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When people reach middle age, it is a summary of the first half of their lives, and they are looking forward to the second half of their lives!
The past is gone, and the future is at the helm of the present!
In middle age, the golden period of life, you must not be careless, it is the best explanation for the second half of your life!
In particular, in social relations, you must "go to the heart"!
Those who have read my articles should understand my repeated suggestions for raising human nature and value in relationships, and they should be familiar with the "cold water wake-up" operation that I have been guiding people to look at relationships through value and human hearts through human nature!
It is because, in the face of humanity and reality, your sincerity and cherishment are very cheap!
For the evil of human nature, your kindness, your generosity, and your value will only be consumed and utilized!
When you are good and biased towards the evil of others, please remember two words: break off friendship!
The more you reach middle age, the more you must learn to give up correctly, and don't affect your well-being for the rest of your life because of bad people and bad relationships!
When people reach middle age, their neighbors don't make friends, and their relatives don't leave! Don't take it seriously:
First of all, which two kinds of neighbors are not good friends?
Since ancient times, we have all been very familiar with and recognized the saying that "distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors".
However, when we look at the present, we find that:
Not all neighbors help each other, fulfill each other, and benefit each other!
Especially when I met some narrow-minded neighbors, because they paid attention to their own one-third of an acre of land and valued the interests and losses of their own melons and dates, they began to see the good of others.
Even, he will do something harmful to others and himself!
In order to achieve the goal of destroying the well-being of others, he does not hesitate to chew the root of his tongue and destroy the reputation of others, in an attempt to use this way to give himself a contrast:
I'm better than him! Look at what such a person qualifies for......
As a human being, the biggest foolishness is to think that people who live so well in the neighborhood will empathize with themselves because they are familiar with each other, and they will understand themselves more because they get along so "closely......
Being credulous is the root cause of a person's loss that he can't make up for himself in his life!
When you are middle-aged, if you have two types of neighbors around you, narrow-minded and tongue-chewing, remember:
Draw a clear line in time! If you have to say hello when you meet, don't make deep friends, let alone stop and talk for a long time!
If you get along with your narrow-minded and tongue-chewing neighbors for a long time, you will not only show signs of being "deviated", but also bring consumption and damage to yourself because of the "heart-to-heart" with such two people!
In real life, not all neighbors are "respectable, amiable, sincere, sincere, grateful, and know how to reciprocate......"
Secondly: What are the three types of relatives who don't have to move?
What is Relative?
The so-called relative is a relational term that continues from the people who were originally "under the same roof" and gradually became independent!
These people may be siblings of the same siblings, or they may be descendants of siblings......
In short, relatives have never been equated with "unchanging affection"!
The so-called family affection is also a social relationship that does not count after they become independent! The reason why they are called "relatives" is because they are related by blood in their own generation or in the previous generation or generations!
But this kind of bloodline never means that there is both glory and loss!
Many times, the more relatives you are, the more they can set up obstacles for you, block you, consume your well-being, laugh at you and hate you!
Especially the following 3 types of relatives, there is really no need to consume their own time, energy or even money to maintain the relationship, it is really not worth it:
1: Relatives who hate the poor and love the rich, and look down on people with dogs
2: A relative who only knows how to ask but is habitually ungrateful
3: Jealous and can't see your good relatives
When people reach middle age, don't use their cheap cherishing and sincerity to exchange for the indifference of others or being used by others, becoming a thorn in the side and a thorn in the flesh of others!
In real life, relatives and neighbors are both good and bad, but as a middle-aged person, you should also understand people's hearts and human nature, don't overestimate your position in the hearts of others, and don't overestimate your ability to deal with people!
Many times, in the face of the evil of human nature, you will really "lose and lose"!
When people reach middle age, learn to give up correctly, so that they can live a peaceful life and lay a good foundation for their old age!
Choosing to get along with people with good moral character, choosing people who really associate with their own thoughts, is a kind of health!
On the contrary, it is a self-consumption, and it is endless consumption!
When people reach middle age, it is a wise man's move to reduce the interference of ineffective social interactions, maintain a clean relationship circle, and let yourself experience a truly relaxed and happy life!
Love is the purgatory of people in the world. Whether it's love or friendship, the right time and the right person can achieve positive results!
I am an author in the field of high-quality emotion, a professional counselor, and have provided valuable and meaningful help to many counselors. I have rich experience in marriage, relationships, interpersonal relationships, etc., if you have any emotional confusion, please feel free to consult me.
Topic discussion: How do you deal with your neighbors and relatives when they bring you the worst experience?