#头条创作挑战赛#
The wisdom of the life stage mentioned in the classic work "Analects" - "stand at thirty, do not be confused at forty, and know the destiny of heaven at fifty", means that as individuals grow older, after experiencing the twists and turns of life, they gradually gain insight into the warmth and coldness of the world and the changes in the world, and then have a deeper and rational understanding of interpersonal relationships.
As we enter middle age, people no longer give everything unconditionally, nor do they blindly stoop to pander, but understand the principle of who is worth befriending and who should keep an appropriate distance.
It is particularly noteworthy that when dealing with two specific groups of people, even if they are full of kindness, they should be treated with caution and should not be too close.
Because if you establish a deep relationship with this kind of people, it is very likely to bring unnecessary distress and harm to yourself.
Don't care about the two-faced villain
Confucius once said: "A gentleman values morality, while a villain values interests." ”
A true gentleman will pay attention to morality and benevolence, be willing to help others, and will not hesitate to lend a hand.
On the contrary, villains only care about their own interests, are good at tricks, say one thing and do another, cunning and insidious.
In this world, it is difficult to meet a truly upright gentleman, but a cunning villain is impossible to guard.
Therefore, we must always be vigilant, close to those with high moral character, and stay away from those who are scheming.
During the Tang Xuanzong period, Li Linfu and Li Shizhi were in high positions and were evenly matched.
Li Linfu was jealous and wanted to suppress Li Shizhi, but on the surface, he pretended to be friendly.
One day, he said to Li Shizhi: "I heard that there is countless gold hidden in Huashan, and if it can be mined, it will greatly enrich the country's finances."
It's a pity that the emperor doesn't know about this yet, and you, as a member of the royal family, are deeply trusted, so you might as well suggest mining. ”
Li Shizhi believed that it was true, so he made this suggestion to Tang Xuanzong.
Xuanzong was very happy to hear this, and later found Li Linfu to discuss this matter.
However, Li Linfu said: "Actually, I have known about this for a long time, but Huashan is an important feng shui treasure of the Tang Dynasty, so how can it be mined casually? Other people's suggestions may have other plans." ”
Dealing with people who are different from the inside and the outside, often encountering situations similar to Li Shizhi, and working for them after being betrayed is like counting the price of betrayal for the other party.
As the saying goes: "Verbal confrontation is not terrible, but the most important thing to be wary of is the double-sided blade in people's hearts." ”
In real life, there is such a group of people who behave in front of others and are kind and friendly, but behind the scenes, they are secretly scheming, and their words and deeds are inconsistent.
Such people are narrow-minded, tactful and sophisticated, but they have never treated others with sincerity.
With such people, it is difficult to predict when they will extend a hand of betrayal to you behind their backs.
When dealing with those who only know how to use you, you should learn to ignore them, and it is best to avoid building a deep relationship with them and keep your distance from them as soon as possible.
Don't care about the ungrateful
There is a long-standing verse in the Book of Songs: "Returning the peach with a peach", which means mutual assistance and feedback in interpersonal communication.
The journey of life is full of ups and downs and challenges, and in the process of going through countless hardships and hardships, we have not only reached out to help others, but also received selfless assistance from many others.
The relationship between people is inherently interactive, and every bit of grace should be responded to with deep gratitude, just as the grace of a drop of water should be reciprocated with a spring.
However, there is a class of ungrateful people in real life, for whom your help and dedication will not awaken their conscience, but may breed their greed and even lead to their own harm.
It is said that during the Qianlong period of the Qing Dynasty, there was a man with lofty ideals named Zhang Yuanwai, who had a pure temperament, was keen to do good deeds and accumulate virtues, and often donated generously to help the poor.
One day, Zhang Yuanwai met a man in shabby clothes in front of his house, and out of compassion, he decided to take him in and provide him with a certain monthly salary to help him get by.
At first, the man was deeply grateful for Zhang Yuanwai's kindness.
However, as time passed, he began to become jealous of Zhang Yuanwai's rich life.
This jealousy gradually evolved into irrepressible greed, and finally one dark night, he stole five hundred taels of silver from Zhang Yuanwai. In order to cover up the crime, he ruthlessly set fire to the house, intending to put Zhang Yuanwai to death.
Fortunately, one of Zhang's dogs in the family sensed the fire in time, allowing him to escape the disaster.
The ancients said: "If you don't repay your kindness, you're not a gentleman, and you're a villain." This sentence profoundly reveals the importance of gratitude and return.
Everyone will inevitably need help from others in their lives, and some people, even if you give small help, they will remember it deeply and repay your kindness with practical actions.
You help others in their distress, but they have malicious intentions and are trying to bring you to the ruin of your family.
It is true that kindness is a noble quality, but when we do good, we should choose wisely who we will benerate.
Although your kindness does not expect anything in return, this should never be a reason for others to take advantage of and harm you.
There is a saying in the "Teacher Table": "Get close to the virtuous gentleman, and alienate the villain with improper intentions." ”
After decades of precipitation in life, we should learn to face the world calmly, and wisely choose who to be close to and who to distance from.
No matter how noisy the outside world is, we should stick to our inner peace and the pursuit of a happy life.
Actively associate with those who have high moral sentiments, while avoiding the company of villains who may bring distress and disaster to our lives.
Only in this way can we ensure that our old age will be peaceful and fulfilling.
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