In love, the most important thing to avoid is to invest blindly, if what you give is not what the other person expects, the result will only backfire and even kick the other person farther. We should give in a reasonable way, recognize rationally, and insist on equality and respect for both sides.
In a relationship, the needs of men and women are different. We can't just treat each other according to our own ideas, but we need to understand and familiarize ourselves with each other before we can love in the right way. Only by establishing a solid emotional foundation will the relationship between the two be more stable. We need to pay more attention to and respect each other's needs in order to achieve true honesty and mutual understanding between two people.
The best way for a woman to love a man is not to be desperately good to him, because these actions are not what he needs.
What he needs is to experience the following three feelings.
Not only do these methods satisfy a man's emotional needs, but they also allow them to experience a long-lost sense of accomplishment, so they are the best way to attract men.
One: Give him a cult and give him a more confident feeling
Men need to be adored and respected, and if they feel like they don't have any value in front of women, then they may look elsewhere for satisfaction. This condition can lead to relationship problems and aggravate the distance between two people. Women should respect the worth and dignity of men in order to maintain a healthy relationship.
Just like Xu Huanshan in "Thirty Only", he can represent the living conditions and pressures of contemporary young people.
Because his wife Gu Jia is too strong and capable, he often feels that he is a very failure as a man. Not only is he unable to manage the company effectively, but he is also unable to accept good work assignments. In addition, he can't even make his own decisions about what he eats on a daily basis.
In this marriage, Gu Jia has been dominant for a long time. Although on the surface it looks like she is returning to the family and taking on the role of a stay-at-home wife, in reality the company's business is basically done by her.
She controls the diet and life of her husband and children, especially strictly supervising her husband's diet because he suffers from fatty liver. However, he was dissatisfied with this coercive control, which aroused his rebellious heart.
Xu Huanshan didn't seem to have any sense of existence in front of his wife, until he met Lin Youyou, and he was deeply immersed in it.
Lin Youyou is very different from his wife Gu Jia, Gu Jia always obeys him and even worships him. This made him addicted, so it eventually led to his betrayal of Gu Jia. This kind of behavior is almost destined to happen.
Men aspire to be adored and want to be recognized and affirmed by women. Praising men at the right time can help you win their love.
Two: Give him dependence, so that he has a feeling that his vanity is satisfied
Men are born with a heroism complex, and they aspire to be heroes who save the world, and even if they can't achieve this, they at least keep their loved ones safe. This protection is not just salvation in the traditional sense, but more of a feeling of dependence.
This need satisfies men's sense of vanity and makes them feel worth and indispensable.
Sometimes, women can be too aggressive, causing men to dislike them. In the face of such a woman, they will feel bleak and dull, lacking a sense of presence. If you want to get along better, women also need to consider respecting men and maintaining appropriate gentleness and flexibility. In this way, good interactions and relationships can be established.
Of course, the excellence and strength of women is not a mistake, but a quality that should be appreciated.
Showing weakness appropriately is a kind of flirtatious and emotional intelligence that can make a man more dependent on you.
Three: Give him wholehearted trust, so that he has a feeling of inner sustenance
I have a friend who everyone affectionately calls "Love Brain".
When she is with her husband, she always obeys his wishes, whether it is a house, a car or a bride price, it is arranged according to the man's requirements. At the same time, if you need to add a name or pay money, you will also act according to the man's wishes. In order to better meet the needs of her other half, she even listened to her husband, quit her previous job, and became a full-time housewife wholeheartedly.
We are all worried about her because her husband has had a lot of emotional experiences and doesn't seem to be the kind of man who is suitable for a stable life. However, over time, they became the happiest couple. Such a story is soothing.
During a casual conversation, her husband was asked why he changed his temperament and became such a good man who cares about his family, and he replied:
"The women I met before all had their own ideas and calculations, and she was the only one who believed in me wholeheartedly, trusted me, and listened to me for everything. If I don't treat her well, I'm so sorry for her trust. ”
Today's society has become more cautious about marriage and love. We no longer believe in selfless and utterly devoted love, and even marriage is more like an equal balance in business cooperation. Both sides have their own needs and bargaining chips, and they test and compromise with each other, and finally reach a balance and conclude a contract. This trend is a direct reflection of people's reluctance to take risks lightly, and their preference for rational and prudent choices. But at the same time, we should also remember that it takes effort to build and maintain relationships. In love and marriage, mutual trust, understanding, and communication are crucial.
The conditions of this marriage are perfect and the balance is high, but is there still true love?
Sometimes, it's easy to impress a man, you just need to trust him completely. However, you can't give such trust lightly, you need to be sure that he is trustworthy, and you need to know that you can afford to be betrayed. It's a process that requires long-term consideration and careful selection. Because trust can build a good relationship, but it can also ruin it.
Building trust with a man is like taking a gamble on your life, and your future will be a bargaining chip. Men may be moved by your trust, but they can also use that trust to hurt you. Building trust with a man requires careful consideration, and the pros and cons must be weighed properly before you can plunge into it as much as you want.
Love is more than simply being attracted to each other. For men, they crave more alternatives and options. What they want is not just love, but more psychological satisfaction. This is a complex and diverse process that needs to be approached with caution. While pursuing love, men are also pursuing their own growth and satisfaction, which is where their humanity lies.
If you want to win a man's heart, it is not enough to just satisfy love in love. Such a creed is not something that can be mastered overnight, it takes us a lifetime to learn.