Recently, an article "The Death of My Wife" swept the Internet.
In the first person, the author chronicles his wife's medical treatment in Canada.
The length of the pen and ink is equivalent to half a memoir.
In the article, there are accusations of the shortcomings of the Canadian healthcare system.
There are also memories of deceased wives and expressions of grief.
This kind of self-narration of life and death parting, it stands to reason, can easily touch the softest part of the reader's heart and cause compassion.
But this time public opinion is very divided.
Under the hot search related to "The Death of My Wife", there is no sympathy for the original author, but accusation and ridicule.
Some readers may not have read this article yet.
Let me first summarize the experience of Zhang Min (wife) in "The Death of My Wife".
Mr. and Mrs. Zhang Min are Chinese-Canadians.
In August 2023, Zhang Min's family underwent a full body physical examination.
The results were unremarkable.
A month later, Zhang Min felt a little unwell and saw a family doctor.
The doctor also said that there was no abnormality.
Three months later, on November 9, 2023, Zhang Min was in so much pain that she went to the hospital to see an emergency.
Preliminary judgment of the emergency department: it should be tuberculosis and need to be hospitalized, you go back first, and an ambulance will come to your door tomorrow.
Zhang Min went home.
The next day, from morning to 4 p.m., the hospital ambulance still did not come.
Seeing that the hospital was going to release pigeons, Zhang Min decided not to wait, called a taxi himself, and went straight to the hospital.
And this time, he never came back.
On November 10, 2023, Zhang Min was hospitalized.
What happened after that was both heartbreaking and unsettling.
On the 14th, tuberculosis was ruled out and lung cancer was suspected.
On the 17th, he was diagnosed with lung cancer, which spread rapidly.
Seeing the "spread of cancer", even people without medical knowledge know that it is necessary to treat it as soon as possible.
After all, if you wait one more day, the risk of cancer spreading increases.
The response of the Canadian doctor was absurd:
Tomorrow is the weekend, there is no doctor on duty, and you need to wait for Monday for the specific treatment plan.
Zhang Min was so painful that the doctor didn't even prescribe medicine.
Finally made it to Monday.
The attending doctor gave Zhang Min a treatment plan:
Genetic testing is needed to determine the cause, but genetic testing takes up to 2 weeks to produce results.
Before the results are available, it can only be speculated empirically that this is an EGFR gene mutation, and it is recommended to take the corresponding targeted drugs.
There was no choice, Zhang Min could only follow the doctor's advice to take anti-cancer drugs.
can be taken for a period of time, Zhang Min did not get better at all.
The cancer cells also spread to the heart.
Lives are at stake.
After 2 weeks, the results are in.
The doctor said: I'm sorry, I gave you the wrong medicine, and the genetic test result was an EGFR-20 gene mutation, not an EGFR gene mutation.
Zhang Min asked: Is there any salvation?
The doctor bluntly said that there is no specific drug for EGFR-20 gene mutations, and it is recommended that you receive hospice care.
Zhang Min's hard-fought will collapsed in an instant.
"I accept, I agree to give up the treatment. ”
As soon as the voice fell, in less than a minute, the doctor arranged for a nurse to inject Zhang Min with morphine.
Then, like cleaning, in the blink of an eye, he pulled out all kinds of pipes and instruments on Zhang Min's body.
Zhang Min is in a "semi-vegetative" state.
There was no pain, and there was no hope of living.
The husband was unwilling to despair, so he checked the information himself, and found that the EGFR-20 gene has a special drug, and there are two kinds of drugs.
Unfortunately, because of the large amount of morphine injected, it was too late to re-administer the drug.
On November 30, 2023, Zhang Min passed away forever.
From Zhang Min's medical treatment, we can see the biggest bug in the Canadian medical system: drag, super drag!
To put it another way, medical resources are tight and hospital operations are extremely inefficient!
It may be very puzzling to everyone, but Canada is a developed country, and there is money, why is it so difficult to see a doctor?
Because Canada is "free health care for all".
The Canadian Treasury allocates 40% of the annual public health expenditure, which is quite high.
As long as you obtain Canadian status and pay taxes according to the law, you don't have to pay a penny for medical treatment. Whether it is a fever or cold, or treatment of a serious illness.
At first glance, everyone doesn't need money to see a doctor, how good it is, everyone has security.
But everyone, don't forget, there is no such thing as a free lunch, and everything has a price.
Free health care will undermine the real supply and demand relationship in the market.
For example, if you want to have a minor surgery, there is not much risk.
If you charge for medical treatment, you will weigh the options according to your own situation.
If it's free, you'll think, why don't you go to the best hospital? Why don't you hang up the best specialists? Why don't you get a full body check-up by the way? No money anyway!
Therefore, when medical care is free, it will inevitably cause a run on resources.
A minor illness can drag you into a big illness, and a major illness awaits a burp.
That's the case in Canada today.
Pictured: The sentiments of a blogger who settled in Canada
After complaining about Canada's medical system, let's talk about the shamelessness of the male protagonist (husband) in "The Death of My Wife".
Through the past tweets of the male protagonist's official account, I roughly know his experience with the female protagonist:
The heroine, born in 1986, is a super scholar.
I met my husband who was a teenager older than me in college, and got married after graduation.
In 2013, she scored 118 points in TOEFL (nearly a perfect score) and was admitted to the MBA of Tulane University Business School in the United States, and won a full scholarship.
The heroine went to study in the United States.
During this period, he had excellent grades and was the only student in the class who graduated with straight A's.
At the same time, he also obtained an H1B work visa, which allowed him to develop in the United States for a long time and have a bright future.
However, the heroine can't let go of her husband on the other side of the ocean.
Soon he gave up his U.S. work visa and returned to Shanghai to earn a living.
In 2019, the heroine was pregnant with her third child.
The male protagonist works within the system.
At that time, the policy had not yet released the third child, so if you choose to have a child, your job may not be guaranteed.
The two finally decided:
Go to Canada on a travel visa to give birth to a child.
The female protagonist is a scholar and applies for a master's degree in Canada to get a study visa.
During this period, the heroine looked for another job, striving to get a work visa and obtain immigration status.
After going to Canada, the heroine's life is very passive.
Because it is a travel visa, you cannot enjoy medical insurance, and you can go to the hospital at your own expense.
In order to save money, the heroine gave birth in a rental house.
After giving birth, the heroine began to live like a cow and a horse.
She found a full-time job as a bank clerk to cover the family's main financial expenses.
The travel visa is very short.
In order to obtain a legal identity, the heroine has to study hard in her spare time and take a master's degree in Canada.
In order to improve the family economy, the heroine also started a side job: opening grade tutoring classes.
"In the basement of my house, there is a six-hour teaching activity once a week in the Primary School Olympiad and Chinese and English. ”
Picture: Original text of "The Death of My Wife".
Why did the male protagonist go?
The male protagonist said that he was not good at English, so it was difficult to find a job, and he was mainly responsible for taking care of the children.
Okay, since the wife is capable, the female protagonist is outside the male protagonist, and it is okay.
But some details make people speechless.
The male protagonist has been in Canada for many years, but he still can't drive, and he doesn't have a driver's license.
You must know that in the sparsely populated country of Canada, not being able to drive is equivalent to "no legs".
When I go out to buy groceries and pick up and drop off my children, I can only let my wife do it.
The male protagonist shows off on social platforms: When his wife is here, she cooks, and her skills are so good!
In the article "The Death of My Wife", many details do not stand up to deep scrutiny.
The male protagonist said that from the doctor asking his wife's wishes to the injection of a large amount of maca for "hospice care", it was only 1 minute before and after, which was too unreasonable!
Yes, it's very unreasonable.
But as a husband, why don't you forcibly stop it? Why don't you call the police to delay the time (so that the wife has more time to think about it)? Why do you still allow this regret to happen?
Injected with muffin, the heroine fell into a semi-coma.
Ironically, the male protagonist is not worried about his wife's life, but desperately calls for his wife to write a will quickly.
The content of the will is: appoint the husband as the executor of the property.
Picture: Original text of "The Death of My Wife".
The most incredible thing is the end of "The Death of My Wife".
The male protagonist actually attached the QR code for receiving the payment.
Picture: Original text of "The Death of My Wife".
After the collection was restricted, the male protagonist guided the reader in the message area: Come and add this WeChat XX, buy a book for the little baby (money).
If the female protagonist is still rescuing, and the male protagonist comes out to raise donations, I can understand and support it.
But after the death of his wife, under the guise of remembering his deceased wife and raising children, he cheated donations, this shameless behavior, I will just say:
Don't be too Lin Shengbin!
The tragic character of the male protagonist is disgusting.
The heroine's unfortunate experience is distressing and thought-provoking-
Nowadays, women often face a dilemma, choose to focus on the family and give up their careers, and others may say that you are not motivated and do not take responsibility.
Choosing to focus on the career and working hard, others may say, "How can there be a mother like you, who doesn't care about the family at all." ”
Where is the way to break the game?
I do not know.
I only hope you can meet someone you love.
Regardless of the division of labor in the family, they can understand each other and support each other, so as to avoid the phenomenon of "one person carrying it".
Marriage is like a boat, one person will overturn, and two people will be stable.