In the world of feelings, there is a natural rhythm, that is, moderate gains and losses. Some people may be confused or worried about this, but in fact, moderate gains and losses play an important role in relationships.
This emotional state stems from our appreciation and investment in our feelings, which helps to grow and deepen our relationships, and can also improve our emotional intelligence and empathy. However, excessive gains and losses can undermine the stability and durability of the relationship.
1. Moderate gains and losses come from cherishing and investing in feelings
First of all, moderate gains and losses stem from our appreciation and investment in our feelings. When a person is involved in a relationship, they will unconsciously want to protect the longevity and stability of the relationship. When we give genuinely to others, we naturally expect them to feel and respond. However, there are times when you worry that your feelings will not be reciprocated, which can lead to anxiety and uneasiness. This emotion is actually a manifestation of our appreciation and devotion to our feelings.
2. Moderate gains and losses are conducive to the growth and deepening of feelings
Moderate gains and losses also help to grow and deepen feelings. When we have concerns about a relationship, we pay more attention to the other person's words, actions and emotions, and become more sensitive to the other person's needs and expectations. This attention and understanding helps us to better cope with the problems and challenges in our relationship and promote mutual growth. When we face challenges and difficulties, moderate gains and losses will inspire us to have the courage and motivation to work harder to pursue and protect the relationship.
3. Excessive gains and losses will destroy the stability and durability of feelings
However, excessive gains and losses can undermine the stability and durability of the relationship. Excessive worry and insecurity can affect our judgment and decision-making, causing us to make bad decisions at critical moments, thus destroying the foundation of feelings. At the same time, excessive gains and losses can also affect our mood and quality of life, causing us to fall into anxiety and depression, which can have a negative impact on relationships.
Fourth, how to correctly deal with moderate gains and losses
In the face of moderate gains and losses, we need to learn to self-regulate and self-comfort. In relationships, we may encounter various problems and challenges, and we need to learn to self-regulate and self-comfort to ease our emotions. For example, we can try to divert our attention, relax, find other ways to have fun, etc. At the same time, we must also learn to look at problems from a positive perspective, accept the shortcomings in reality, and actively look for solutions.
In addition, we need to try to communicate and seek understanding and support. When we are worried and uneasy about a relationship, we need to be honest with the other person about our feelings and needs, and we also need to listen to the other person's thoughts and feelings. Through effective communication, we can better understand each other's needs and expectations, so that we can better cope with the problems and challenges in the relationship. In the process of communication, we should respect each other's views and feelings, understand each other's position and situation, and reach consensus and support each other.
At the same time, we must also learn to trust each other. Trust is the foundation of feelings, and feelings without trust are like trees without roots that cannot thrive. We have to believe that the other party is willing to grow up with us and face problems together, and we have to believe that the other party loves us. Only by trusting each other can we better cope with the gains and losses in the relationship.
Finally, we must learn to cherish and appreciate each other's contributions. In a relationship, everyone pays a lot for each other, and these efforts have become one of the important factors in maintaining the relationship. Therefore, we should cherish and appreciate each other's efforts, and try our best to understand and support each other's actions and thoughts. This can not only make the other party feel our sincerity and love, but also allow us to face the problems in the relationship more maturely and independently.
Moderate gain and loss is a normal emotional state, which stems from our cherishing and investment in our feelings. However, excessive gains and losses can undermine the stability and durability of the relationship. Therefore, we need to deal with this emotional state correctly in order to keep the relationship healthy and long-lasting. Only in this way can we truly enjoy the beauty and happiness that feelings bring.