In reality, some brothers and sisters always make us unhappy, which also makes our parents very nerve-wracking.
In fact, this is not only a matter of interests, but also directly related to their character flaws.
Character flaws are the result of a person's past experiences. You can't be easily shaken, and it's not something you can change with wishful thinking.
Knowing this, you will be able to understand, and even predict, the next move of your siblings. This is the law of character, and it is also the law of human nature.
If your siblings get along with you like enemies, this exposes his 3 character flaws.
See if there is one, the same situation as your family?
01 Paranoia
In reality, there is a class of brothers and sisters who are very vexatious.
It's not that you did something wrong, it's up to you. And in my heart, I never remember your goodness, and I only think badly.
There are many things that you don't think about at all, don't do that, and he has to rely on you.
Such brothers and sisters may have delusions of victimization. What do you mean?
Let's say you've done your siblings a lot of favors in the past. Including money and things, you have given a lot.
He should have thanked you, but he still blamed you, as if his life problems were all your fault.
There are also some nonsense words, which are really unbearable.
In reality, some brothers and sisters may have delusions of being killed. It's always suspicious that we're going to hurt them, and we're suspicious of our malice. But actually, we don't have any.
The character flaw of this kind of sibling is to think of people in everything to the worst degree.
He also likes to throw some black pots on our heads.
Even if you treat them well, it won't end very well.
02 Extreme snobbery and lack of empathy
In reality, if your siblings are extremely snobbish and lack empathy, you will suffer greatly.
For example, if you don't have a lot of money, your brothers and sisters come to you and borrow a lot of money.
You refused, clarified your reasons, and the other party scolded you, saying that you were too cold-blooded to ignore the feelings of your brothers and sisters.
But in fact, he didn't think about it at all, and there are places where you need money in your own life.
This kind of person is a person who lacks empathy.
Thinking only of oneself in everything, lacking empathy for others.
You will suffer greatly with them.
In reality, if your brothers and sisters lack empathy, and as a result, you are very soft-hearted, then you will suffer a lot.
If you don't believe me, you can look at the follow-up.
03 Bad rationalized thinking
In reality, we humans will make rational explanations for our behavior.
Let's say we like to have a drink. We know it's not good for our health, but we rationalize it and say it's relaxing. Let this matter be reasonable.
If your siblings have a very unobjective rationalized thinking, you may be very guilty.
For example, he will interpret your kindness as thinking about your own interests, not for him.
You'll be innocent.
It's like you helped your brother and sister, and it was completely for the sake of his pitiful and sad face, and you went to contribute money and efforts.
As a result, he said, you are doing it for your own insidious purposes.
This rationalization is a distortion of you.
All in all, look at the words and deeds of your siblings, you have to be able to see the essence.
Thus predicting some of their bad words and deeds in the future.
Then do prevention early to be better for yourself.