Wishing for a son to become a dragon and a daughter to become a phoenix is almost every parent's wish.
A child's development is inseparable from the environment in which they grow up and their personal efforts. Showing up to say, the author had some very hard-working classmates in the class when he went to school, no matter how hard he studied, he couldn't get the ideal results, they didn't make trouble in the class, and they were good children in front of outsiders, but parents hated that iron was not steel, no matter how hard the child just couldn't learn.
I have signed up for so many cram schools, and I am well-behaved, why can't my grades improve?
When I asked around, sure enough, many parents also said that they had such children.
So I want to ask, is academic performance really that important?
Coordinates Jiangxi, a parent complained bitterly, he said that he has a scumbag son, the child is good anywhere, but the academic performance is too poor, the results come out, and the total score is not as high as the mother's blood pressure.
But on the other hand, he is very independent in life, for example, every morning at 6 o'clock does not need to be called by the family, he will take the initiative to get up, arrange cooking, help his mother make a good meal, and go to school not late or leave early, but every day his head is empty, and his academic performance has not been improved, no matter how parents help with tutoring, the child just can't learn, so the woman shared her feelings, and couldn't help complaining, what's the use, the grades are still so poor!
I didn't expect it to resonate with many people.
A mother said this: Your child is already very good, but my family is not good, you have to urge everything, if you don't urge, you won't do it, and your academic performance is even worse, and I have lost my expectations for him.
Don't be too disappointed when you are a mother, boys open their minds later than girls, and many boys attach importance to learning from junior high school, lay a good foundation in the early stage, cultivate good habits, and then slowly explore.
Some top students are also scumbags at the beginning, just because their interest is not in place, or their brains have not been inspired, and they are slow to open their minds, but this does not hinder their future potential.
Some people feel that the person concerned is making a big fuss, academic performance is important, but character is the foundation of people, from the description of this parent, it can be seen that the boy has a strong sense of responsibility at a young age, knowing that helping his mother work, taking care of housework, maybe changing to other children is another scene.
How can there be so many perfect things in the world, as long as the child is kind-hearted and has a good character, he has already defeated countless people.
In addition, in the current society, these achievements can not determine a person's own, the era of depreciation of academic qualifications, finding interest is the key, some children do not like to read, but in other aspects have a specialty, parents can spend more energy to cultivate their children in other aspects, do not only think about how to let children read good books.
To put it bluntly, parents have this mentality to stem from "educational anxiety", seeing other children's high grades, their own children can't go up, they can only be anxious, there are countless roads to go in life, 360 lines of line out of champion, but a healthy psychology, happy childhood experience is nothing can be replaced.
Parents are advised not to be overly chicken babies and do their best to obey the destiny of God.
If the child is really not the material for reading, it is better to think differently.
Growing up is a two-way street, which requires the joint efforts of parents and children, and what we need to do is to set up a good mentality and be their solid backing.