When she cries for the first time in swaddling clothes, when she babbles and screams to your mom and dad, when she stumbles and pounces on you bravely as a toddler, I believe you must want to give her all the best things in the world and love her for the rest of your life.
But as parents for the first time, we are apprehensive and gratified to watch her grow day by day, there are new changes, but sometimes confused, I don't know how to face these changes, this book, like giving you a copy of your daughter's growth process book, so that you have more confidence in the process of guiding her.
For example, the book highly summarizes the relationship between a girl and her mother and father, and how to guide and accompany her as a mother and father when she grows up.
Parents are role models for their daughters
"Role models are a very beneficial sunshine to children's hearts, and there is no substitute for this sunshine. ”
For parents, home education should first and foremost be self-education. Good parents will use their own example to support their children's lives.
The mother is the most influential female role model in her daughter's life, and how to deal with pressure, how to solve problems, and how to interact with people, daughters will learn the first lesson from their mother.
Knowing this, so that mothers can re-examine themselves and be a relaxed, optimistic, gentle and firm mother, their daughters will have the best start in life.
The father is the most important role of the opposite sex in the daughter's initial life, and a good father can provide his daughter with enough security for a lifetime.
He tends to be more interesting and out-of-the-box than his mother.
He may not be able to accompany him all the time, but he is by no means absent, they respect the child, know how to listen, and are willing to explore her interests with their daughter.
Every day, we grow under the watchful eye of our children. In the process of getting along with children, we should pay special attention to our own behavior, strictly restrain ourselves, and always realize that our every move is a model for children to learn.
Parents should not only tell their children what is right, but also demonstrate it themselves, so that they can learn the correct values and codes of conduct by observing our behavior.
When we are always obsessed with small videos on our mobile phones, it is difficult to have enough time to spend with our children. We can set up some mobile phone disabling times to allow ourselves to spend quality time with our children. Believe me, those moments of playing and communicating with children will become precious memories.
Actively participating in family activities, especially with children, is a great way to strengthen the parent-child relationship. You can do housework together, watch movies together, travel together, explore nature together, and every subtle interaction can make children feel the warmth of family.
We also want to do meaningful things with our children. Nurturing your child's hobbies, reading, learning, and exploring with them can have a positive impact on your child.
Through every interaction with children, let our behavior become a role model for children to learn, and only by being the best role model can we lead children to a better future and become a soul navigator in their lives.
The law of girls' growth
Every girl has her own characteristics, but there are commonalities in the development of girls' physical and mental health.
0~2 years old, sense of security.
For the child's physical and emotional needs, give full satisfaction, so that the child feels loved The belief will take root in the heart and accompany it for a lifetime. At this stage, do not educate, only enjoy.
2~5 years old, exploring.
In safe conditions, explore to your heart's content. It's best to be in nature (good for the eyes), don't set limits, set rules, and follow them gently but firmly. Raising strong girls starts at a young age.
5~10 years old, socialize with people.
Friendship is the oxygen of girls, and it should also be pleasant to get along with people, and you must know how to avoid bad friends.
Teach her to learn to deal with feelings, which is a compass for getting along with people. Learn about the characteristics of puberty and prepare in advance.
10~14 years old, understand the heart.
Help children discover themselves, ignite sparks (talent, character), find inner satisfaction, learn to listen, pay sincere attention and companionship, invest in nature, and read more to enrich their hearts.
She needed someone to help her figure out what she endorsed and supported, what she cared about most, and what her interests and passions were.
14~18 years old, stepping into the adult world.
Develop the skills to live independently and learn to take responsibility for your own life (starting small). 18 years old does not mean adulthood, but only the beginning of adulthood.
At this stage, it depends on whether you can be responsible for yourself. Although the child is physically the same as an adult, he is not yet mentally mature.
Therefore, while fully respecting their daughter, parents should clearly stipulate with their children what time they must be at home at night, prohibit drinking, and instruct her where and who to be with at all times. It may be a bit old-fashioned and unpopular, but that's where parents are responsible.
While the girl is still in the mother's womb, the girl's body begins to secrete estrogen, which promotes the rate of their brain development.
So, from the day of birth, girls have a level of brain development a few weeks earlier than boys.
This can be explained by the fact that girls' language, reading and fine motor skills are generally better developed than boys of the same age in primary school.
The reason why the top students in elementary school are mostly girls, and it is not until high school and college that boys gradually catch up with and surpass girls.
What kind of girls are we going to raise?
The author leaves a message for the parents of all girls: One day, when your daughter grows up, you will be proud and satisfied to see the connection between the childhood you gave her and the strength and quality she has today.
Even if you leave her, a good woman will continue to live, and she will pass on everything you have taught her to her offspring.
To raise a girl with a strong heart, educate your girl to be independent and understand that her own value comes from herself, not relying on the evaluation of others.
As a mother of a daughter, it is a very important topic to give her a rich spirit, and how to cultivate a confident, optimistic, elegant and steady girl is a very important topic!
Love can nourish a girl's life and let her know that she is very important, and role model education can regulate her life, and no matter what happens, there are clear guidelines.
Parents need to manage their emotions and teach their children the ability to stay calm and be happier.
Parents should be kind and firm in their dealings with others in order to set an example for their children.
Parents should communicate with the girl with sincerity, so that the child will respond to you with sincerity.
When your daughter is in danger, you can give feedback calmly, friendly, and decisively, and I believe that your daughter can face it bravely like you!
If you are a mother, your daughter is your replica, so no matter what happens to you, in front of your daughter, be sure to be a perfect woman as much as possible and be a role model for her!
If you're a dad, in order to set a high standard for the men who will help your daughter appear in her life in the future, be it kind to all the women around you, whether it's your daughter, your mother, or any other female friend or relative.
There is such a point of view that "a woman's thinking cultivation will affect a family, and raising a daughter well is equivalent to affecting a family." ”
Write to the end
Parents can directly turn to the corresponding part according to the age group of their children and the problems they are suffering, and find answers from the cases in the book and the parents' class.
Overall, this book is still perfect for bedside or desk, and when the daughter is suffering from growing pains, mom and dad can flip through it to get some educational inspiration and grow with their daughter.
The meaning of education is to make the child an independent individual, and the correct parenting is to give her the ability to walk the road in the future!
Raising a child is a marathon, the child will eventually break free and be independent, and all we parents have to do is make a little hint when she needs help, and let her do the rest to do what she wants...
Imagine what kind of person we want our children to be?