If you click in, you should have encountered a situation similar to this:
There is still an hour before you hand in the plan assigned to you by the leader, but you don't want to turn on the computer;
swears to set a flag and is ready to lose weight, but it is always tomorrow after tomorrow;
Obviously, when you open your eyes, there will be an exam waiting for you the next day, but you stay up late chasing dramas and are too lazy to review;
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You swear it's the last time, but often don't have the stamina enough to change yourself and eventually find that procrastination has become the norm in life.
Procrastination has become an obstacle that many students and professionals can't hide. Today, we're going to talk about "procrastination".
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Why do you always procrastinate
1. Fear of failure: PerfectionismSome people have been waiting for a "perfect" moment to prepare themselves to a "perfect" state before they start doing something. There is no room for flaws in the process, and failure cannot be accepted.
Why would anyone have such an unrealistic idea?
They are not worried about the failure itself, but about the evaluation of others after the failure. They worry about being judged as stupid, incompetent, and worthless. Rather than that, it is better to be evaluated as laziness or procrastination.
Such people are often afraid of competition because they are afraid of letting others see their weakness and incompetence in competition.
In the core belief of perfectionism, it's all or nothing.
They may also have these beliefs:
◍ I have to be perfect. ◍ Everything I do should be a breeze and effortless. ◍ If a good outcome is not ensured, then it is simply not worth doing. ◍ I should do well every time.
They believe that not doing something is as if it never started and never failed.
2. Escape from success ▨ Success requires too much effort
Some people worry that success requires too much effort, far more than they can afford. Because success requires a lot of time and effort, and a lot of leisure time is sacrificed, they think it's more comfortable to stand still.
They think success will propel them into the spotlight and be attacked and provoked from all sides. They feel that they are not strong enough to fight back.
By procrastinating, they give up the chance to succeed and give themselves a buffer so that they don't get bogged down in a hectic life and stay out of the limelight.
▨ Success is dangerous: there are always people who get hurt
Some people procrastinate to avoid success in order to avoid harm to others or themselves. They believe that competition hurts, and they fear being accused of being "selfish", "ruthless", and "full of thoughts about success". They are afraid that the loser in the competition will hold a grudge and take revenge on themselves. They are afraid of ruining relationships.
Therefore, he thinks that it is possible to have a good relationship only by pretending to be harmless, not competitive and aggressive.
3. Take control: Passive-aggressiveThere are also people who gain a sense of control by procrastinating, such as being late, not meeting deadlines, not following rules and regulations, disdainful of authority, and changing from passive to active. When you don't want to do something, but are pressured to do it, they will procrastinate to tell you that you are unhappy about doing it.
Afraid to express his dissatisfaction directly, he retaliated by procrastination. This seems to be a kind of reflex for them, and the emotions behind it may not even be aware of themselves.
For them, procrastination is a struggle for power, dissatisfaction with being controlled, an attack and revenge on those who control.
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How to change the status quo of procrastination
Procrastination wastes us a lot of time, leaving us confused, out of control, and in pain. This may be accompanied by failure in the face of important exams, loss of promotions and salary increases, opportunities to display talents, and opportunities to give full play to the value of life.
Procrastination makes us feel unwarranted anxiety about what lies ahead, and our lives are consumed unconsciously. The outside world's evaluation of procrastination behavior is always focused on negatives: "unreliable", "irresponsible", "incompetent" and so on.
If you want to prevent or change procrastination behavior, the first thing to do is to accurately identify your own procrastination level, which is the first step to prevent and change procrastination. That's why we've developed this assessment to help you understand your procrastination and get advice on how to guide you:
"Test your procrastination level"
Press and hold to scan the QR code to evaluate immediately *The assessment results are for reference only
Let's be the masters of time together.
责编：Lynn
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