In that ancient and mysterious Chinese culture, there are many intriguing sayings and folk customs, which are like fragments of history, piecing together the totem of our national spirit. However, in the flood of the times, some sayings seem to have faded into oblivion or been labeled as superstition. But when I heard the sentence "If husband and wife don't send a funeral, the funeral will suffer", I couldn't help but feel ripples in my heart.
On an autumn day a few years ago, the autumn wind was bleak and the leaves were scattered. My uncle died of illness, and everyone in the family was immersed in grief. My cousin, my brother-in-law, and I all went to the funeral, but to my surprise, my aunt didn't show up. At that time, she was still in good health and could have come to see her off, but why did she choose to be absent?
At that time, I didn't know much about folk culture, but I felt a little puzzled in my heart. However, at that sad moment, I did not say much, for fear of ruining the solemn and solemn atmosphere.
Time passed, and a few years later, another autumn crept in. Unfortunately, my father also left us. At that moment of grief, my sisters and I bowed down according to custom, burned paper, and participated in various rituals. However, I noticed again that my mother did not come to the funeral. I asked my sister why, and she told me lightly: "In our place, husbands and wives do not have funerals, saying that it will invite misfortune." ”
Hearing this, I couldn't help but feel a mixed emotion in my heart. I began to think about the meaning behind this saying. Husband and wife are the most intimate partners in life, they have experienced the ups and downs of life together, and they have walked through the long river of time hand in hand. When one of them dies, it is undoubtedly a huge blow to the other. The grief of losing a loved one is indescribable.
If they are allowed to go to the funeral at this time, facing the cruel reality of the death of their loved ones, I am afraid that it will only make them more grief-stricken. Excessive grief and emotional out-of-control may even trigger some unforeseen consequences. Therefore, from this point of view, the saying "if the husband and wife do not send a funeral, the funeral will suffer" is not groundless. It contains the deep insight of the ancients into human nature and emotions, as well as the reverence for life and death.
However, we also need to understand that there are two sides to everything. Although there is some truth to this saying, we should not be completely superstitious about it. In modern society, with the openness and progress of people's ideas, many traditional folk cultures are gradually fading. For the funeral ceremony, everyone can make a choice according to their actual situation and beliefs.
In my opinion, whether it is a funeral or not, the most important thing is to respect the deceased, remember the past, cherish the present, and face the future. We can express our thoughts and nostalgia for our loved ones in other ways, such as worshipping, reminiscing about the past, passing on family traditions, and so on. At the same time, we should also look at traditional folk culture with a more open and inclusive attitude, take its essence and eliminate its dross, and let it shine with new brilliance in modern society.
In short, although the saying "husband and wife do not send a funeral, the funeral will suffer" is ancient, but the deep meaning behind it is worth pondering. In modern society, we should look at it dialectically, neither completely superstitious nor completely negative. Let us respect the tradition at the same time, but also dare to innovate and break through, and write our own wonderful chapter of life together.