A big coffee said: "Life is only three things: talking, doing things, and being a person." ”
is a simple six words, but behind it is a very different life.
These three things determine the different life trends between people.
If you want to be a winner in life, you must do it: say soft things, do hard things, and be a good person.
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01
Speak softly and be likeable
There is a saying in "Yi Chuan": "Words and deeds, the cardinal of a gentleman." ”
The tone in which a person speaks hides the luck of his life.
People who speak softly are more likely to be loved and favored by others, and their interpersonal relationships will be more harmonious.
Xiao Xizi in the TV series "Niangdao" was born as an orphan, and later made a living in the Long family and became an inconspicuous servant.
Most people will think that "servant" may be his life's identity.
But he didn't expect that he could get good luck, and he was very fond of the old lady of the Long family, and his life changed 180 degrees.
What is the reason for this?
It turns out that it is all because Xiao Xizi has a sweet mouth and can speak.
When the old lady was angry with her children and grandchildren, and her face was sad, he whispered softly:
"Ancestor, in the long run, your children and grandchildren will definitely be able to achieve great things under your tutelage, don't hurt your body because they are naughty in front of you."
When the old lady was in danger, he stepped forward, stood in front, protected the old lady, and said gently:
"Don't be afraid, ancestor, as long as I am here, I will not let anyone hurt you in the slightest."
No matter what troubles the old lady encountered, he could coax her to be happy with soft words.
Later, he became the shopkeeper of the pawnshop and was given the surname "Long".
Xiao Xizi won the love of the old lady of the Long family by speaking softly, and also won the ideal return by relying on her own dedication and hard work.
There is a saying in "Xunzi": "Speak well to others, warm than cloth; Hurtful words are deeper than spears. ”
The tone is gentle, the speech is soft, people are like a spring breeze, easy to gain the trust of others, and eventually you will get the good luck of having someone hold an umbrella in the rain and someone opening the way in the mountains.
And the hard tone will make people unhappy, create estrangement, and make themselves dangerous.
If you want to have a bright future, you have to speak softly, softly, and warmly.
02
Do hard things and grow yourself
As the saying goes, "The sword is sharpened on the stone, and the man is practiced in the matter." ”
In "Big River 3", the protagonist Song Yunhui is a typical example of doing hard things.
He used to be the director of a county-level pesticide factory.
Later, his superiors decided to close the pesticide factory and promoted him to the vice president of a large factory.
Just as he was about to take up his post, the technical director of the pesticide factory gave him a special gift. This is a "bottom of the box" - scientific research materials about "bamboo". Immediately made his eyes light up.
The research and development of the "bamboo amine" project has great value and can also fill the gap in China.
Therefore, he decided to apply to his superiors and make a military order, give up promotion, give up high salary, continue to stay in the pesticide factory, and organize the completion of the research and development of the "bamboo mine" project.
In the process, there was a shortage of funds, the experimental equipment was old, and difficulties followed.
But he rose to the occasion.
Contact experts from the Research Institute of Chemical Industry for guidance;
Internally, it is divided into two R&D groups to conduct different combination experiments;
Contact borrowing funds to seek advanced equipment;
Consult foreign literature and materials for accurate debugging.
Under his organization and coordination, the project was finally successful.
Wang Yangming said: "People must temper themselves in things, and doing kung fu is beneficial. ”
The stronger your ability to solve hard problems, the brighter your life will be.
If you dare to take over the hot potato, you will have one more opportunity;
If you can solve difficult problems, you will have more confidence;
If you can gnaw on the hard bones, you will be able to go further;
Difficult peaks, if you can conquer them, you will be able to see more beautiful scenery.
The height of life is supported by hard things.
03
做良人,渡人渡己
Confucius said: "The beauty of a gentleman as an adult, but the evil of an adult." ”
At the critical moment, you pull someone to help, and the kindness of the person will eventually feed back to yourself.
Many times, helping others is tantamount to helping yourself.
There's a video that's poignant.
An old man, dressed in rags, was in front of the store, holding a peach in his hand and giving it to a child.
In fact, this child is not his relative, but the child of the shopkeeper's family.
The old man was wandering in the streets, and when the shopkeeper saw it, he invited him to a fragrant and hot meal.
Although it was only a meal, the old man remembered it.
He has no financial means, and that peach is the best gratitude he can repay.
The shopkeeper was worried about the old man's life and refused to accept anything.
The old man said, "This is for the child, and the child will be at ease when he accepts me." ”
After the old man left, the shopkeeper was very emotional, so he posted the video from the relevant surveillance on the Internet.
What the shopkeeper didn't expect was that not long after the video was released, someone contacted him, and it was the old man's family.
That's when the truth of the matter was revealed.
It turned out that the old man was not a homeless man at all, but was lost, and the whole family went crazy.
After seeing the video posted by the shopkeeper, the family immediately contacted the shopkeeper, and the family was reunited.
The owner's kindness received rave reviews, and his family's business was getting better and better.
Like the shopkeeper, if he crosses others with his hands, why is he not crossing himself?
Because, fate never treats everyone who is kind.
After all, good people bring good luck with themselves.
Kindness, crossing others and crossing yourself, why not do it.
04
Zeng Guofan said: "Words must be said softly, and things must be done hard." ”
Speaking soft words warms others and yourself, which is the great wisdom of interacting with others;
Only by doing hard things can we realize the value of life, solve problems, and grow ourselves.
Being a lover has helped others and helped oneself, and the beauty is endless.
For the rest of your life, may you be a person who can speak soft words, do hard things, and be a kind person.
About author:HE Shui Qing is a senior accountant. Turn words into lights and accompany you forward.