We all want to be with one, where every minute and every second is sweet and there is no pain.
In fact, all feelings, that are mixed blessings.
We all want all marriages to be good, exactly what we imagined them to be.
In fact, marriage is just very dull, and there will be a lot of stumbles.
Marry a person, no matter how much two people love each other at the beginning, no matter how good the relationship is, gradually, everything will become very bland, and even there will be a lot of problems, and there will be no happiness at all.
Because there is a big gap between marriage and imagination, and there are too many problems, many people will be disappointed and want to give up.
A marriage, if it is really too sad, not suitable for each other, the other party has a problem, and it is really not cherished, there is nothing wrong with divorce. It's just that you can have the right and ability to divorce, but it's best not to give up your marriage easily.
That person may not be so bad.
I often meet some couples, one person wants to divorce, but there is just a little quarrel with each other, the other party does not agree with his own intention in one matter, replies to the message late, does not buy his favorite dishes, etc.
It's very small things, and then put those things infinitely, and start to feel that the marriage is very unbearable and the other party is not worth it.
If you always use a magnifying glass to look at one thing, one person, then all marriages will probably only be very unbearable.
It is not advisable to make too much fuss, because a few small things will deny everything, or even act impulsively, for a person, a relationship, and each other's feelings, it should still be objective.
Be calm, be rational, when we can look at each other objectively and treat problems, we will actually realize that the other party is really not doing well in some small places, but in some big places, many small places, it is still very good.
It's not that bad, it's not that undesirable, there are still some very warm moments and behaviors.
In a marriage, it is always easy to ignore the good of the other party, and always focus on the bad, and once you give up and divorce the other party, it is easy to turn around, and you will start to magnify the good of the other party, and you will really regret it at that time.
Rather than regretting it later, or even not going back, you should cherish it from the beginning, think more about the good of the other party, and what is good for yourself.
Finding a divorce is often more difficult than you think.
Most people, even if they choose to get divorced, will not go alone from now on, and will still look for it again.
And ending a marriage and then looking for it, it is indeed possible to find a good one, but it is also possible that you can't find a good one after looking for it, and the person you are looking for is not even as good as the one you once was.
Some of the more high-quality opposite sex will not divorce at all, there will be some more reliable divorces, still single, but the probability of finding it is not so high, the circle is too limited, I don't know each other at all, and I won't know each other.
What's more, at that time, they were already a certain age, and they didn't have so much passion anymore. I will no longer love anyone so hard, and how much sincerity I am willing to show will only become more practical.
Second marriage has never been difficult, too many just live together, and they can't warm each other's hearts at all.
On this basis, there will also be a lot of problems, if not the previous ones, but they will be different.
There is no such thing as a marriage without problems, many times, it is just a matter of jumping from one pit to another, and even the subsequent marriage may be a little worse, with more to bear and more dissatisfied.
So, if it's not a big problem and it's not very tormenting, you might as well adjust your mentality and continue to live well.
Be more tolerant of each other and work harder.
Will choose a person, marry a person, it means that you are still more satisfied with the other party, and you value a certain quality in the other party, in this case, you have become a family, don't always be so harsh.
Before getting married, you should screen well, don't marry anyone randomly, and after marriage, you should close your eyes appropriately and be stupid.
When the other party is always accommodating to us and tolerating us, we must also be more accommodating to the other party and tolerant of each other.
Too many marriages, in the endurance is never only themselves, the other party is the same, there will also be a lot of opinions, just for the relationship with each other, in order to be able to continue to be good, so I chose to swallow.
To have such an awareness, you should also try to manage it well and maintain each other's families with each other.
No one and who will be completely suitable, there is no friction in getting along, in the face of contradictions, for problems, you can't always think of changing people, using the way of escape, you have to try to communicate with each other well, solve problems.
Understand each other's needs, know each other's thoughts, understand each other, and then find a way to get along with each other.
can all work hard, make some changes, and find a way of life that makes each other comfortable, so that each other can make progress, and the marriage will be really meaningful, and they can all benefit, instead of feeling tormented.
Don't divorce easily, you might as well save it first.
As long as they really have feelings for each other and are willing to live well, then, as long as they try to reconcile and restore their relationship with each other, it will often have an effect, and they will make each other find their place more and more and find a way to treat each other.
There are too many things, and it takes continuous effort to achieve success.
The relationship between people always needs to go through a certain run-in before it can gradually get better.
Since you recognize the other person, there is no problem with your character, and you really like each other, so there is nothing that you can't get by.
Go for what you can fight for, and fight for what you want.
Get some, as for more, it's really not good, don't worry too much, look a little away, you can't want everything.
Text / Tan Meng
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