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I watched "Thirty Only" a long time ago, and when I watch it again today, I suddenly have a different feeling.
Maybe it's because I've gotten older and more experienced, but I'm now beginning to understand that thirty years old is not as scary as we imagined, but it's not all smooth sailing.
And those plots in film and television dramas will only appear on us more bloodily and catch us off guard.
Of course, we will also become more mature at this age, and many people and things will push us to grow up and let us find the right way to solve these problems.
I want your thirty years to be smooth, but if not, I also hope that you will become sober and strong because of it.
These seven truths are the ones I understood after experiencing a lot when I was 30 years old, and I hope they can also give you some inspiration and help.
About age: Without the free and wanton nature of the twenty-year-old, without the light breeze of the forty-year-old, what the thirty-year-old wants is a better life.
Thirty years old is really a particularly magical age, we will no longer be as brave as when we were twenty, but we can't be as calm as forty or fifty years old, we still want to work hard for ourselves, hoping that life will have better possibilities.
Many of my friends who are 30 years old have said that 30 years old is really the age when they work hardest, because they always feel that time is too late, but they still feel that they have better possibilities.
I think this is the mentality that Gu Jia, Wang Manni and Zhong Xiaoqin have, Gu Jia hopes that her family and career will be better, Wang Manni hopes that she can gain a foothold in Shanghai, and Zhong Xiaoqin feels that her life can't just be like this.
Therefore, they have all worked hard to change, and their lives have changed in different ways, it cannot be said that they are all good, but it is indeed what they fought for themselves at the age of thirty.
And what about us? We at the age of 30 are working hard like this, we no longer miss the age of 20, we don't fantasize about the age of 40, we just live our 30 years old with our feet on the ground, and this is really great.
About feelings: first understand a person's life, then know what kind of person you need.
Affection may be a necessity in life for a twenty-year-old person, but for a thirty-year-old person, it may be a luxury.
We begin to understand that we don't have feelings to live, and we have understood that a bad relationship may cost us half our lives.
Therefore, just like Wang Manni, when she finds that this relationship is wrong, she will stop the loss in time, just like Zhong Xiaoqin, even if she is questioned by the world, she must stop the loss in time.
I think that at the age of 30, we should have such courage, live our lives clearly, and then think about what kind of relationship we need, and don't casually enter a relationship because of age.
Please remember that being able to take responsibility for your own feelings is what we should be awake at the age of 30.
About effort: Not all efforts will succeed, and many things will backfire.
When I watched "Thirty Only", I really felt aggrieved for Gu Jia, she worked so hard just to make her life better, but life hit her one after another.
Isn't this what we are in real life? We think that we will succeed if we work hard, but in the end, we find that many things are not what we imagined.
Especially when I am thirty years old, the feeling of powerlessness is particularly strong, and there is a feeling that no matter how hard I try, I am standing still, or even going backwards.
But my dear, I want to tell you that there is another great advantage of being thirty years old, that is, we still have time, you must not give up because of some difficulties, you must continue to work hard.
I believe that our days are still very long, and thirty years old is just the beginning, after all, to be a strong woman like Gu Jia, there will be a possibility of success at any time, come on.
About children: After becoming a mother, your biggest feeling is aggrieved, and aggrieved is in a title called mother.
The question of whether to have children is probably the biggest confusion for many thirty-year-old sisters. Because it's really a bit embarrassing at this age, give birth, I really don't want to give birth, but don't give birth, I'm always afraid that I will regret it later.
In fact, this problem is not so complicated, just like Gu Jia said, this matter will change a lot for women, it will make you feel painful and entangled, but it will also bring you a lot of positive changes.
We accompany a small life to grow, in fact, we are also growing. Although there are many difficulties in this process, it is also giving us the courage to grit our teeth and continue to work hard.
So my dear, if you want to have a child or not, just listen to your inner voice, give birth if you decide, don't give birth if you don't want to, and don't make decisions that are not suitable for you because of external voices.
Of course, once you have made your choice, I also hope that you will not regret it casually, keep going, and believe me, you will feel happiness and joy like never before.
About marriage: It is said that marriage is a safe haven, but who wants to be a safe haven?
When thirty-year-old Zhong Xiaoqin said this, I knew that this woman had grown up.
Marriage, for people in their twenties, may be a new attempt, may be a good state of life, or it may be our experience.
But for thirty-year-olds, marriage is our backing, and when we kill the enemy in front, we can see the warmth when we look back.
But there are too many people's marriages that are not like this, just like Zhong Xiaoqin's marriage, which is unsatisfactory, a piece of chicken feathers, and painful.
If so, then I hope you also have the courage to stop the loss in time, you have to remember that whether marriage is a safe haven or not is up to us, this is the attitude that you should have at the age of thirty.
About life: The essence of life is that after a thousand difficulties, there are ten thousand difficulties.
What is life? The three women in "Thirty Only" tell you with practical experience that life is all about passing through difficult hurdles.
In fact, we are also like this in reality, no one's life is good, and there is an unknown chicken feather behind everyone's brilliance.
Therefore, there is no need to envy others, let alone suffer because of your own life, you must know that the future will still be good, but we need to persevere now, and you must also know that there will still be difficulties in the future, so we must persevere.
Life never spares anyone in their thirties, so we often say that the life of middle-aged people is too difficult.
However, at the age of 30, we must believe that we are strong, that life is good, and that we can be better. Then, let's continue to work hard and set off towards our own future.
About growth: The stomach is full of grievances, but once you want to say it, you can't say anything clearly.
When I was thirty years old, I suddenly realized that I was no longer a child, and I had a lot of grievances in my heart, and I wanted to say it but couldn't say it.
This kind of life, which is more realistic and bloody than film and television dramas, sometimes really makes me want to retreat, but where can we retreat at the age of thirty?
So, turn your crying to silent, stop thinking about talking, learn to rely on yourself, and make yourself strong, this is the choice we should have.
I believe that every thirty-year-old of us will become strong after being wronged, and at that time, life will naturally get better.
Remember, we didn't compromise with life, we just found a lifestyle that suited us better.
Thirty is really a very beautiful word, and it is true that we are only thirty years old.
There are still a long days ahead, although we may not have the HAPPY ENDING of the protagonist of the film and television drama, but we will definitely have our own beauty and happiness.
Come on together, work hard together, you're really good at the age of thirty.