When people get along with others, what they are most afraid of is "misunderstanding", and what they are more afraid of is "not explaining".
There will be misunderstandings and estrangements between people. If you don't explain, you will be misunderstood. Sometimes, when we don't understand some of the actions of others, we always try to explain them and want to get an explanation.
But some people's explanations are invalid. Not only did he fail to make others understand him, but he also hurt himself.
In fact, you don't really have to explain anything when getting along with people. You see, it's futile to explain to these people.
For this kind of person and thing, explaining to him is a waste of time and energy, and it will hurt you a lot.
- People who don't want to hear your explanation
"When you're explaining, you're already losing, because people always like to hear stories rather than reason. ”
In life, some people may not understand you and don't want to listen to your explanations, such people generally treat you as an inconsequential person in their hearts. Their inner drama is: I don't need to explain it to you, you don't understand me.
is like Zhong Xiaoqin in the TV series "Thirty Only", she fell in love with a male colleague, so she went to explain, but the male colleague thought she was hypocritical, and there was no need to explain.
These kinds of people are very selfish people who only like to hear what they want to hear. For those who don't want to listen to your explanation, there's no point in explaining it to him.
So when you meet this kind of person in your life who doesn't want to listen to your explanation, you don't need to explain anything to him. Otherwise, you'll only hurt yourself.
- People who have a bad attitude towards you
"Some people have attitudes that make you angry, even speechless, but you have to accept it. —Anonymous
Some people just don't like you, so everything you do is wrong, and everything you do doesn't go well. So he will have a bad attitude towards you, and always wants to find an opportunity to teach you a lesson and let you know how good he is.
If you don't explain, he will think you are cowardly, and he will be even more unscrupulous. So at this time, you'd better just go and explain.
He doesn't think about other people's feelings, and he doesn't think about others. If you explain it to him at this time, it will only make yourself more painful.
So for those who have a bad attitude towards you, there is no need to explain anything at all. Because there is no point in explaining to such people, and there is no need to get yourself hurt.
- People who look down on you
"Not being able to work happily is the biggest failure. —Bacon
At work, you will always meet some people who look down on you, such people are actually the most hypocritical, and the more you explain to him, the more he feels that you are against him. The best way to get along with this kind of person is not to explain and let yourself not be wronged.
The real meaning of not explaining is to tell others: I don't care, I don't need you to understand, you say what you like, I don't want to deal with you.
In fact, everyone has self-esteem and vanity, and if the other party looks down on you, no matter how you explain it, it is useless. So instead of arguing with the other party in this situation, it is better to choose silence.
The best way to deal with those who look down on you is to ignore his existence and not get yourself in trouble.
- Someone who has no enmity with you
"When people are angry, they have zero IQ. —Anonymous
When people are angry, they lose their minds and do things that they regret.
When you find that there is someone around you who is very nice to you, takes good care of you, gives you warmth, and does not have any hostility towards you. Then please cherish him, because he has made you a friend.
When a person has no hatred for you, it means that he doesn't care about your feelings. With such a person, we don't have to explain anything to him.
Because he doesn't care about it. And there is no point in explaining with such people.