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Preface
My name is Susu, and when I was traveling to Japan with my friends during the holidays, I accidentally became friends with a lovely Japanese sister in the local area, and with her help, we enjoyed all the beautiful scenery of Japan and tasted a lot of food.
In order to thank her for her hospitality these days, I sincerely invited her to travel to China, and she agreed to my invitation without saying a word, and also mysteriously told me that in fact, I did not only come to travel, but also for a real reason......
[This article is a fictional story, the names in the article are pseudonyms, and if someone carries it, they will be held responsible]
Become friends
At the invitation of my friend, I embarked on a journey to Japan, and my friend loves Japanese anime, costumes, and other cultures, and has been giving me constant advice along the way, and I want to see the beauty of the country and feel the cultural customs.
After we put our luggage and rested for a while, my friend and I went out looking for a place to eat, and because we were afraid of the language barrier, we chose a Japanese restaurant, hoping to tell the staff what we needed through a mobile phone translation app.
It's just that we are not very familiar with the operation of translation software, and it is a little difficult to face the Japanese on the menu, and a Japanese girl on the side took the initiative to come forward and say hello to us in Japanese.
I hurriedly expressed my difficulties with a translator, and she understood and tentatively asked me if I knew English, and after receiving an affirmative answer, Chiho began to communicate with me in English and enthusiastically introduced me to the dishes on the menu.
Chiho's facial features are exquisite, with a pair of watery big eyes and makeup that look like characters coming out of the comics, and my friends and I were flattered by her enthusiasm, but I didn't expect her to be so kind and helpful.
After ordering, I asked her if we could eat together, so we sat together, she asked us which country we were from, and when she learned that we were from China, she excitedly shook our hands and said that she also longed for Chinese culture and had always wanted to travel.
We were also very surprised to learn that Chiho likes China very much, so I began to tell her how open, inclusive, safe and strong China is, and we talked like friends we haven't seen for many years.
After eating, Chiho introduced her basic situation, she had just graduated and was looking for job opportunities in the local area, she currently had plenty of time to play around, and offered to help us act as a translator during the journey and take us around.
Along the way, we saw a lot of beautiful scenery, tasted local food, and learned about the Japanese lifestyle, although there were many surprises for us, but we were able to accept it quickly, and we were still secretly thinking about what it would be like for Chiho to see the beauty of China if she came to China.
Although we learned that Chiho's family conditions were good, we were a little worried about her coming to China, but she reassured us that she was not just coming to China, and mysteriously told me that there was another purpose for traveling in China.
Cultural differences
When we returned to China, the bustling streets made the city equally charming at night, and Chiho loved the lively atmosphere, finding that the high-rise buildings everywhere were brightly lit, and the people lived and worked in peace, and they were very friendly to know that they were from other countries.
I took Chiho to see all kinds of representative buildings in China, the endless Great Wall, antique buildings, clear water and green mountains, and the grassland where you can feel the fresh air.
After getting along for a while, a few of us girls were about to fall asleep in the hotel when the topic suddenly opened, and I curiously asked why Chiho chose to come to China, because we could feel that maybe she had thought about coming here before inviting her to China.
She said that in Japan, the status of women is very low, and many people have a deep-rooted belief that women should return to their families no matter what, even if their parents have created a good environment for her to grow up, and follow the general trend that only by returning to the family can she realize her value.
Chiho said that after graduation, he was originally full of ambition, hoping to make his parents proud of his career, but many companies did not give him the salary and position that matched his ability, and even said that this position did not recruit women, and asked me how many years I could work, and no matter how good I was, I would get married and have children.
At this point, I recall in my mind that although there are also unfair phenomena in the workplace in China, and people with backgrounds may be more likely to get opportunities, two people with the same resume rarely make trade-offs because of different genders.
Chiho said that there are few such cases in China, and the ratio of men and women in the upper class will not be so unbalanced, and I have heard that many excellent women continue to work after marriage, and China is open and tolerant to foreign friends, and there are many employment opportunities.
Hearing this, I was sure that Chiho hoped to come to China to find a job, and travel was just one of the purposes, but Chiho denied my speculation, saying that she actually wanted to marry in China.
In terms of job opportunities, for foreign friends, it is easy to be admitted to the company with an excellent resume or a skill, and even some professions can be learned at the same time, and it is even easier to engage in the field of self-media.
After getting along during this time, I can feel that Chiho is an ambitious and talented person, her conversation is extraordinary and her temperament is outstanding, if she only works for a few years, she will obey her parents' wishes and marry someone after she is "trapped" at home, and she is wronged.
Chiho said that regardless of whether she wants to marry in her 20s or not, she doesn't want to be a housewife after marriage "for the rest of her life".
Everyone's ambitions are different, some people hope to marry a rich man without struggling, some people think that they are full of poetry and books and hope to realize their self-worth, Chiho's family environment is very good, she naturally doesn't want and disdain to cling to men.
Lifestyle habits
After getting married in Japan, it means that the woman can only teach her husband and children at home, and the man can only go out to work, and the woman does not have enough say in the family, and the "duty" job in the eyes of the world is to take care of her husband and children.
For Chiho, she longs for an equal relationship between men and women, which she can't do in Japan, and she can't "make a big move" in her career, but China can.
Chiho heard that Chinese men rarely have machismo, not only smart and introverted, but also confident and responsible, but also advocate the virtue of respecting the old and loving the young, and treat female gentlemen friendly, Chiho hopes to find such a boyfriend.
There are indeed personality differences between men in the two countries, Chinese men are mostly considerate and thoughtful to women, and they like to express their love or maintain this relationship by taking care of each other, and after marriage, they will transform romantic love into deep family affection, which has more responsibilities.
In Japan, if you marry a man, your mother-in-law is also very strict with herself, and even requires herself to be a nanny, and most of the women can only swallow their anger.
However, in China, both parties can discuss before marriage, who will focus their lives on the family after marriage, a good man will also weigh the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and there are not a few women who go out to work after marriage.
In Japan, most locals are accustomed to carrying cash or bank cards when they go out, but in China, which is rich and prosperous and developing rapidly, you only need to carry a mobile phone when you go out, and you can complete various problems such as travel, play and payment.
Compared to Japan, which is strict with its sense of time, it is best not to be late for an appointment with your boss, clients, relatives and friends, especially if you have a relationship of interest.
However, in China, if you are going out with friends, you can explain in advance when various situations arise at short notice, and it doesn't hurt to be about ten minutes late, and most of your friends will understand.
epilogue
There are certain cultural differences between the two countries, and it is precisely because of the differences that a country's unique cultural customs are achieved, and the encounter between me and Chiho is also a collision between the two countries.
I look forward to more people like Chiho, who like and yearn for Chinese culture to come to this land, appreciate the great rivers and mountains here, and feel the customs here.