After encountering love, he went crazy and couldn't stay sober - "Love Brain" was jokingly called "the most terminal disease that should be included in medical insurance in the 21st century", so that every time he talked about it, he was full of negative comments.
However, when those who are full of hesitation and vigilance are calculating the gains and losses and pros and cons in love, those who are full of expectations and defenses have gained romance and self in love.
makes people wonder, should the "love brain" really be belittled?
▲ Movie "The Myth of Love"
Crazy in love, she focuses on herself
After falling in love, people tend to become crazy and unhesitating.
Xiaoshui, who was born in 95, met her husband at a product sharing meeting. Later, when encountering confused and tricky things in the workplace and life, Xiaoshui would take the initiative to ask each other for advice, and over time, the two became more and more familiar and gradually started a sweet love life.
After knowing each other for 10 months, they stepped into the palace of marriage.
However, if she is labeled as a "love brain" just because of her flash marriage, it is disrespectful to Xiaoshui.
In fact, for the sake of love, she chose to get married, and for the sake of herself, she chose to go to graduate school on the job.
During those days of preparing for the exam, Xiaoshui went to work at nine o'clock every day, went home after work and reviewed until three o'clock in the morning, and even often suffered from questions such as "Is it worth it to quit your job to study in graduate school" and "Don't toss blindly when you get married".
But in the end, with his own focus and hard work, Xiaoshui successfully landed with excellent results.
▲ A group photo of Xiaoshui's graduation ceremony
For Xiaoshui, love is an ability that allows her to become free and independent while constantly enriching her heart.
Many times, people always regard "love brain" and "independence" as two opposing states, and reject "love brain" as an important window for some kind of self-defense.
But if you can face every life choice rationally, you can at least harvest healthy love in independence, and take the initiative to choose to live your life in the way you love.
She changed jobs for love and stimulated her potential
When you hear "someone gives up their career or resigns to change careers for their partner", they may not help but complain: "Do you want to lose yourself for love and become a slave of love like Wang Baochuan?"
Because in their eyes, the love brain will lose reason and judgment in a relationship.
But for 972, "love brain" and "dedication" are essentially not things with the same value orientation.
At first, when she stepped into the new field of improvisational theater, she was full of strangeness and anxiety about everything, and she couldn't completely let go of her personality switch.
Therefore, when she falls into low self-esteem, she will choose to block all the dynamics of other improvised theater actors, and even often fall into self-doubt, "Is my choice really worth it?"
Fortunately, her boyfriend was always by her side, rationally analyzed every problem for her, and patiently told her: "Giving up is not the solution, it is an escape." ”
She began to really think about her career and her responsibilities.
▲ Two people discuss the script together
And this kind of thinking also made her more aware of her core, understand what she wants to pursue, and activate her potential to a certain extent.
Therefore, the "love brain" does not mean that you will lose yourself or make blind decisions when you are in love.
It means that while being able to do a good job of yourself, you will also take love and life very seriously.
After being deceived by sexual encounters, she learned to love
Nowadays, many people are faced with a relationship and no longer open their arms and feel throbbing.
Instead, it has changed to strict defense to avoid any performance of love brain, and always feels that "if you are serious, you will lose".
But for the 25-year-old girl Babao Congee, even though the road to love is bumpy, she has always remained pure and passionate about love.
Last year, when the resigned Babao Congee traveled to Lijiang, he unexpectedly met a love.
At that time, she planned to shoot the same style of photos of celebrities, and she searched almost all the shops renting clothes in the ancient city, but she did not find a similar style. Eventually, I was able to pick up the shop where the boy worked, and I was able to shoot a satisfactory shot.
In this way, they began to meet for a walk in the quiet old town, chatting and laughing in the bars at night, and eating supper in the streets and alleys...... A chance encounter and an unfinished wonderful combination, the two quickly fall in love.
However, this relationship ended in a hurry after only 14 days together. The second relationship only lasted 15 days.
When Babao Porridge calmly shared these two relationships that added up to less than a month to his friends, he was blamed and worried by his friends "They are scumbags", "You love brain", "I don't know if I was deceived", "How can anyone believe in sexual encounters".
But in her eyes, these are not problems, and she even sees them very openly, "I don't think I'm a love brain, I'm just easy to think too well of others."
Today, she is still full of beautiful imagination about love.
Perhaps, love is more like a form of self-expression, and should not be calculated in terms of success or failure, gain or loss.
Probably only people who are sincere and fiery enough will be brave enough to express love, embrace love, and yearn for love.
And this ability to love is still precious.
▲ Looking forward to the eight-treasure porridge of love
Facts have proved that only those who have truly loved know how to love better, only those who are worthy of giving do not care about gains and losses, and those who miss are just jet lag.
I hope that everyone in the relationship, no longer choose to fall in love step by step, but while enjoying love, learn how to love, and continue to grow in love.
May we always love truly and bravely.