There is a term in psychology called "emotional deprivation", which simply means that one party obtains love through material things, while the other party satisfies his or her emotional needs through spiritual comfort.
In this materialistic society, more and more people begin to lose themselves and ignore their true inner needs in pursuit of material satisfaction.
Many people think that the lack of love is due to the lack of material foundation, but in fact, people who really lack love are often more attracted by external temptations.
So you have to know that if a woman lacks love for a long time, these 3 characteristics will be obvious in her.
- Insecurity and fear of loss
"There is so much security in life that comes entirely from the efforts of others.
If you don't have that kind of dedication, you will feel uneasy. —Anonymous
An insecure person is always afraid of losing, because she is afraid that others will be good to her, but she doesn't know how to repay others.
Their inner world is full of contradictions and entanglements, both longing to be loved and afraid of being loved, both wanting more love and fearing to lose themselves because of it.
is like Li Siyu in the TV series "Dear Yourself", her father died when she was a child, and her mother remarried soon after.
Therefore, she always lives alone and does not dare to enter into marriage easily. And she pinned all her hopes on her boyfriend Chen Yiming, so even though she knew that there was no love between Chen Yiming and Li Siyu, she still chose to stick to this relationship.
And such an insecure woman is also the most easily attracted to people outside.
- I like to be independent and don't like to trouble others
A woman who lacks love often has a very obvious characteristic, that is, she likes to be independent and does not like to trouble others.
It is difficult for them to trust others, they always take their own affairs very seriously, they are very confident in themselves, they are more decisive in doing things, and they never drag their feet.
But if a woman lacks love for a long time, she will lack this independent spirit, and she will not be at ease with anything.
No matter what you do, you have to do it yourself, and you don't like to trouble others. Even if you go out to buy things by yourself, you have to go by yourself, and you are never willing to trouble others.
Such women are insecure, fragile and sensitive in their hearts, and they are in great need of the love and care of others, so once they meet someone they can rely on or someone who loves her enough, they will fall into the arms of this person.
Because only in this moment can they feel the value and meaning of their existence.
And women who have been lacking love for a long time often live a humble life, because they are used to waiting for others to love them, and they will be sad and sad if they do not get anything in return. This state of affairs is very scary.
- Lack of self-confidence and always doubt yourself
There is a "self-fulfilling prophecy" in psychology, which means that when you give the impression of someone as a confident person, then you will become like this.
A woman who has been lacking love for a long time will become very inferior when she gets along with others, and even doubt herself.
Just like Wang Manni in "Thirty Only", she has her own ideas and opinions at work, but she always doubts herself because of other people's opinions.
And it was this kind of self-doubt and denial that made her have a wrong perception of herself, thinking that she was a worthless and incapable person.
It is precisely because of such unconfident and self-denying emotions that she behaves very humbly in her relationship.
Whether it is for work or love, they will subconsciously belittle themselves and others to gain a sense of security.
Because in their opinion, this is the only way to make their lives easier.
Therefore, these 3 characteristics of a woman who has been lacking love for a long time will be obvious, if you have such people around you, you must learn to care for them, understand them, and respect them.