Two days ago, a friend of mine suddenly chatted with me and asked me, "What do you think is the state of love now?"
I thought about it for a moment and replied, "I used to like someone very much, but when he left, he never wanted to love someone again." ”
That's what people often call "broken love."
And when you really let go of a person, it's not as simple as breaking the connection.
Rather, it is necessary to do these three no's:
- Don't contact him
When you really let go of someone, it's not about cutting off contact, it's about not connecting with him.
When you still like someone, you are actually very willing to intersect with the other person. Because you know that you will be happy to have him.
But when you really let go, you will find that there is less and less contact between you. Because at this time, you don't have anything to do with each other.
As one reader once said to me, "He liked me at first, but then when he found out that I had a boyfriend, he started to distance himself from me." ”
Because when there is no intersection between you, then the other person will pull you out of their own world.
So, when you really let go of someone, you will find that the other person has pulled you out of their own world. And in the process, you will feel very relaxed.
It's about not being in touch with him.
Because only in this way can you make yourself better and say goodbye to your past feelings.
- Don't look back
As the saying goes: "It is better to demolish a temple than to destroy a marriage." ”
When you're with someone and you don't end up making it to the end, or rather, you're separated from someone. It doesn't mean you don't love enough, or that there's anything wrong with him.
Rather, the fate between you is over. In other words, there is no fate between you at all.
So, don't always look at his news, and don't always look back at him. Because no matter how you look back, he won't be in your world again.
Moreover, the relationship between you is not the same as before.
Think of him as a stranger!
A stranger who is no longer worth liking you to.
Because he has nothing to do with you anymore.
So, you have to learn to accept reality. Don't always reminisce about the good old days in your mind.
- Don't let yourself love anymore
When you really let go of someone, you should understand that no matter how much you loved before, it's over. The relationship will not continue forever.
So, after you really let go of someone, you should let your heart stay in that best moment forever.
is like what a netizen said:
"I won't let myself love someone anymore, I'm going to use this time to improve myself and make myself better. ”
Only when you become better and better will you attract more people to love you. And when the time comes, even if he wants to leave you again, he will not be able to appear in front of you again.
It's about doing these three "nos".
Only in this way can you truly let go of him. And make yourself better, to meet a better love and life!