In love, there is no winner or loser, but there must be strength and weakness.
Many women often lose themselves and are willing to fall into love with themselves. But lowering one's posture without a bottom line will not win the other party's sincerity, but will make oneself appear cheaper. Therefore, we should cherish ourselves, maintain self-esteem, and not lose ourselves easily in love. In this way, you can earn real respect and love.
Really good women don't blindly please others, on the contrary, they will firmly maintain themselves. If Kiki could have understood this sooner, she would not have become so passive in love.
Kiki is a colleague of mine, and she and her boyfriend Yao Bin have been in a relationship for two years. She has a relatively introverted personality, and when she first met Yao Bin, she had no ideas at all. However, as time goes on, they get to know each other, and gradually love sprouts between the two.
She didn't grow up in a good environment, because her father was a big drinker, and when he got drunk, he started going crazy, which led to chaos in the family. She has very few happy experiences until she meets her boyfriend.
Yao Bin spent half a year pursuing Qiqi. When she needed warmth the most, he gave her care and love, bringing her warmth and hope.
She felt the longing love and security around her boyfriend, so she fell into it completely.
A year later, her boyfriend's attitude gradually changed, and every time she quarreled, Qiqi always had to take the initiative to find a solution, even if Yao Bin did something wrong, she still had to apologize and compromise. This state made her feel very uncomfortable.
When getting along, boyfriends always act hot and cold, and once there is a quarrel, they will cut off contact.
The friends around her saw her attachment to her feelings and couldn't help but remind her not to let herself lose her dignity. Repeatedly apologizing will only make her more humble and looked down upon. She needs to increase her self-confidence and learn to love herself in order to face love better.
Kiki is anxious and worried about losing her boyfriend, so she tries to redeem the lost feelings, but she can't control her emotions and has to put down her dignity to intercede. However, this did not touch her boyfriend's heart, and she eventually lost this love. This story teaches us that sometimes we need to be calm and rational in order to solve relationship problems.
When it comes to heterosexual relationships, men don't contact you, which is actually testing your qualities. A truly intelligent woman does not underestimate herself, but acts differently. Hopefully you can do the same.
One: Stay sane and calm, and don't humble and pander
Suna and Kiki have very different personalities, the former does not blindly cater to her boyfriend, but has the ability to think independently.
Suna's boyfriend has a strong personality, and he always tries to control her behavior during their relationship. Whenever Suna needs to make a decision, he always hopes that she will follow his arrangement. This attitude may make Suna feel uncomfortable.
Whether in work or life, Suna has always had her own opinions. She is willing to compromise for love, but she still maintains an independent personality and does not want to be too swayed by her boyfriend. This insistence makes her both comfortable and free, showing her strong personal charm.
The conflict between the two deepened, and her boyfriend began to deliberately not contact Suna, no matter how many times she called, her boyfriend would not answer. This caused the relationship between the two to become even more strained.
If Suna is a timid girl, she may have to compromise for fear of losing the other person. However, Suna did not give up her principles and tried to stay calm and not pander easily. This attitude is not only worthy of our appreciation, but also shows her excellent character and tenacity.
Suna's boyfriend hasn't reached out to her for two weeks, but she hasn't felt sad or out of control because of it. Instead, she decides to ignore his attitude and focus on her own business. This calm attitude is commendable.
After work, she would have dinner with her colleagues and visit the mall. On weekends, I like to watch movies with my girlfriends.
When the other party checked Suna's circle of friends and found that she lived a very full and rich life every day, but never took the initiative to contact him, he finally couldn't help it and could only contact Suna on his own.
Suna didn't rely on her boyfriend for all her happiness, so she was able to manage her feelings sensibly. Often, men can't resist tall women because the harder they are to control, the more attracted they become. Suna's calmness and sanity not only make her more attractive, but she is also more likely to be favored by her boyfriend.
Two: Always live your own life, love and hate at will
We will meet many people in this life, some people can only pass by us, and only those who truly love us will accompany us through life. So, if the man you love doesn't contact you, don't care too much about whether he will leave or not. Because only the person who is destined to spend your life with you will be heart-to-heart with you and deeply in love. Let's keep an open mind, believe in fate, and wait for the one who truly belongs to us.
Women with good taste are able to face each other's feelings gracefully without forcing each other to love them.
The sand that can't be held can only be let go with the wind. If you can't keep the people, no matter how hard you try to grasp them, it will not help. When you can afford to take it and put it down, you can have real happiness
When a man doesn't contact you, it's actually testing your character. Hopefully, all women will love intelligently and maintain an open and noble quality.
Don't worry too much about losing, and realize your own worth. If you and your partner have ever been genuinely in love, no matter how cold he is now acting, you need to remind yourself to stay calm.
In order to manage the relationship with each other, it is necessary to understand what he thinks at this time, so that he can grasp the initiative.
I hope that in the future, we can freely love each other and enjoy the satisfaction of being happy with each other. May this feeling be relaxed and pleasant, so that we can happily welcome the future.