Hello everyone, I am Sister Dimples, a 40-year-old second-child working mother.
All along, the direction of my writing has been backward compatibility, and the majority of parenting and parenting categories seem to rarely touch upwards: pay attention to our elders.
Today, I saw a video that resonated with me: What should I do? My parents can't stop watching short videos.
I can't help but want to say,This up master is simply my Internet mouthpiece.,Tell the current situation of the majority of parents who are currently addicted to short videos.。
In the video, it is said that now parents are watching short videos, and the intensity is really not low: eating brushes, washing dishes, squatting pit brushes, foot soaking brushes, and brushes before going to bed.
Before, I always felt that my parents replaced the elderly phone with a smartphone, which could only make phone calls, which was a sign of keeping pace with the times and continuous learning, which was good and positive.
Later, I found out that in the face of short videos, they are not only powerless, but also have no judgment ability~ As soon as you brush it up, it's an old addiction!
My mom is a little better, and sometimes she goes to the neighbor's house to chatter or something. What about my dad, brush when he is awake, brush it when he sleeps, and he doesn't wear headphones, so he plays it at the maximum volume~ Sometimes you gently turn off the phone for him, he immediately woke up and said in a daze: Don't turn it off, I'll listen to it~
Hey, did Da Zhang Wei's "Wash and Brush" predict this phenomenon a long time ago......
The author of the video said that at first, he didn't take his parents seriously watching short videos, at most it was a hobby, no different from playing mahjong, but then he found out that playing mahjong costs money at most, and short videos are really terrible!
01, parents like to brush up on all kinds of health rumors
That's so impressive!
Each of us has at least one group of "blind date and love family" in WeChat, and in my group, almost no one usually speaks, but there are two elders who are particularly active.
One is my eldest aunt and the other is my second aunt.
The two of them usually have nothing to do except take the children to cook.
My biggest hobby is to watch some short health videos, such as:
The three flavor medicine makes you live to 99;
If these five signs appear in the body, it means that you have a serious illness;
Eating persimmons and drinking yogurt took the life of an eight-year-old girl, and the truth behind it is thought-provoking.
It's a kind of title, we laugh it off when we see it, right? But they are convinced of it, and after reading it, they repost it to the group.
Not only that, for fear that you won't be able to see it in the group, but I also sent it to you privately and intimately.
You say, how should you deal with this "love" from your elders?
My cousin said that he basically doesn't read this kind of information when he receives it, and after a while, he looks at too many messages, and then selects them all--deletes.
My second aunt has also sent me a lot of these messages before, and I understand her old man's intentions, but in the face of obviously unreliable information, you can refute it, it seems impolite; respond, but you can't echo it······ In the end, I just pretended not to see it.
The video author said that his mother had a while, and he didn't know whose video he watched, saying that eating more spinach would prevent all diseases, so he fried spinach, cold spinach, and spinach cakes every day. This reminded him of the cartoon "Popeye" he watched when he was a child.
After a few days, my mother had a cold and fever, but she continued to dry spinach there, and the video author couldn't stand it, so he stuffed some fever medicine into his mother, and after a while, his mother ran over to show off when the fever subsided: You see, I said that spinach is useful! Eat more, and the fever really went away.
Haha, this logic really makes people speechless.
02, parents like to watch all kinds of family ethics dramas
In addition, another video that parents also like to watch is a short drama on family ethics, whose children are not filial to their parents, and whose husbands have abused their wives.
My dad often posts this kind of short video to the group, and I am speechless when I watch it: What does this mean?
Connotation of our children, not filial to the elderly? Or do you want us to learn like the male and female protagonists in the short video?
The author of the video said that the plot and acting skills of this kind of content are not important, the important thing is that the values conveyed are distorted and problematic.
He found out that his mother was obviously more irritable to him than before, snoring and drinking, and later found out that his mother had watched too many of these short videos, what children should serve tea and pour water for their parents, they should be obedient, if they can't do it, they will be unfilial, and they should be punished by God, and some videos also specifically provoke parent-child relationships, saying to parents, people who look down on you are relatives, and those who can pit you and harm you are your own people, so you must always guard against your own children.
What kind of stuff is this~
03, parents like to watch live broadcasts and buy things
Since there has been live streaming, my dad has basically said goodbye to a certain duoduo. At first, I thought he had stopped, and finally stopped buying and buying, but later I learned that it was a transfer of the battlefield and a live broadcast to bring goods.
And not only look, but also crazy order, the speed of the order is swishing.
Originally, I didn't have that need, and I didn't usually do laundry or anything, but all kinds of explosive salt, laundry detergent, vegetable seeds, etc., all bought at home.
You talk about him, he said lightly: It's not much, it's cheap!
Don't talk about him, he really can't stop the car.
For a while, as soon as I went back to my hometown, my dad shouted for me to see his courier, has this one been returned? Has that one been shipped? When will the refund arrive? Why can't I find that courier? I don't know if I bought it in a certain sound or a certain number, can you help me check······
It's a real headache.
Why are parents addicted to short videos?
01, nothing to do, boring
Why does the child like to use his mobile phone, because there is no one to play with him, he is bored. In turn, parents are the same, they are old, they don't have any hobbies, and there is no better substitute than watching short videos.
I thought about my mother, who guarded the store for many years, and now finally returned to her hometown to care for the elderly, but because she is older, she can't farm anymore, she usually cooks and chats with neighbors, most of the time she has nothing to do, and the short videos on her mobile phone are so colorful, she doesn't brush her phone, why do you go.
As a child, you want to try to bring your parents into more healthy entertainment, and simply admonishing and stopping them will not help. So what to do?
The following netizen's approach can be used as a reference:
Share my approach:
1. Preferences. When I want to watch videos, on the web side, use my mother's account to swipe. If you see a problem, report, block, or dislike it.
2. Check her watchlist, take off + block, and then follow the government, official media, and some verified accounts.
3. Teach yourself nutrition, tell my mother whenever you have time, and draw a mind map. She is in the second grade of primary school, and now knows what is going on with proteins, vitamins, and trace elements, which vegetables are healthier and more suitable for the elderly, and which things to eat as little as possible.
4. Self-study Baduanjin, teach her hand-in-hand, do it again in the morning and evening, up to now about 8 months, the head is not dizzy, the inconvenience is constipated, and the cervical spine does not hurt (not all the effects of Baduanjin, but also taking medicine and dietary therapy)
5. Every time she buys something online, I don't evaluate the quality or badness, I directly scan the same price comparison on Taobao to show her, the price is there, and she herself knows that she has lost money. After doing this a few times, she would take the initiative to ask me how to buy something cheaper. I took the opportunity to tell her what things had pitfalls, and searched for relevant anti-counterfeiting videos to show her.
At the beginning, she always told me that people are expensive, and you get what you pay for, but now she has forgotten what she said.
I have to say that this netizen is really too hard-working, and Sister Dimple is ashamed of herself!
But my parents probably don't want to brush their mobile phones all day, they later opened up a vegetable field in the small yard, and now it is the time of spring planting, the two of them hoe the ground every day, plant vegetables, water, stay away from electronic products, and exercise and exercise, which is also very good.
02, although the parents are old, they are young
The video author analyzed that the content in the short video is leftover for young people, but for parents, they have been in contact with smartphones for a short time, so they have no ability to distinguish and are easy to believe.
In fact, I think that some elderly people did not have the opportunity to go to school when they were young, and their education level and scientific literacy were not enough, so they believed what was advertised in the video, which was particularly easy to be fooled.
Also, they have a poor understanding of the medium. thinks that as long as the content can be broadcast on TV and mobile phones, it should be true and reliable, how can it deceive people!
03, the elderly group lacks roles like guardians
The author of the video said that if we were so addicted to short videos when we were children, our parents would definitely intervene. No matter what the means, he can cure us anyway, but now if parents are addicted to short videos, no one can cure them.
Because they lack a role like guardian.
I really didn't expect that.
What kind of existence do you think, what kind of existence do parents have? He has always educated his children, so how dare his children educate them in turn?
No matter what we say or do, they think you're still a child and won't take it to heart.
Write at the end:
As children, we should devote more time and energy to our parents and pay more attention to our parents.
Compared with material wealth, the fullness of the old man's heart is more important.
Call the old man every once in a while, go back to see them during the New Year's holidays, chat together, have a meal, just like the song sings: often go home to see, go home to see······
About Sister Dimple:
The 40-year-old second-child workplace mother, lifelong learning advocate. It advocates parenting through emotional guidance, not anxious, not irritable, growing together with the baby, focusing on parenting knowledge and women's personal growth sharing.