In reality, there is a "strange phenomenon" in interpersonal relationships: some people obviously look down on each other, but they still have to stay in a small circle, and even be affectionate, which is really incomprehensible.
There are also some people, after we have been in contact for a long time, we will inadvertently find that they despise us and disagree with our lives.
Truth be told, people are such strange creatures. You can actually wronged yourself and do this kind of thing.
What is the reason for this kind of phenomenon? Why do some people still insist on associating with others despite looking down on others? Isn't it uncomfortable?
01 Psychological factors
In reality, the reason why some people insist on associating with people they don't like is often because of psychological factors.
That is, he gets along with each other and can gain a huge psychological advantage.
even let him get enough say in what he says and does.
This kind of control made him intoxicated and unable to extricate himself.
For example, in many of our relationships, there will be a dominant party. This person is usually the one who has the final say.
There will be a relationship between husband and wife, and there will also be a relationship between friends. This is the power structure in relationships.
The reason why some people look down on others and insist on dating is because they occupy this power and don't want to give it up.
It's that simple.
If this person gets out of this environment and enters a new circle, he may encounter new challenges.
Others may not listen to him, and he will lose the right to speak.
His "comfort" in this circle will also disappear.
Therefore, he is reluctant to quit the current interpersonal relationship.
02 After horizontal comparison, it was found that there was a good income
In reality, most adults are not stupid, and it is a better choice to know how to treat themselves.
If a person is willing to put up with other people in the circle, then it is quite possible that he is here and has a good profit.
This kind of income makes up for that dissatisfaction.
For example, some people don't look down on the people in the circle at all.
But with this circle, it is easier for him to get some contacts and various opportunities to make money.
Or get some food, drink and merry.
In this case, why can't he endure it?
In reality, adults often endure socially.
That being the case, there is nothing wrong with being patient with your own contempt.
03 Thinking inertia
In reality, the reason why some people look down on others and mix together is because of the huge inertia of thinking.
We all have the inertia of thinking.
The TV shows you like to watch, the type of food you like to eat, and the type of person you like are all habitual.
The same is true when it comes to socializing.
We are used to socializing with some people, which is a kind of inertia. Once you change, it's uncomfortable.
For example, some people, who you have played together since childhood, have long been involved in each other's lives, how can they be easily separated?
There are also some relationships that are not easy to separate.
For example, the relationship between relatives, husband and wife, old classmates, and colleagues.
It is not so easy for people to get rid of this inertia.
In reality, if you notice that the people around you look down on you, you actually have to weigh it carefully.
If the other party has a bad character, then you have to be careful.
Maybe he will hurt you in the future, maybe too!