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In the face of feelings, how do women choose less regrets and fewer regrets in this life?
Some people say that as long as a woman who has tasted true love and is loved, she will only stay in the honey pot and will not experience the pain caused by regret and repentance!
Because, this kind of person feels that as long as a woman feels loved and loved, it is the contentment of wanting nothing else in her life!
However, love does not really last forever! There are often many variables in loving and being loved!
For women, at different ages and under different life circumstances, the perception and definition of love are completely different!
Therefore, the men she meets at every stage and under every circumstance bring her the feeling of loving and being loved, which is completely different!
It can be said that no matter how you choose, there will be regrets and remorse, but a woman who is good at living in the moment and being content with the front is the one who can really live happily!
Otherwise, when attachment turns into obsession, women will be in trouble with what kind of man they are facing!
There is a saying: people are better than people, you can't live, goods are more than goods, you can't stay!
But what I want to say is:
People are better than people - down a little!
Compare the goods, but also keep - the value of the goods!
The more such a combination of "sober and rare confusion" in the face of a woman in a relationship, the more she can live as a big winner of her own wealthy family!
Emotional experience is the only way for a woman to mature, and if she sees it clearly, she will look down on it, and the meaningless attachment will not exist, and it will not be obsessed with painting the ground!
In a woman's life, she will experience 5 types of men: fortunate or unlucky, just a thought of attachment
1: First love
In Uncle Benshan's sketch, he once said such a sentence:
初恋,根本不懂爱情!
After experiencing it, I realized that this is indeed the case!
Most of the love of young people is not afraid of heaven and earth with nothing and only a heart that loves you!
At that time, when people meet a person who makes their heart and happens to be attracted to themselves, they will basically be "very bold"!
Go and approach regardless of the recklessness, and give regardless of the ......
At that time, people did not calculate, only in the midst of you love me and I love you, lingering in the present!
At that time, people didn't understand love, so they mistook their curiosity about the opposite sex and the passion of hormones for "love"!
However, it is this age that does not know love, and when people think about it after many years, they feel precious - it has nothing to do with any reality and human nature, material and economy, just want to be together!
2: A man who can't be loved
There are always people who think with the wrong thinking that it is easy for women to chase men with a layer of yarn!
In fact, there are some men who are bad in their bones, they know that you love him, but he just doesn't give you an accurate answer, so he makes you hang you passionately.
For this kind of man, an affectionate woman is a person who provides for her emotions, a person who pleases herself and shows her charm!
However, women are in this kind of seeming need, let go of their individuality, let go of the reserve of a little woman, and try their best to prove that they are worthy of being guarded......
In the end, after licking for so long, the man suddenly announced it to someone else one day. He also shamelessly said to women:
I like you a lot, but we're not quite a good fit, we're better suited to be friends......
Although the hateful man made the woman taste the pain of love, he also understood a truth from it:
Love must go both ways, and a one-way close relationship is just one person's wishful thinking!
At the same time, this man who can't love also makes women understand that love is never so simple. It needs to match too much reality in order to "cultivate the positive result" to the greatest extent!
3: A man who gets but doesn't love that much
In a woman's sober mind, it is very certain that she must choose a "person who quacks and rares herself" in order to avoid too much misfortune and happiness!
However, in the end, when choosing a person who loves her to be together, the woman unexpectedly felt another "torment":
In the face of a person he doesn't love, he has no motivation to manage his feelings at all, and the warm heartbeat feeling in his heart is like a pool of stagnant water in front of him, without any waves......
I can't accept and don't want to bear such days......
So, when she gets a man who loves herself, but she doesn't, the woman begins to struggle and flee again......
Under the effect of such a "selfishness" to find someone who loves him, holding hands with a man he doesn't love is torture for two people.
Sometimes, women also think about making do with it like this, and it's not too bad...... It's a pity that her heart won't let it!
At this time, women have a deep understanding of love:
It turns out that not loving someone really can't be hidden. Those indifference and ignorance from the bottom of my heart are the cruel humanity that is inadvertently revealed because of lack of love!
It was at this time that women understood that even if they choose a person who loves themselves and doesn't love them, they will be lost and miserable in their hearts!
Therefore, the heart of pursuing two-way running begins to be restless again, because the "cherishing" from the bottom of my heart does not match the status quo that reality forces me to accept!
As a result, the man who loved himself in front of him chose to leave because of his "hot" heart!
4: The husband in marriage
Some people say that marriage is the process of fulfilling the vows of two people, and it is the best guarantee for the pre-marriage sentence "together"!
In fact, for some women, they only know after entering marriage:
Everything is completely different from what I imagined!
What is Marriage?
Marriage is to solve problems that have not been encountered before marriage, in the state of "merit-based", and a person who does not fully understand, in the name of love, enter into marriage, to have an epiphany about reality and human nature!
Or else?
Do you think marriage is really a woman's salvation, or do you think marriage is heaven?
If only that were the case!
After getting married, a woman knows that no matter how beautiful she is, it is not as good as living beautifully, it is more valuable and meaningful!
Some women will gradually mature in marriage, and they will use the right way to get along with their husbands, treating them as lovers, assistants, and partners for win-win cooperation, and even more so as a mountain to rely on!
For this kind of woman, her husband is the end of her emotional journey!
But some women are different!
There will be no way to be able to take responsibility for their own choices, so "looking outward" begins—ushering in the 5th stage of the relationship, ambiguous, transgressive, or betrayal......
5: Men who are ambiguous, transgressive, or actually betrayal
Not long ago, I received a consultation from a male client who was experiencing the betrayal of his wife, and he said:
Teacher, I married a beautiful woman, and I was destined to face the "pain of competition" that other men don't have to face, I'm incompetent, right?
I replied to him:
How can you be incompetent? In the relationship, there was no competition, but someone provoked the dispute, so there was competition!
However, whether this competition is worth it or not depends entirely on how you understand the value of your marriage and how you recognize your "obsession......
People are greedy!
It is said that compared with women, men have the essence of betrayal. However, if a woman is not satisfied with her current marriage, and does something ambiguous, transgressive, and actually betrayal, there is nothing for a man to do at all!
After all, most men are distracted, but once a woman is unfaithful to her marriage, she is distracted. As long as the man outside of marriage has the conditions to marry him, the woman will go desperately......
Even, in the process of going, he will take the hard-earned money of the man in front of him to people outside of marriage to show his sincerity as a financial boost......
If it's a dream, you'll wake up!
Don't be a person who has too much obsession in your dreams!
No matter what circumstance you are in, you must remember: be content and happy, realize while walking, and grow while understanding, in order to become a truly happy person!
Negative emotions are common to all, and when you are willing to put them aside, you can not be bound by them. Ultimately, it's up to you to do that!
I'm a high-quality affective writer who has provided valuable and meaningful help to many counselors. I have rich experience in marriage, relationships, interpersonal relationships, etc., if you have any emotional confusion, please feel free to consult me.
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Topic discussion: Do you think women are more affectionate than men?