Text: Marriage counselor Liu Jie
If you ask a woman what she cares about most in love, her answer is often whether a man loves her or not, and how much he loves her.
For most women, love is often a bigger thing than the sky. They are always cautious, always afraid of being unladylike, and even more afraid of being hurt in love.
In fact, it is not so complicated to know how much a man loves you, and sometimes, it is enough to see his true heart through one thing.
Many times, how much a man loves you, one thing can be recognized.
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I remember Zhang Ailing once said: "For most women, love means to be loved." ”
This is not wrong at all, what women value most in love is the feeling of being cherished and protected.
Therefore, if a man can hold up a piece of the sky for her at a critical moment, that sense of security and happiness cannot be replaced by any sweet words.
Xiaoya met such a man.
Usually, he is very fond of Xiaoya, shushing the cold and asking for warmth, but Xiaoya always feels that these may be a man's "basic operations", and it does not prove that he is sincere.
Until one day, Xiaoya was at risk of being fired from the company because of a mistake at work, she was anxious and panicked, and she didn't know what to do.
At this time, the timely appearance of her boyfriend was like giving Xiaoya a "reassurance".
He helped Xiaoya analyze the reason, accompanied her to communicate with the leader, and even used his own interpersonal relationships to intercede for Xiaoya.
In the end, with his efforts, Xiaoya was not dismissed, but continued to stay in the company.
After this incident, Xiaoya was completely moved by this man. Because she understands that "seeing the truth in times of crisis", a turmoil made her see clearly the sincerity of men to herself.
Such a man is undoubtedly in love with Xiaoya. His love is not only in words, but also in deeds.
As Shakespeare said, "True love cannot be expressed in words, but deeds are the best illustration of faithfulness." ”
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Of course, this is not to say that only when a woman encounters "danger" can she see the true heart of a man.
In fact, every bit of life can reflect the depth of a man's feelings for you.
For example, when you are sick, is he willing to take care of you, when you are in trouble, is he willing to drop everything he has and help you out, and when there is an argument, is he willing to bow his head and admit his mistakes......
These seemingly trivial things are actually the "touchstones" of love.
However, the performance of some "crisis" moments can often show a person's sincerity better.
Because when in times of crisis, a person often takes off his usual disguise and shows his truest self.
Therefore, if a man is in the face of danger, when you need him the most, he does not run away, does not complain, but chooses to face it with you.
Then, such a man must be worthy of your life.
However, women should also understand that love is a matter of two people. No matter how deep a man's love for you is, he also needs you to respond accordingly.
As Balzac said: "Love is a matter for both parties, not a one-man show." ”
So, when you see the man's sincerity, you should also ask yourself if you are willing to give the same love to him.
Therefore, when a woman chooses a partner, she must keep her eyes open. Don't just listen to what he says, but look at what he does.
A man who truly loves you will stand by your side without hesitation when you encounter danger, share the wind and rain with you, and rely on you behind you.
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In addition to "seeing the truth in adversity", in fact, some details in daily life can also reflect whether a man is sincere to you or not.
For example, does he remember your birthday, is he willing to give your time, does he respect your ideas, and these seemingly trivial things will actually have sincerity in them.
However, whether it is big or small, the most important thing is to look at the attitude of the man.
A man who truly loves you, he will keep you in his heart and always care about your feelings. He will prove his love with practical actions, not empty words.
Speaking of which, I would like to give a piece of advice to all women who are looking for love: never rush into a relationship, but take it slowly to observe each other's performance.
Time is the best "litmus test", it will allow you to see the true face of a person.
If a man still cares about you and never leaves you under the test of time, then congratulations, you have found that person who is worth a lifetime of companionship.
In love, we must not only find the person who has a common language with you, but also find the person who can support you in times of crisis.
This kind of love is the true sense of "sharing weal and woe", and it is what we should cherish the most.