Author: Wen Qiusheng
Original article, plagiarism must be investigated
01. Introduction
Marriage, which looks like hard armor, can withstand all the wind and rain and tribulations.
However, if the people in the marriage change their minds, the armor they rely on each other will be fragile and unable to withstand any blows.
Women can't feel the love and warmth they need in marriage, and if they are ignored and neglected, they will gradually give up running their marriage, or even betray their marriage.
Some people say that after a woman betrays her marriage, it is difficult to turn back. In fact, the emphasis is on management, and the emphasis is on saving and maintaining each other's feelings between husband and wife.
Women change their minds, and men want to save their families, so they must do "two words".
02. Communication: Change the way of communication
A friend of mine who is a reader confided in me his story:
His wife was very close to her college classmates for a while, and after he found out, he also tried to make amends.
He chose to let go of everything and communicate with his wife calmly, letting him know that he was negligent and perfunctory to his wife in marriage.
Later, he tried his best to restrain his temper, and when his wife spoke, he would patiently listen to her finish speaking.
In normal times, he will also express his affirmation and praise to his wife in a timely manner, recognize her dedication to the family, and strive to maintain his wife's status in the family.
After changing the way of communication, the relationship between the two eased somewhat, and the wife was willing to tell him everything in her heart.
Many times, a woman is reluctant to communicate with a man, and she is reluctant to communicate with him because the man has a problem with his attitude towards her.
If a man wants to save his family, he must first change the way he communicates, be honest with each other, and listen patiently to each other's demands.
To know where there is a problem in each other's feelings, use effective communication to regain a woman's heart.
Good communication can increase the understanding between the two people and gain more spiritual resonance.
Change the way of communication, so that women feel attention and respect in marriage, so that all emotions can be better released.
03. Flexibility: Change the mode of getting along
The woman changed her mind, probably because she was disappointed in this marriage, and there was a problem with the way the two got along.
If a man wants to save his family, he should try to start by changing the mode of getting along and find a better state of getting along.
Men should strive to take on the responsibilities and pressures in the family, and do not always let women carry the weight.
To make yourself stronger, more powerful, to be able to shelter a woman from the wind and rain, to whisk away all the wind and frost for her.
Or, with a hard-working attitude, take the initiative to run the family. Strive to improve the quality of life and give women more confidence.
At the same time, guide women to spend more time with their children and go out for a walk together.
Increase the intersection between each other and enhance each other's feelings.
By changing the mode of getting along, use your own value to arouse the admiration and admiration in the hearts of women.
Change the mode of getting along, by expressing love, and making life more ritualistic, maybe it can make a woman fall in love with you again.
04. Transposition: Understand the needs of women
In "The First Half of My Life", Luo Ziqun was fed up with Bai Guang's bad temper and unprofessional nature, and resolutely filed for divorce, wanting to pursue his own happiness.
Under the guidance of others, Bai Guang realized that he was irresponsible, disappointed the subgroup again and again, and brought each other's marriages to a desperate situation.
He also understands that what the subgroup wants is a stable life.
Knowing that she wants the family to be happily together, without quarrels, without cold wars, and with harmony between husband and wife, that's all.
After that, he began to work seriously, save all his salary, and did not pester the subgroup, expecting her to see his transformation.
Many men are always accustomed to being immersed in their own world, unable to see a woman's needs and unable to understand her worries.
As a result, she was disappointed and lost in her marriage for a long time, which led to her finally losing her expectations of her husband and choosing betrayal.
If you want to save the family, men must learn to empathize and understand the needs of women.
If a marriage wants to continue, two people must not only think about themselves, but also understand each other's needs and know each other's feelings.
After a man learns to empathize, he may know the problems that exist in the marriage of two people.
05, Wen Qiusheng's message
"Before deciding to divorce, there is a long, painful and difficult process of thinking about the reasons, that is, the process of comprehensively justifying one's decision from the point of view of one's needs, interests, opinions, values," Sershchenko said. ”
Love cannot be forced, and in the same way, when a woman changes her mind and works hard, it is irreparable, and the man does not need to continue to be persistent.
Learn to stop losses, learn to let go, wave goodbye to the past, and leave all the pain and helplessness for yesterday.
Pack up your mood, adjust your mentality, move on with your life, and strive to pursue your own happiness.
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About the author: Wen Qiusheng, make a living from words. Autumn wind and rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.