I am Lin Xixi, 58 years old this year, retired for many years, 4800 pension per month, living alone for many years.
My only son has been married for several years, my daughter-in-law is finally pregnant, and I come to my son's house full of joy when the due date is in May.
One is that I want to spend the holiday with my son, the second is to come in advance to run in with my daughter-in-law, and the third is that I want to see my grandson too much.
However, when I gave my daughter-in-law 20,000 to give birth to a baby, I found that she was indifferent to me.
I reflected on it for a few days, and from my daughter-in-law's small talk and listening to her phone calls with others, she seemed to think that I was giving too little.
One day when I went downstairs to buy vegetables, my daughter-in-law probably didn't hear me enter the house, and said in a loud voice:
"You don't know, my mother-in-law gave me 20,000 yuan when she came, as if she gave me a great favor, which is amazing. ”
I never felt proud of my daughter-in-law's reward, but I was sincerely grateful from the bottom of my heart.
I would like to thank my daughter-in-law for bringing a new member to my family so that I can enjoy my family after retirement.
I also want to tell my daughter-in-law that although we are not related by blood, because of my son, we met in the vast sea of people and became a family.
But I didn't expect that the only child now would be so selfish, thinking that the old man gave everything in exchange.
The daughter-in-law asked the other party's mother-in-law how much she paid for the baby, because she couldn't hear what the other party said, she only heard her daughter-in-law's sharp shout:
"50,000, so much, your mother-in-law is still high-grade, has a realm, and is much more sensible than my mother-in-law. ”
I couldn't listen to it anymore, coughed, told my daughter-in-law that I was back, turned around and went into the kitchen to clean up, ready to cook.
After a while, my daughter-in-law came in and said to me with a smile on her face: Mom, it's hard work, my body is heavy these days, and I don't want to eat anything.
I could only endure the unhappiness in my heart, pretending to say something about the scene, so that my daughter-in-law could have a good rest, and I would call her when I was ready.
Who knows, when my son came home, he saw that I had made pork ribs, chicken wings, prawns, and three vegetarian dishes, and said very shamelessly:
"Mom, what's the matter with you, you're all here, don't you know what Xiaojiao likes to eat now?"
I said that these are nutritious things, eat more of them, it is good for the body.
My son said that I, who was harming my daughter-in-law, was about to give birth, and eating so many things would only make my daughter-in-law gain weight.
The daughter-in-law means that she wants to make herself grow less flesh and recover her figure after giving birth to a baby.
Then she told me directly how good it was, but she had to tell my son behind my back that I was not "sensible" and that I "harmed" her to grow meat.
When I was pregnant with my son, I would be moved to tears when anyone cooked so many ready-made delicacies for me.
The ex-husband didn't care at all, and the mother-in-law said that after she gave birth to a baby, she would have to cook for the whole family, and I don't know if it's true.
Anyway, my mother-in-law's generation and I are not as happy as my daughter-in-law's generation, and everything is arranged for marriage.
The son's wedding house was bought by the three parties with all the money, and my ex-husband and I paid 60 percent, and the rest was taken by my in-laws.
After they got married, the scooter was bought by their in-laws with the bride price, and the son and daughter-in-law went directly to live in a well-off life as soon as they got married.
After being chic for a few years, after I became pregnant, I don't know how much my in-laws funded, but I gave a reward of 1,500 yuan every month.
The confinement center fee was taken by my in-laws, and I gave 20,000 as soon as I came, and I was busy washing and washing at my son's house every day.
My daughter-in-law still thinks I'm not good, I'm not "sensible" enough, and I don't have someone else's mother-in-law's atmosphere and realm.
In the evening, my son deliberately said that he would take me downstairs to see the begonia flowers, saying that the begonias around the corner of the community were blooming.
After going downstairs, my son led me directly to the small square for a walk, and I was embarrassed while walking.
The son opened his mouth several times, but he didn't know what to say.
Looking at my son like this, I can guess a few points, but my daughter-in-law complained again.
I thought that my son would say that I would cook according to my daughter-in-law's request in the future and do housework.
Unbeknownst to me, my son actually offered to let me leave his house, clearly driving me away.
The son said that his daughter-in-law was in a bad mood in the past two days, and she was in a hurry with me, and she couldn't sleep well at night, and she was very uneasy.
My daughter-in-law was afraid that she would be prone to postpartum depression if she was so depressed, so she asked her son to persuade me to go home.
Because my daughter-in-law went to the confinement center, I didn't need to serve the confinement center, and when I got home, my in-laws came to help.
The son said that his daughter-in-law had already made an appointment with a nursery, and the child was out of the full moon, so the nursery teacher would take it, and the in-laws would help watch it.
And I live in my son's house, and I am a superfluous person, which is not only an eyesore, but also often makes my daughter-in-law unhappy.
Listening to my son's undisciplined chatter, I know that these are the daughter-in-law's thoughts and daughter-in-law's requirements.
I was sad in my heart, not only sad that my daughter-in-law was disrespectful to me, but also sad that my son didn't understand his mother's heart.
I came early, not to cause trouble, nor to enjoy happiness, but to see my grandson with blessings and sincerity.
It seems that I am still self-inflicted, I have nowhere to spend money, I pay love, I pay money, but I get disgust.
In my son's heart, I was not only redundant, but also affected his daughter-in-law's sleep and mood.
In my daughter-in-law's heart, I am a mother-in-law who is not up to grade, and I am also a mother-in-law who is ignorant and has no realm.
To get along with each other is to go to each other and give to each other, so that they can accompany each other in harmony for a longer time.
Raising children to prevent old age is just an excuse for his son to coax the old man to ask for money, and it is also an obsession of the old man himself.
People in the world often say: most of the conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are caused by men.
I think this is really very true, my son listened to his daughter-in-law's words, and only thought that I had done wrong, but did not show his own responsibility and responsibility, blindly followed his daughter-in-law's advice, and threw the problem to his own mother.
I don't think the problem between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a problem at all, if my son can make peace on both sides, he can reconcile with his own responsibility and filial piety.
My daughter-in-law told me directly that what she wanted me to do, and that the tone of discussion and discussion with me was better than what I was doing now.
For the son, who always uses the way of evading responsibility to directly hurt the mother, it can only make the conflict between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law worse and worse.
Although many people advise that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should not live together, I just want to see the born grandson and hug him with my own hands, is it also wrong.
I asked my son, did I really embarrass him living in his house, or did he not even think about reconciling?
The son bowed his head and was silent for a long time, and the son looked up and said, Mom, you feel sorry for me!
I finally saw it clearly and figured it out: children and grandchildren have their own blessings, and sons have their own people to protect when they grow up.
As a mother, I can let go, and I won't worry about it here.
As for the affairs of my son's family, if they do not take the initiative to invite me in the future, I will never take the initiative to come and help.
And in terms of money, if my son doesn't ask for money, or whatever, I have to learn to spend it on myself.
Dear mothers-in-law, please remember: if our children do not ask us for help, do not make your own decisions, and do not be sentimental, thankless, good things become bad things, and we ourselves are hurt by our children.
Do you think so?
Author: Huagui Zen Heart
Follow my words and go into your heart. You have a story, I have tea, and we can talk about the rest of our lives together.
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