because the bride price was not negotiated.
My girlfriend and I met when we were in college, and we only met in public classes.
My girlfriend is a very lively and cheerful person, and she took the initiative between us, according to her, she fell in love with me because of a speech.
There weren't too many idol drama plots between the two of us, just plain, and after being together, the two of us didn't delay our studies because of falling in love.
After graduating, the two of us went to work in different cities, and finally survived a year of long-distance relationship, and I applied to work in her city.
As the two of us stabilized at work, we were also planning to get married, and last year during the Chinese New Year, I brought my girlfriend home to meet my parents.
My parents are very fond of her, especially my mother, who gave a red envelope of more than 10,000 yuan as soon as they met, and she was so scared that she didn't dare to accept it.
Later, during the Dragon Boat Festival holiday, my girlfriend and I went to her hometown, and my girlfriend's family background is not much different from mine, both of them live in the countryside, not particularly wealthy families.
My girlfriend's parents were very kind to me, knowing that I had just graduated and entered a big business, and they praised me for being capable and self-motivated.
My girlfriend also has a younger brother, according to her, her younger brother is very favored, and the family usually revolves around him, but this time I didn't see him, and I heard my mother-in-law say that he went to the town with his group of friends to play, maybe when he will come back.
Because the vacation was not long, we only stayed for a day and rushed back, and when I got back, I told my parents that my girlfriend's parents liked me very much, so they just let them wait for the good news.
It's just that I didn't expect that the good news didn't wait, but my girlfriend first told me a news that caught me off guard.
One day after work, I was walking from the company to the dormitory, and I received a call from my girlfriend on the way, and she excitedly told me that her parents had agreed to our marriage and asked me to discuss the bride price and the wedding date next weekend.
I can't make my own decisions about such a big matter, and I told my girlfriend if I want to let the parents of the two families meet first, and then talk about the rest of the matter.
My girlfriend disagreed, I discussed these things first, the two families have the opportunity to meet, and we both have a chance to meet, and we both work in the rising period, so we can't always ask for leave, so we can only take advantage of the weekend to solve these trivial matters.
As soon as I thought about what my girlfriend said, it made sense, and after discussing all these things, the parents of both parties could just hold an engagement ceremony with the bride price money when they met again.
It's the weekend in the blink of an eye, because my girlfriend's parents had a good impression of me last time, so I was a lot less nervous this time, because it was a formal meeting with parents, I bought a lot of gifts for my uncle and aunt, I just hope they can be happy.
It's just that I didn't expect this meeting to become the fuse for my girlfriend and I to go to strangeness.
It wasn't too late to get to my girlfriend's house, so I sat with my girlfriend's parents and talked for a while, and after a while, my girlfriend's mother said that she was very optimistic about the two of us and hoped that we could get married as soon as possible, preferably this year.
Although my girlfriend's parents approve of me, I should be happy, but now it's late June, and I only have more than five months to go, and I'm afraid it's a bit of a rush to get married this year.
Before I could speak, my girlfriend's mother said again, we only have such a baby daughter in our family, and there is also a son for us to support the elderly, and I don't care how much you want the bride price, just take 380,000 yuan.
When I heard this, I almost didn't squirt the water out of my mouth, and finally swallowed the saliva, and my girlfriend's mother looked at me and asked, can you accept this?
I didn't know what to say for a while, but my girlfriend was watching me and urging me to reply.
After a while, I said with a little apology, Auntie, our family just bought a wedding house, and now we don't have much money left, and I have just worked for a short time, so I haven't saved any money, do you think it can be lowered a little?
After I said this, my mother-in-law changed her face and said, this is already the minimum requirement, we haven't asked you to buy hardware for our girl, this is not married yet, you will bargain, if you are really married, will my daughter be happy with you?
My girlfriend also sat aside and didn't speak, only I sat awkwardly on the sofa alone, and at lunchtime, although my girlfriend's parents were still polite to me, they were no longer as familiar as before.
When we left in the afternoon, they didn't speak, just called my girlfriend into the room and said a few words, and then hurriedly urged us to leave, without even giving me a look.
On the way back, my girlfriend didn't say a word to me, and she didn't contact me for several days after that.
About another week later, my girlfriend sent me a message saying that if I could get the 380,000 dowry, if not, I would break up now, and no one would delay anyone.
My girlfriend's attitude was very resolute, and in a panic, I quickly agreed to her request, and then she said, give you a month, make up the 380,000 bride price, and then go to our house with the money to propose.
After returning to the dormitory, I told my parents about it, and they were also very embarrassed, and the family had just taken out all their savings to buy me a house, and there was only 1120,000 yuan left.
My parents comforted me and said, don't worry, your parents will give you a way, it's a big deal, let's find relatives to borrow some, and then my parents will work for a few years, just pay back the money.
It's easy to say, but it's hard to do, they all live in the countryside, where are there such wealthy relatives, and they only borrowed 280,000 yuan from me.
I called my girlfriend and asked her to intercede with her parents, a little less, and we can make up for it after we get married!
After hearing this, my girlfriend not only didn't understand me, but said to me, am I not worth the bride price of 380,000 yuan, I don't think we can continue, we can break up.
In this way, the two of us broke up, and there was no room for recovery, and the saddest thing for me was that she was engaged to another person less than two months after she broke up with me.
Because it's a university, the two of us have mutual friends, and this incident was told to me by my good buddy Xiao Wu, saying that he saw Xiao Tong's (ex-girlfriend) engagement photo in the circle of friends, saying that he would get married at the end of the year.
Actually, I'm not surprised at all, Xiaotong is beautiful and has a good personality, after breaking up with me, there will definitely be no shortage of people chasing her, but I didn't expect her to get engaged so soon.
But what I didn't expect was that things turned around so quickly, and at the end of November, Xiao Wu sent me a message again saying that Xiao Tong and her fiancé had gone to court to file a lawsuit over the bride price.
Then, Xiao Wu told me the whole story, it turned out that when I hadn't broken up with her, she had found a "spare tire" for her at home, and what made me most angry was that Xiao Tong was also aware of this matter.
So when I repeatedly bargained with her over the bride price, she chose to break up with me, stay with the person the family had found for her, and got engaged.
The reason why they got engaged so quickly was because their family wanted to get the 380,000 yuan to pay compensation to his younger brother.
When I first visited her house, her mother said that her brother had gone to play in the town with his friends, but her brother was so angry that he got into a quarrel and landed them in the hospital.
The patient's family wants 400,000 yuan to settle, otherwise he will be held criminally responsible, which is why Xiaotong's family let the two of us get married so quickly.
Later, I broke up when I couldn't take it out, and the one who was introduced to her by the family happily took out 380,000 yuan, and then Xiaotong kept asking that person for money for various reasons.
So I found out that Xiaotong was cheating on her from beginning to end, and marrying him was also to ask for his money, so I broke up with her and asked her for money these days.
Xiaotong used all the money to settle the trouble for her brother, where did she get so much money, the two had a conflict, and finally went to the court to start a lawsuit.
After listening to Xiao Wu's story, I only felt very happy, fortunately the two of us broke up at the beginning, otherwise with my family conditions, where could I get tens of thousands of dollars to his brother anytime and anywhere to settle the trouble!
Now I finally understand that Xiaotong told me that her family was urging her to get married, and it was just a bureau for me, the purpose was to ask me for money.
In January this year, I received a call from Xiaotong again, this is the first time she took the initiative to call me since we met.
I didn't answer her phone and blocked her phone number, I don't think there's any room for redemption between us, and I don't want to be fooled by her anymore.
We will all start a new life, let's keep all the previous memories in our memories, I will not resent her for deceiving me, and I hope she will not bother me again in the future, let's stop here!
(Note: This article is purely fictional, if you have similar experiences, it is purely coincidental, please read it sensibly)