On a sunny afternoon, the well-known writer Ma Jiahui made a surprising statement in an interview: "If a couple shares a bed for a long time, the risk of divorce may climb to 90%. As soon as this remark came out, it immediately aroused everyone's strong interest. The host also asked curiously: "So, what is so special about sleeping in separate rooms?" Ma Jiahui smiled slightly and began to tell the story, his words revealed a profound insight and wisdom.
Ma Jiahui and his wife's marriage has gone through more than 30 years, but their way of getting along is different. The two of them each have a separate bedroom, Ma Ka-fai is at ease in the east room, and his wife is enjoying the time in the west room. When night falls, they return to their own little world, either immersed in the world of books, or focused on the joy of writing, without interfering with each other. This seemingly alienating way of life contains their unique understanding of marriage.
In Ma Jiahui's view, sleeping in separate rooms is not a manifestation of indifference and alienation, but a deeper level of care and respect. He believes that everyone has their own habits and rhythms, and sleeping in separate rooms can give each other enough private space to fly freely in their respective worlds. And when it is necessary to communicate, they communicate through modern communication tools, whether it is asking each other's living conditions, or sharing each other's feelings and feelings, it seems so natural and harmonious.
In Ma Jiahui's description, we can feel the deep emotion and tacit understanding between him and his wife. Their way of getting along with each other is both traditional and modern, maintaining their independence without losing their intimacy and warmth. They interpreted the true meaning of marriage with practical actions: mutual respect, mutual understanding, and mutual support.
However, people have different opinions on this view of Ma Jiahui. Some people agree with him, believing that sleeping in separate rooms will help preserve and sublimate the relationship between husband and wife. They believe that as they get older and the pace of life increases, differences and conflicts between couples may gradually emerge. Sleeping in separate rooms can avoid friction and conflict caused by different living habits, allowing both parties to maintain themselves and individuality in a relatively independent space. At the same time, such a lifestyle also helps to enhance the sense of mystery and freshness between couples, so that each other can cherish their time together.
However, there are also reservations about Ma's view. They believe that husbands and wives should be intimate and share the same bed, so that they can better communicate feelings and take care of each other. Sleeping in separate rooms may make couples move farther and farther apart, leading to a gradual loss of affection. In addition, they are concerned that sleeping in separate rooms may prevent couples from taking care of each other in a timely manner in an emergency, increasing potential safety risks.
I think there is some truth to these two very different points of view. After all, everyone's life experiences and values are different, so there will be different views and understandings of how couples get along. However, no matter how you choose to get along, the most important thing is that couples respect each other, understand and tolerate each other. Only a marriage built on such a foundation can withstand the test of time and the grind of life.
In my opinion, sleeping in separate rooms is not a universally applicable way to get along in marriage. For couples with different schedules and living habits, sleeping in separate rooms may be a more suitable option. In this way, the contradictions and conflicts caused by different living habits can be avoided, and both parties can maintain themselves and individuality in a relatively independent space. However, for couples who are busy during the day and have time to spend with each other at night, sharing a bed may be more reinforcing for each other. At such moments, they can share each other's joys, sorrows, and sorrows, and pour out their inner thoughts and feelings, so that the feelings continue to warm up in the exchange.
Regardless of the way you choose to get along, couples need to maintain open communication and exchanges. Only through communication can we understand each other's thoughts and needs, so as to find the most suitable way for ourselves to get along. At the same time, couples also need to support and understand each other, and give each other love and attention when they need it. Only in this way can the marriage become stronger and better in the long river of years.
In short, Ma Jiahui's view on couples sleeping in separate rooms provides us with a new perspective for thinking. Whether we agree with or disagree with his views, we should respect everyone's choices and lifestyles. The most important thing is that husband and wife should respect, understand and tolerate each other, find the most suitable way for themselves to get along, and create a happy married life together.