"There are so many opportunities to let me go, why do you have to drag me into the quagmire?"
In the early morning of June 15, 2012, a 31-year-old female doctor jumped from the 13th floor and ended her life.
After hearing the bad news, the parents cried, but when they sorted out their daughter's belongings, they found out that it was the son-in-law's special habits that made the daughter really unbearable...
What happened at that time, and what happened to the son-in-law?
Love at first sight, direct flash marriage
At a class reunion in 2011, Luo Hongling became acquainted with a man named Cheng Jiansheng. Through the introduction of a friend, the two talked happily and had some good feelings for each other. seems to be such a beginning, the seeds of love took root in Luo Hongling's heart.
Some of Cheng Jiansheng's stories touched Luo Hongling. It is said that he was born into an ordinary peasant family, and after his parents divorced, he and his sister depended on each other. Although his family was poor, he never gave up his dream of studying, and with his own struggles and grants, he was finally admitted to the university.
Faced with Cheng Jiansheng's bumpy life process, Luo Hongling admired it. In the early stage of their relationship, Cheng Jiansheng was considerate to Luo Hongling, and the two seemed to be inseparable. What's even more admirable is that Cheng Jiansheng is known as a "righteous gentleman", insisting on keeping Luo Hongling's innocence during the relationship until the wedding night.
In this way, with the blessing of friends, the two only knew each other for a few months, and then received a certificate and entered the palace of marriage. Luo Hongling's relatives and friends were happy for her, and felt that she had finally "married under the peony flower". It's just that Luo Hongling's parents do have some concerns about this flash marriage, feeling that the time is too rushed, and they don't know enough about their prospective son-in-law.
But her daughter has always been very assertive since she was a child, and her parents didn't interfere too much with their daughter's thoughts, and the two of them successfully entered the palace of marriage.
For Luo Hongling, this is indeed a beautiful marriage, because she was busy with her studies in the first half of her life, and she was not married until she was thirty years old.
There is no obstacle to study, and there is a promising career
Luo Hongling has been excellent in character and learning since she was a child. Coming from a farming family, she did not stop because of her poor family, but devoted all her enthusiasm to studying. Finally, she was admitted to the Department of Foreign Languages of Ocean University of China with excellent grades, opening a new chapter in her life.
During her time at the school, Luo Hongling always maintained her passion for knowledge. In addition to her studies, she is also passionate about literary creation and has published many excellent works. With her outstanding performance, she not only successfully obtained a bachelor's degree, but also was admitted to the graduate school of her alma mater.
At the graduate level, Luo Hongling's efforts finally bore fruit. Her master's dissertation "A Typical Comparative Investigation of the "Matchmaker" in Classical Chinese and Korean Marriage and Love Literature" not only won the first-class academic status, but also was rated as the national excellent master's thesis of that year. Her mentor, Professor Lee Kwang-jae, praised her.
After graduating, Luo Hongling returned to her hometown of Chengdu. With solid professionalism and profound knowledge, she soon found a position as a teacher at Sichuan University and started her career. After her income stabilized, she was even more filial to her parents, and regularly allocated a part of her meager salary to support her elderly parents.
Everything seems to be moving in a good direction, except for one thing on the mind - emotional problems. At the age of 30, Luo Hongling still has not started a family. Once upon a time, she was also worried about starting a family, but looking at her aging parents, she couldn't bear to put off their expectations for too long.
After meeting Cheng Jiansheng, Luo Hongling was deeply attracted to Cheng Jiansheng, and the three views of the two were also in tune, so the two got married.
After marriage, he was betrayed, and his secret was gradually revealed
After getting married, Luo Hongling gave Cheng Jiansheng full trust and tolerance. Unexpectedly, after marriage, Cheng Jiansheng and during their relationship were like two people, and there was no trace of sweet words, but they became increasingly cold and estranged. He often spends the night outside, and stays at the gym at eleven or twelve o'clock at night, ignoring Luo Hongling's considerate care, not to mention intimate behavior, and the couple's married life is almost a blank.
In the face of sudden changes, Luo Hongling also put herself in the shoes of imagining the reason. She once thought that she was not good enough, so she was more considerate of Cheng Jiansheng, hoping to reawaken his enthusiasm. But the husband's coldness did not ease in the slightest, but became more and more serious.
During this period, Luo Hongling has been secretly looking for answers. It wasn't until Valentine's Day in 2012 that she discovered a shocking secret - Cheng Jiansheng turned out to be a gay. In his mobile phone, there are a lot of chat records of hooking up with men, as well as some filthy content.
Faced with the ruthless revelation of the facts, Cheng Jiansheng had to tell the truth, confessing that his original intention of marrying Luo Hongling was to hide people's eyes, and he never really loved her from the beginning. The marriage between the two is nothing more than a scam, and the warmth and sweetness of those years are just an elaborate drama.
Luo Hongling couldn't accept this fact, she felt unprecedented despair and trauma. It is said that after discovering the fact that her husband was gay, she was in a state of emotional disorder.
She is afraid that after the divorce, she will be criticized and ridiculed by her colleagues and friends, and she will be embarrassed. As a respected university teacher, she once had a rare dignity and status in front of her students and colleagues, but now she is gone, leaving only shame and the pain of betrayal.
Fortunately, everything has not been made public, Luo Hongling and her parents revealed the idea of divorce, but what Luo Hongling didn't expect was that a bigger betrayal appeared.
made up his mind to divorce, but unexpectedly there was another turmoil
After some struggle and entanglement, Luo Hongling still decided to divorce Cheng Jiansheng and get rid of this sinful marriage. Little did she know that this was just the beginning of a long nightmare.
On June 13, Luo Hongling posted on her forum: "My husband is a gay, and he has been lying to me from beginning to end" Cheng Jiansheng apologized to Luo Hongling by text message, and publicly posted through Weibo: "Teacher Luo, I'm sorry, I'm a gay." I lied to you, and the purpose of cheating on marriage is to cover up yourself. ”
For Luo Hongling, a well-educated woman, this is simply an unprecedented humiliation. In addition, on the eve of the divorce, Cheng Jiansheng also sent a message full of explicit words, hyping up the relationship between him and other men, intending to deal another blow to Luo Hongling, whose psychological defense line had already been breached.
At home alone, Luo Hongling fell into deep despair. In order to escape this cruel reality, she posted her last Weibo post and wrote her last words: "This world is too tiring, let it all end." "
More than two hours after this Weibo was posted, Luo Hongling's parents received a phone call, and the other end of the phone told them that Luo Hongling had fallen from the building.
Families are ruined, and it is difficult for the law to achieve justice
At 3 a.m. on June 15, 2012, Luo Hongling slowly walked to the window and looked at the familiar street scene outside the window for the last time. The sights that once made her feel warm only felt strange and cold at the moment. Her eyes were unconsciously moist, but her face was relieved, and she jumped down resolutely, ending her short 31-year life.
After receiving the call of their daughter's death, the two elderly people rushed from Chongqing to Chengdu overnight to witness the last face of their daughter's body. Losing their beloved daughter, Luo Dahua and his wife were heartbroken, crying and falling to the ground, looking at their daughter's cold face, the whole world seemed to collapse.
Afterwards, the Luo family learned of the evil deeds of their son-in-law Cheng Jiansheng, and they had an unprecedented hatred for him, and they pointed the finger at him. When they saw Cheng Jiansheng, they stepped forward to ask what had happened. Cheng Jiansheng publicly admitted that he was indeed the same, and after getting married, he had an unhappy relationship with Luo Hongling because of his sexual orientation, and he also cheated twice in marriage, but on the night Luo Hongling jumped off the building, nothing happened to the two of them, and they didn't quarrel, everything was normal.
According to her parents, the reason why Luo Hongling chose to commit suicide was because Cheng Jiansheng's cheating marriage caused her huge mental trauma. So, they sued the court and demanded that Cheng Jiansheng pay 630,000 yuan.
Unfortunately, under the current laws of the mainland, Cheng Jiansheng does not violate the law as a homosexual, let alone is suspected of any criminal acts. Even if he had fraudulently married, both parties were willing and had full capacity for civil conduct at the time of marriage registration, so the court still had no power to convict him.
What's more, Luo Hongling committed suicide, and was a person with full capacity for civil conduct before her death, and the consequences of poor control of her emotional instability should be borne by Luo Hongling herself, so the Luo family's appeals and claims were finally rejected after some ruling.
From beginning to end, Cheng Jiansheng seems to have only been criticized by netizens and scolded by humans, and there is no other involvement.
epilogue
In the face of such a tragic tragedy, we all feel extremely sorry and indignant for the parties concerned. However, this is not an isolated case. In recent years, many "same-wife" tragedies have been exposed in the media. The social root cause of this phenomenon is the indifference and discrimination of the gay community by public opinion, which forces them to embark on the road of no return of "disguise and cheating marriage".
"Actually, gay men are also very pitiful, and everyone is ashamed to speak up, so they have to live in the shadows. Psychologist Yang Yang is deeply touched by this, and he calls on society to be more open and understanding, and give more care and tolerance to this group.
But no matter what, cheating on marriage is always shameful, what is delayed is the family of two people, it is a girl's good years, I hope that such a tragedy will not be repeated, there will be no second "Luo Hongling" in this world, and there will be no second "Cheng Jiansheng".
Reference Links
The female doctor is suspected of being deceived by her gay husband and jumped off the building to commit suicide_Sina News
https://news.sina.com.cn/c/2012-07-19/034524801053.shtml
A female doctor from Sichuan University jumped off a building and died, and her husband admitted to homosexuality and cheating on marriage - Qingdao News Network
https://www.qingdaonews.com/content/2012-07/19/content_9330231.htm
The female doctor is suspected of being deceived by her gay husband and jumped off the building to commit suicide (photo)-Chinanews.com
https://www.chinanews.com.cn/sh/2012/07-18/4041139.shtml