When we become adults, we will inevitably enter into an intimate relationship and form a community of destiny with another person. But this process is actually full of risks, which may bring us an extremely happy life and make our life more abundant and happy, but it can also make us fall into the abyss and become a victim of intimacy.
I believe many people must have heard of the "gaslighting effect", in fact, there is a story behind this word, and it is a story that makes people think about it very scary, and this story happens between intimate relationships.
In this story, the female protagonist inherited a family property, and the male protagonist deliberately stimulated the female protagonist in the way of mind control in order to obtain this family property, the most typical is that the male protagonist deliberately set the gas lamp to flicker, and when the female protagonist put forward this cognition, the male protagonist deliberately misled the female owner, saying that the gas lamp was normal, and all she saw was the female protagonist's hallucination, and the final result was to force the female protagonist into a mental hospital.
Think about how terrifying it would be to have such a person around us who is manipulative in the name of love everywhere, and it is possible to unconsciously become a victim of being manipulated by others.
Therefore, in intimate relationships, in fact, we not only need to understand the positive aspects of intimate relationships, but also need to understand the hidden side of intimate relationships, so that we can better understand intimate relationships, and better make intimate relationships become the source of happiness in our lives and become part of our life escort.
Yu Yue, Ph.D., Institute of Psychology, Chinese Academy of Sciences, focuses her psychological research on intimacy and growth in the family system, and also popularizes the knowledge of intimacy to the general reader.
Her book "The Hidden Personality in Intimate Relationships" takes us to know those intimate relationships that may make us think about them very carefully, let us explore the other side that may exist in intimate relationships, let us understand intimate relationships more clearly, and escort our intimate relationships with these psychological knowledge.
The manipulative personality represented by the "gaslighting effect" mentioned above is only one of them, and the others include violent personality, abusive personality, narcissistic personality, and so on.
For example, the violent personality can be physically destroyed by the other half of the intimate relationship. Think about some of the criminal cases that happen around us, in fact, there is such an element. If you encounter such a personality in an intimate relationship, you need to stay away from it as soon as possible.
Domestic violence is a typical behavioral state of this personality, which is also something that needs special attention in intimate relationships, because for such a personality, there are countless times of his violence, and we need to stay away from it as soon as it happens.
However, there are indeed some victims of domestic violence around us, who not only fail to stay away, but have become the targets of continuous violence, which is also a phenomenon worth pondering.
What about narcissistic personality? It doesn't feel as bad as the other three, so what kind of damage does it bring to intimate relationships? In fact, such a person loves himself far more than he loves the other person, so in an intimate relationship, they must not bring happiness, but may bring endless pain.
In this book, the author uses a large number of real cases to sort out in detail and point out the harmful personality manifestations that may exist in intimate relationships. For individuals who are about to enter an intimate relationship or who have already entered an intimate relationship, read this book carefully, and then test yourself against yourself and the others around you, so as to avoid those who damage the personality state in the intimate relationship to appear around yourself and help you manage a happier intimate relationship. #亲密关系##亲密关系中的##爱情#