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My name is Wang Ming, I am 70 years old this year, and I am an old man who has retired and enjoyed Qingfu at home. I used to be an ordinary worker, and although I was not rich, I had a harmonious family and a full house of children and grandchildren. Now, my son, daughter-in-law, and grandson are all in the city, and they come back to see me every holiday, which is considered filial piety. However, since the Chinese New Year last year, I have had a thought: I want to go to my son's house for a while so that they can take care of me and I can accompany their family. I don't have much concern about that, after all, I'm so old that it's a bit boring to be alone at home. But I didn't expect that this idea of mine would lead to a series of contradictions.
During the Spring Festival last year, I was home alone, and my son's family went back to the city for the holiday. During the Spring Festival, I suddenly felt lonely, and I missed my son's family even more. Although they have their own lives in the city, I still hope that they can spend more time with me, especially on such important festivals. So, I sent a message to my son on WeChat, expressing my desire to go to the city and live with them for a while.
Unexpectedly, he replied quickly, but the content was beyond my expectations. He said: "Dad, it's okay if you want to come to the city for a while, but there are a few conditions you have to agree to. ”
I thought, of course, I'm willing to say yes, as long as I can be with them, I'm willing to do anything.
"Okay, what do you mean by that?" I replied eagerly.
He actually listed five conditions for me, which surprised me a little and made me a little dissatisfied. But when I carefully read these five conditions, I found that there is some truth in them.
"First of all," he said, "you have to take your medicine every morning and evening to keep your body healthy." Secondly, you should eat on time and in the right amount, and do not eat too much. Also, you need to be hygienic and keep your room tidy. The most important thing is that you follow the house rules and cannot interfere in our lives. In the end, you will have to pay a portion of your living expenses. ”
I looked at the conditions my son had listed and hesitated. While these conditions were reasonable, I felt a little uncomfortable. After all, I am his father, so why should I be prescribed the details of my life like a child? But on the other hand, I can't just say no, after all, I want to be with them, and these conditions are not too much for me.
"Son, these conditions ......," I said tentatively.
"Dad, these conditions are all for your good. He interrupted me, "If you don't think you can't, you don't come." My wife and I both have jobs and don't have time to take care of you all the time, and it's not safe for you to be home alone. ”
I listened to him, and although I was a little reluctant, I gritted my teeth and agreed. After all, he was right, it was really not safe for me to be alone at home as an elderly person, and they were also for my good.
So, I packed some of my belongings, said goodbye to the old house I had lived in for decades, and went to my son's house in the city. In the first few days, everything was fine, they took good care of me, bought me what I liked to eat and chatted with me. I also take my medicine on time, maintain hygiene, and try not to interfere in their lives.
But gradually, I noticed some problems. They are very busy at work every day, and when they come home, they simply finish their meals and go to bed. I'm home alone, and sometimes I feel lonely and don't know how to pass the time. Also, they were busy with work and more and more things at home, and I began to feel like a burden, and they became more and more impatient with me.
"Dad, let's see if it's time to take this medicine. My daughter-in-law said to me, pointing to the pill box on the table as she hurried to get ready for work.
"Okay, okay. I hurriedly took the medicine box, looked at my watch, and found that it was past the time to take the medicine, "I'll take it now." ”
"Remember to eat on time, don't forget. She hurriedly finished speaking, grabbed her bag and left.
I looked at her hurried back, and my heart was a little sour. Perhaps, I have really become a burden.
In their busy lives, I gradually felt that I had become inactive and even a little bored. Every day is a pattern, take medicine in the morning, wait for them to come back at noon to eat, stay at home alone in the afternoon, and go to bed after taking medicine at night. I started to feel like my life was meaningless, just killing time.
I'm starting to miss the days in the old house, which was simple but had everything I knew and the rhythm of life that I was used to. And here, I always felt out of place, a superfluous existence.
One night, I was alone in my room in a daze, filled with helplessness and loneliness. I began to think about what I came here for, to be with them, or to let them take care of me, and whether the relationship between me and them was family affection or interest.
Just as I was feeling conflicted, my son pushed open the door and walked in.
"Dad, why aren't you sleeping yet?" he asked, looking at me.
"It's nothing, it's just a little homesick. I replied in a low voice.
"Hey, don't be bored in the room all the time, we're all busy, and we don't have time to accompany you, just find something to do by yourself. He said helplessly.
I listened to his words, and my heart ached. I know he's telling the truth, their work is really busy, and it's really not safe for me to be alone at home as an elderly person, but I still feel a little wronged. I didn't come here to be an accessory in their lives, I also have my own feelings and needs.
"Okay, I see. I replied helplessly, and he hurried out of the room again.
On days like these, I began to feel more and more redundant, and I began to wonder if I should have stayed here. But at the same time, I felt like I couldn't get out because I was used to this kind of life and didn't know where to go.
One night, I was alone in my room again, confused and uneasy. I began to doubt the meaning of my own here, I felt like I had become a useless being, a burden, an outcast. My heart was filled with fear and anxiety about the future, I didn't know what my life was going to look like, and I didn't know how long I could hold on.
Just when I was feeling helpless and confused, my son suddenly walked into my room.
"Dad, are you still worried?" he asked, looking at me, with a hint of concern on his face.
"Son, I ......" I wanted to say something, but I didn't know where to start.
He sat on the edge of my bed and patted me on the shoulder, "Dad, I actually know that it wasn't easy for you to come here, and we didn't mean to make you feel uncomfortable. It's just that we have a lot of things to do every day, and sometimes we really can't take care of you. ”
I listened to his words and was deeply moved. Perhaps, I have never understood their suffering, and I have been struggling with my own feelings, and ignoring their hard work and dedication.
"Son, I'm sorry, I haven't understood you all along. I was moved and said, "I know, I'm going to try to adapt to life here." ”
He smiled and shook my hand, "Dad, you know what? We really want to be with you, but we are too busy with work to take care of you sometimes." But we all love you and want you to be happy here. ”
I looked into his eyes and felt his sincerity and love. Perhaps, I have been bothered by my own feelings and neglected their love and expectations. I suddenly felt as if I understood something, understood the meaning of being here, understood the relationship between myself and them.
"Thank you, son. I said excitedly, "I'm going to try to adapt to life here, and I'm going to try not to trouble you." ”
He smiled and patted my hand gently, "Dad, don't say that, we are a family, and it is right to take care of each other." ”
With his encouragement and support, I felt like I had regained my direction and courage. Perhaps, I did not come here to enjoy happiness and be cared for, but to be with them, to feel family affection and warmth. I decided that even if life was difficult, I would try to adapt and try to fit into their lives, because I knew that I was a family and had their love and support.
As time went on, I gradually adapted to life in the city and became more comfortable with my son's family. I take my medicine on time every day to keep my body healthy, and I try not to trouble them, and when I have free time, I help with household chores, tell my grandchildren stories from my childhood, and share life with them.
One day, my son and I were drinking tea and chatting in the living room, and he suddenly said, "Dad, my wife and I have been thinking about a problem recently. ”
"What's the problem?" I asked curiously.
"It's about your residence. "We know you're not very comfortable when you come to the city, and we don't want to leave you home all the time. So, we want to ask you if you'd like to consider living in a nursing home. ”
I listened to him and was a little shocked. I never thought I'd live in a nursing home, let alone make such a suggestion.
"Son, how can you say that?" I said with some emotion, "I am your father, how can you send me to a nursing home?"
Seeing that I was excited, he quickly explained: "Dad, don't get me wrong, we are not trying to abandon you, but considering your quality of life and safety. With professional caregivers in nursing homes, your life will be more secure, and there will be more elderly people who can accompany you. ”
After listening to his explanation, although I understood a little in my heart, I still felt a little uncomfortable. "But son, I don't want to go to a nursing home, I still want to live with you. "I tried to hide my emotions and try to make them understand what I wanted.
He sighed and patted me lightly on the shoulder, "Dad, we also made this suggestion for your own good, and you also know that we are busy with work and can't take care of you, and it's not safe for you to be home alone." Moreover, just because you go to a nursing home doesn't mean we don't care about you anymore, we will still visit you often. ”
I listened to him, and although I was still a little reluctant, I also understood their distress. "Well, since you all think so, then I'll listen to you. I said helplessly.
"Dad, thank you for your understanding. He looked at me gratefully, "We will find you a good nursing home as soon as possible, you can rest assured." ”
Listening to his words, although I felt a little sad in my heart, I also knew that it was for my own good. Perhaps, I really need a safer and more comfortable environment to spend my old age. I prayed silently, hoping that I would find joy and fulfillment in my new surroundings.
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